lets see some of mines are

Im coming out, ha ha lol

beautiful (Xtina Aguilera)

Everytime we touch(cascada)

What hurts the most (rascal flatts)

Hate that I love you (rihanna and some guy) (even though I don;t hate that I love her lol that was just an awesome song well in my own personal opinion. lol ;)

I read that and the only thing that poped in my head was

I can see qureey now the rain is gone. I see the hedaros in my way!!!! I can see qureey now the rain is gone. I be gay .....(gay) ....gay ( gay) gay in the rain.....

In my head that would be really funny. ;)

Im going to get shot for that.

Here are a couple, anyway.

Constant Craving- KD Lang (go figure...)

Free your mind- En Vogue

Poison- Bell Biv DeVoe

Pretty much anything by Paula Abdul (Don't ask)

The Sign- Ace of Base

Sometimes love just ain't enough- Patty Smyth and Don Henley (Why the straight duet, I wonder)

and Damn, I wish I was your Lover. by Sophie B. Hawkins.

Never Was a Cornflake Girl - Tori Amos

Don't Bring Me Down - Sia

Rome Wasn't Built in a Day - Morcheeba

Losing my Religion - REM

Funky Town - Lipss Inc. (Just because it's a feel good track. Hehe.)

And a lot of folk stuff - Ellis, anyone? :)

When I started seeing my first girlfriend, she introduced me to Bikini Kill, Sleater-Kinney, and a ton of other great girl bands.  This was when I was 14, in 1997, Dig Me Out had just been released, and so that album will always make me think of those times.  I didn't have a traumatic self-realization with being gay, it just sort of made sense.  I remember not being worried or afraid at all.  (What can I say.  I was young and naive.)

I didn't really come out and start enjoying myself and dating until I went off to college.  I finally got ladyfriends and other gay friends, and the song "Swing Low" by The Gossip will always make me think of those days.

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Gloria - Patti Smith (my punk queen)

I Want Candy - BowWowWow (had a girlfriend named Candy)

Never Say Never - Romeo Void ("I might like you better if we slept together...")

I Want Your Hands on Me - Sinead O'Connor (before her homophobia)

Because I Told You So - Jonatha Brooke (le pant, le pant...)

Absolute Torch n' Twang - k.d..lang (the whole album - it's k.d, 'nuff said) 

incurablygay for a great topic! I'm one big fat lesbian cliche - mine was the Indigo Girls' Closer to Fine. and I didn't even know who they were or that it was this big lesbian anthem at the time. I first heard it at the little break in between Chloe Sevigny's and Ellen's bits in If These Walls Could Talk 2, and I always felt so lesbiany everytime I heard it.

For me it's more lesbian singers/bands, though, more than songs. I was obsessed with the Butchies for a while, simply because they were three butch(i)es and I couldn't believe that such a band could exist. And yes, kd lang of course. Big Boned Gal made me feel happy all the time, then I read kd's sleeve notes for Reintarnation and realised that THAT was a gigantic lesbian anthem too.

Songs I listened to at the beginning of my gayness:

No Doubt's 'Tragic Kingdom' - I was 14. I wanted to BE Gwen Stefani. I started wearin Dickies and wifebears. lol

The entire Alicia Keys album 'Songs in A Minor'. I remember 2001 being in 12th grade and reading the online rumors that she was gay. Even back then. Give up the ghost, boo.

Garbage "Version 2.0" namely 'Special' - because i NOTICED Shirley Manson.

"Hey Mister" - Custom (Hey Mister..I really like your daughter..i want to eat her like ice cream, maybe dip her in chocolate..) My friend did that in the first drag show I ever went to.

"Say Yes" - Floetry. Somehow i always imagined loving a girl down to that song, not a guy.

"Come Sail Away" - Styx. They played that on the ep of Freaks and Geeks where Sam finally asked the cute girl to dance...right when the song got fast. Also, the girl I had a thing for burned me a copy of Styx Greatest Hits, and then we dated, and then we ended up going to see Styx because they came to our city lol. And then we had wild monkey sex.

"These Days" - Rascal Flatts - because my neighbor played that song all the time Freshman year. And I was just getting really gay then. lol

There's probably more. But that's a start. lol

I got a dick like a mule...with a big dick.

like almost everyone else on this thread, 'constant craving' by k.d. lang. also:

'i believe in a thing called love' by the darkness

a lot of alix olson, especially 'unsteady things'

'put it out for good' by amy ray

'come to my window' melissa etheridge

'a little respect' and 'chains of love' by erasure

'falling for the first time' by barenaked ladies 

'lay my head down' by the indigo girls

'burning love', the lilo and stitch version

'i want you' by savage garden 

'when it don't come easy' by patty griffin

'rainbows in the dark' and 'bad education' by tilly and the wall 

and quite a few more. ^.^ 

"Blood Pigs"-Otep (the lead singer is an angry emtionally damaged lesbian, I can relate!)

"Hero"- Mariah Carey

"A little Respect" and "CHAINS OF LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!" Erasure

"Obession"-Human League

"Freedom 91"-George Micheal(The supermodels also helped the process!)

And more to come later...

Some repeats from other posters...

A Little Respect- Erasure (I loved it on DEBS)

E verytime We Touch- Cascada (my cousin introduced me to it, I now have two versions of the song on my iPod)

Crimson and Clover (I loved it from Monster, but Iremember it from being younger also; my mom says she always thinks of this one guy she dated when she hears it, despite being happily married to my dad for 26 years!)

All The Things She Said- TatU (I know, I know... I can't help it!)

Weak In The Knees- Serena Ryder (I think of my most recent straight-girl crush whenever I hear it)

All I Can Do- Chantal Kreviazuk

True Colours- Cindi Lauper (I love watching gay pride clips with this song on YouTube!)

And whenever I was feeling depressed, I listened to Evanescence. A lot!

constant craving of course, but also..

standing in the way of control- gossip (beth dittos utter amazingness ensured this one was in here)

so jealous- tegan and sara (reminds me of a rather obsessive girlcrush i once harboured)

most songs from rent

I'm coming out- diana ross

tune up- ravers fantasy (i spent an entire german exchange listening to this song and lusting after a hot czech girl)

Not going to get us- tatu (see last explanation!)

fuck the pain away- peaches (appealed to my inner alterego riotgrrrl)

and so many more that have escaped my mind for now