My take on ReligionI'm from Jamaica which is a country where many people have died for being homosexual. This is also a country where nothing is open on a Sunday because everyone is supposed to go to church. You want some bread on a Sunday? Forget about it. Anyway, I moved to the U.S. almost 5 years ago and I came out to my mother this January and a couple of weeks later after arguing endlessly about it she told me I was going to hell in the middle of a church service. I realized at that point she was never going to change her opinion about me or about anybody else like me. I cried silently beside her for the rest of the service. I have never felt so vulnerable in a place where I thought I would be the most safe. I haven't been to church since to say the least. I thought about changing religions but it doesn't sit with me well that I can change my religion to my liking. I do still believe in God and I've been much more open to other beliefs since my detachment of the christian faith because I realized that, just like everything else in life, there are a lot of gray areas. When I think about the bible I think, "God did not write this." So how can I believe words according to man? And even if those words are God's words, there can be so many interpretations for any given verse, how am I to decide which one is right? And if I can't decide, who can I trust to believe? I made the decision to steer away from those beliefs and try to live life the way I think is right. I CANNOT be worried about what is going to happen in a next life and miss out on now. Yes, there might be heaven and hell and all the things that we've HEARD about when we die and when the Lord "saves us" but there's a slight chance that that there might not be any fanfare at all. "To everything that has a beginning there must be an end". After having that grated in my mind how can I just accept eternity? To me eternity is something that happens only in fairy tales and we all know that fairy tales are nothing like real life. I know I might be wrong, but if I live my life and be the best person that I can be, without out judging and hurting others in the process, then I should have nothing to worry about. If there is the slight chance that nothing happens after we die, would you live your life differently? I can't worry about a life that may not exist. My point is that you should live your life as if it's your last. After all, this is all we know. I'm not an atheist. I'm not saying this to justify my sins. My point is that I was brought up to believe that I was condemned because I wanted to kiss girls instead of boys. Thankfully, I don't believe that anymore, and I'm a better person for it. The bottom line that stands across all religions is that God loves us all unconditionally. When I love someone and I see that they're happy it makes me happy. When I'm happy I don't judge people. I don't want to commit murder. I don't want to steal or break any of the other ten commandments for that matter(Apart from the whole sabbath thing but even Jesus broke THAT one). In fact, I try to spread my happiness. Isn't that what life is all about? We can't all have fame, we can't all be rich, we can't all have everything that we want but we can all love and, in the words of The Beatles, all you need is love, right? I don't commit to a certain religion because it confines me into a little box. A box defined by MAN to gain power( Do you know how many NEW religions we have now? Where did they come from?!). And after coming out of my stuffy old closet I'm damn sure not going to be stuffed in a box. But then again, maybe love is my religion. Submitted by Joelle (13 posts) on May 7, 2008 - 9:35pm. |
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My (short) take...
Not religious, still happy!
"People who believe in God are happier than those who don't" --- WHAT?!
I'm sorry but that quote is so wrong. I don't believe in God or anything spiritual for that matter in any way (i'm very scientific), but I still love all my friends and family, and i'm an extremely happy, confident and optimistic person. I don't need a God to tell me that life is good - I know this myself.
I have absolutely nothing against people believing in God, and if it gives you confidence, makes you happier or lets you be yourself, then by all means.
But I think it's very wrong to automatically assume that if you don't believe in God you're less happy than someone who does.
with you on this one...
okay okay... I take it back
I should say short and simplified take on religion. I didn't want to say atheists are not a happy bunch of people. I wanted to say that if you are religious, that it makes you happy - or maybe even happy is too big a word - that it is comforting to think/feel you are loved and accepted. And that if you are religious other people shouldn't make you feel like you don't deserve to feel that way. That's pretty much it. And it was meant more like the answer to the person writing the post than as a general statement.
And congratulation on all your confidence and happiness. And by all means feel free to not to believe in God now or ever. And also for the record I don't have anything against other religions, I mentioned Christians, because Joelle did.
And also in my defense I wrote the first post in the morning and maybe the lack of caffeine is to blame I didn't choose my words more carefully.
In any further threads I will try to restrain myself from commenting the religion, but I can not promise that if anybody posts anything about my very favorite Oolon Colluphid's Well That About Wraps It Up For God. ;)
Long response...
I just came across this thread and found it interesting. Religion is such a hot button issue for many; it’s easy to offend people without meaning to. I usually don’t get involved in discussions about it, unless it’s with someone I know well, and I know will be respectful back to me.
In many of my psychology and sociology courses we learned about happiness studies done on large samples of populations. The results showed that ON AVERAGE, people who believed in any religion where happier than people who didn’t. It didn’t matter whether the religion had no god, one god or many gods; it was the spiritual belief that made people happier.
The studies also found that married men where happier on average than single men, and that people without children living at home were happier on average than people with children at home (that one surprised me).
That doesn’t mean that there aren’t atheists, single men or people with young children that aren’t incredibly happy, or religious people, married men, or childless people that aren’t unhappy. The results were the averages for the population as a whole.
TO JOELLE: I loved what you said about the Bible being written by man (not God), and how many different ways there are to interpret anything. That’s something I have always believed myself. I am Christian, and have had no trouble personally with my religion and my sexuality, but I have not found a church I am happy with. I’m still looking.
I am sorry for the way your mother treated you. No one deserves that. You are right; she may never change her opinions. If that happens, that is a loss to you (and her), but it is more important that you are happy with yourself. Do not let other people tell you that you’re not worthy of anything because of who you are. I hope you find some place you feel safe again, wherever it might be.
“When I love someone and I see that they're happy it makes me happy. When I'm happy I don't judge people.”
Nice words. Hopefully one day soon everyone else will feel the same way. So many issues would be resolved if people stopped judging each other.
I disagree
I'm not religious and I'm fine with that. Your comments just bother me. Can't we all just accept that some people believe in a god and some don't and both can be satisfied with that. Also, you didn't mention people who believe in a Goddess or those who are Buddhists,etc. Not all religions have a god in them
This isn't an easy subject.
This isn't an easy subject. How can you tell a person what way to live their life, or tell them there is only one right way to do it? I think it's different for everyone - like everything else in life.
I have had some experience with different religiions (all bad) and none of it to do with being gay, so maybe i'm not the best person to give advice on this matter. But my advice to you is, believe in yourself. You already have a great attitude about spreading happiness and love, and in the end yes - this life may be all we have. So I ask - would you rather spend your days being happy in yourself, a happy, loving person who wishes no harm on others? Or worry endlessly that God hates you because of who you love?
Let's face it - there's enough hate out there without us hating ourselves, too.
Religion
I agree
I whole-heartedly agree.
Sadly, I'm just not as articulate as you lol.
And to quote a little Angela here -
Booth: God does not make mistakes
Angela: I don't know - putting testicles on the outside doesn't seem like such a good idea.
A little light-hearted, yes. But let's have some perspective, people.
Ahh! Religion!
you know, either way, no matter what religion you're looking at, love or peace is the selling point. it doesn't matter if you're talking about christains or jews, hindus or buddhists, it's irrelevant (satanists aside, obviously). Isn't that where we all come from anyway, ideally? from parents who love eachother, at least at the moment of conception. obviously there are worst-case scenarios, like children of rape or broken homes, or in my case, a total fucking mistake, lol, but in the end it balances out, there are as many loving families as dysfunctional. but the root of them all, the thing that motivates us most, is love. isn't that why being gay is such a big deal to us? because love and acceptance are important, being loved cycles back into love of self, it makes it easier to look past our own flaws and move on productively. how you label where you stand shouldn't be the issue, just like who you prefer to kiss shouldn't be brought into question. people start missing the point after so long. when you're a kid, you dont question that there's some kind of undertow looking out for you and offering you peace, because love is so natural to you then, you're not mislead by opinions about the politics or anything beyond "be nice, jesus LOVES you, obey." if that love we were born with was nurtured instead of corrupted then eventually there would be no children of rape, there would be no children neglected or abused or feeling not good enough for the one thing that everybody is able to give freely and generously, but they don't because of their inner egocentric demons. We would be capable of creating for ourselves the heaven that christains spend so much time uninviting people to. I think that jesus was a wise man, many of the things he had to say were valid, and many of the things he did are within our reach, but we're so consumed with trying to justify our faiths that we're not putting them into practice.
Just my opinion.
I really enjoyed reading..
I honestly enjoyed reading the comments. I find it fascinating how intensely people react to the topic of faith/religion/spirituality and how when in discussion the parties involved must be careful in word choice.
When it comes down to it, spirituality, religion, faith whatever is incredibly personal and is a relationship between you and whatever higher power you recognise. I also want to make sure that when someone reads my comment they understand that my definition of religion and spirituality are different. Religion are spiritual practices or rituals performed in a community. Spirituality is the personal relationship or expression of belief in a higher power.
Personally, I'm Presbyterian and i've always been relatively happy and content. However when I became more spiritual and took true ownership of my faith and my belief I've enjoyed a peace in my life i've thus far not experienced. To some that may sound a bit like mumbo jumbo, and to others it may be broken down piece by piece psychologically. But for me, no matter how you explain what I experience daily, it doesn't make it any less real or lacking in substance.
Moving on, the problem I see in alot of Presbyterian and Baptist churches (I can't speak for other denominations) is the focus being less on spirituality and a person's personal relationship with Jesus Christ and more about the practices of their faith or as I like to call it the law of the Christian faith.
And here is where I insert my own Bible based argument : The new testament talks alot about being freed from the law ( speaking about the law of moses in the old testament) and pushes a person to grow in the spirit of faith and Jesus Christ, which is a spirit of love, acceptance, and non-judgment. In the law ( and here I will use the definition loosely to refer to any religious set of rules) there is a spirit of judgement, of non acceptance, of classes of good and evil do-ers, and accusation. I find it interesting how in books of the new testament where the majority of Christian faith comes out of, this idea of following rules versus living spiritually in Jesus Christ is really wrestled with. I'd say nearly all of the books written by Paul at least point toward this in some manner, and even today 2 thousand years later Christians still struggle with old rules of the church vs personal growth in the faith of Jesus Christ. Above all the church is suppose to be a hospital for people in their faith not a museum for saints. Just my 2 cents.
When you die thats it Jack
I think people turn to religion because they wanna feel a sense of belonging and they are scared of death. As humans we need to feel like we belong somewhere, someplace in society. And pretty much every religion operates to make you feel that sense of belonging. And I strongly believe that this is where Fanaticism and Fundamentalists feelings stem from. The church sells you everlasting happiness and mansions in the afterlife just so you can show them HOW MUCH your willing to pay to have that guaranteed ticket to the "pearly gates". They cash in on your fear and desperation. And this is because folks will pay pretty much anything to get that ticket. Lets face it people are afraid of death and the salesmen of religion are using this fear to manipulate you into turning over ten percent of your hard earned dollars for a golden ticket to see the tooth fairy and santa claus.
Finally, to my GOD MAKERS "Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason, than that of blind-folded fear." Thomas Jefferson.
First of I would like to
First of I would like to say that God loves us ALL and that you're NOT going to hell. If you're a christian- meaning you accept Jesus' gift of life on the cross - you are good to go... i hate using the word "christian" because a majority of its followers are corrupt an by majority i do mean about 70-80 %. I also hate reffering to religions in general because they just cause problems. They are just different ways people worship God. all that matters is YOUR relationship with Him and you accepting His sacrifice!
you should visit this site and read this book ( not really a book but a short pamphlet). Its free for the first one you order and will arrive within a week. It has every verse condeming homosexuality and its TRUE meaning! I go to a baptist university (ya thats right, Baptist! lol i know what youre thinking) and I aced my old and new testament courses and noticed that ppl going against homosexuality is based on tradition and could be on of the biggest cover ups in the bible.. i not saying that those verses were lies ( then the whole bible would be wrong) but misinterpreted from the hebrew bible. you hae to remember that those laws were made for a certain group of people in a certain time period and that those laws were abolished when jesus died. people today simply choose to ignore that cause the personally dont like homosexuals, and they get away with it because no one really takes the time to STUDY the scripture!
so dont give up on Jesus, remember people were against him at one time...his own people!
but definetly check out that book , its free so you have nothing to lose... and there isn't anything on the package saying it has to do anything with homosexuality so you don't have to worry about your parents checking the mail and having a fit! ha ha
http://www.truthsetsfree.net/order.htm here is the site!
peace and grace- clark