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even if you have never kissed or dated or had sex with anyone else.  Because your sexuality is not about if you are or have been in a relationship...but an important aspect of who you are.  And mind you, there are different degrees of sexuality...so you could have more of an attraction to women then to men, or visa versa.

It is kind of tricky and you might feel like you need to be in some sort of relationship with someone else to get some sort of feedback about all of this...but that person's sexuality could be very different from yours...so that kind of feedback might not be of much help.

What is good is that you are open to the possibility of exactly what your sexuality is...no matter what this part of you turns out to be.

What I would suggest...if you are open to doing it...is for you to find a teen lgbt group in your area where maybe you can find other like-minded not-quite-sure and questioning teens plus adult advisors who might be able to give you something a little more concrete in person.

And don't be too hard on yourself to expect to know by now or to think you are practically out of your teens so you should know by now.  Everyone is different and we all come to our full understanding and acceptance of our own sexualities at different times in our lives.  So there is no right or wrong answer here.

I wish you much luck.  :) 

Yo. I'm 22 now and STILL haven't been kissed. I haven't even so much as held hands with someone. I too struggled with the "should I even call myself gay if I haven't done anything with ANYONE?" but then I remembered "hell, people identify themselves as straight without doing anything so wtf?"
I just say don't rush into something just so you can have a "first". Make it worth while. The person you first kiss/other will have something special you can't give to anyone else. I totally know what you're feeling though. Just know that even people OLDER than you (aka me...) are in the same situation.

or that's what I want to think, LOL. No, seriously, i'm 19 years old too and haven't done anything yet, never kissed and still doubting about my sexuality, which deeply it's not about having doubts but having trouble with labels, and the fact that one day I can be super gay and super proud and the next, the most closetd person in the world... so, that's another issue.

As I was saying, take your time, if you are sure about who you are, then it should be easier to come out. I haven't kissed neither had a relationship and I'm sure I'm not straight... I think these things are not about the others but about yourself and your feelings.

Take care,

 Don't rush it babes, ur time will come ... yummm KE RICO!

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I'll put in my 2 cents. Don't do ANYTHING until you're ready to do it. Don't let society pressure you into thinking you're slow in some areas, because truthfully we all develop at different rates and you have to listen to what's right for you, not look around you and compare yourself to everyone else.

I'll admit, I wasn't necessarily a late bloomer. I was kissing boys in kindergarden and making out with them a few years later, haha. However, I did wait til 19 to lose my virginity, and it was with a guy I'd been with forever and it was the right time and place. That was the same year I kissed a girl for the first time, and never slept with one (though I had my opportunities) until I was 25. I waited until the right time, place, and person. And, I have no regrets as a result.

Just because you've never done sexual things with men or women doesn't mean that you're not bi. If you could see yourself falling for a man or woman, there's a good chance that you are bisexual, and that's a beautiful thing! Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Being able to see beauty and pleasure in everything is a fantastic gift not to be wasted.

My biggest pieces of advice are: Be true to yourself, and don't do anything until you're fully ready.