I realize this may seem like kind of a strange topic to people here, but let me explain. I joined this site when one of my close friends came out to me and together we explored the world of lesbian/bi entertainment, watching numerous movies and downloading TV shows, that featured lesbian/bi women, from all over the world. Before I joined here I identified as being straight, but now i'm not sure. I guess you could say i am bicurious, but I'd like to remain label less for the time being. All I know is that I totally love this site, all the forum topics, all the blogs, the vlogs, all the AE members and everything else about it.

It has totally opened the way I see the world and females in it. Don't get me wrong I was always supportive of gay rights, always outspoken about homophobic/heterosexist comments uttered by ignorant people, and I've always thought its a great injustice and criminal that same sex marriage legislation hasn't passed into law in the US and in many countries around the world. But after visiting this site i started ranking every person i met by their level of gay friendliness, or if a recent blog post had been made on the top 10 female geeks, action heroes etc. whether they would fit into those categories. Or whether their comments would place them in the "What are the stupidest questions asked by straight people.." thread.

To cut a long story short my friend, whom i discussed all this with, has moved really far away and my few other friends who are lesbian and bisexual women are not that interested in entertainment related news. Their interests are more politically related and my conversations with them revolve around political issues or organizing events to raise awareness and visibility about lesbian/gay issues. And discussions with straight people, unaware of the various lesbian movies out there, often results in blank looks. On top of that our gay-straight alliance doesn't really talk about entertainment related issues that i'm interested in and I've been looking to find lesbian/bi women clubs that would be looking at lesbian/bi women representation in movies, Tv shows etc but I really haven't had much luck.

So I was wondering if anyone else had found real life examples of clubs/groups that look at these issues. If you've joined any movie/reading groups that critically look at the representation of lesbian/bi women. If there aren't many out there maybe I could start one. It just feels kind of empty not having someone to discuss all this with in real life and I miss my friend. I've read about the various horror stories that some people here have had with those confused or label less about their sexuality, so I must stress I have no ulterior motives in posting this or starting such a group. I just feel like representation of lesbians/bi women in the media is just as important as fighting homophobia in its other forms, yet most gay straight alliances or lesbian/bi women groups don't address this.

Plus, I know there's bit of a debate going on about whether non lesbian/bi posters, i'm assuming that includes the label-less, be allowed here or not...so I'd just like to say i really enjoy reading and browsing through afterellen, and of course posting comments. And in the hopefully unlikely event that I be required to leave I need a plan B. And I know its going to be tough to find another site of the same standard as AE. So just thought I should find out if there are any real life examples of places where I could meet people with the same entertainment related interests as me.

Sorry about my long and rambling post. I hope I kind of made sense. I don't even know if i've posted this in the right place..but its about making friendships, so it seemed like it would fit.