Easier rejection: Straight or Gay girls?

rejection is equally as hard, in my opinion. sure it'll take time to get over it if a straight girl's the one rejecting you, but it's all in how you deal with it that makes the difference. it's a part of life everyone (straight, gay, or bi) goes through, and the less you're bothered by it, the better.

From all the posts that I've read so far, it seems like the straight girls are hard to figure out.  For some it becomes a mind game.  Will she change for me?  To even hit on a straight girl it takes guts first of all, then you have to rack your brain and emotions to even want to cross that line.  And when you get rejected its like training all summer to win and to go home empty handed.  With a gay girl then its like, ehh maybe I'm not her type.  But atleast you don't take the risk of being discriminated for your sexual orientation.  That would be a blow to your self confidence.  I'm not out but I've known straight girls that have said to me about their lesbian friends "I don't care if is she's gay, as long as she doesn't try to hit on me."  I've actually heard that numerous times. 

i agree with Tranl30.

 

When a straight girl rejects you it's because she dosen't like girls.

When a gay girl rejects you it's because she dosen't like you.

'Nuff said.

The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.

I haven't had a striaght girl reject me yet, so i'll say lesbians.

It's not anyone's fault when there's a sexual orientation conflict.  It's no different than if someone is already spoken for. Thus, it's not rejection per se, and you could be friends with that person and you never know what can happen later on; lots of straight girls 'hook up' with women all the time.  Just don't be a defeatist.  It's okay to presume the woman is gay as long as you realize you could be wrong.  I fell for a woman and thought she could be gay and because she was my supervisor and I was afraid to know the answer, I held back and when it came time to get to know her, it fell apart.  If you want to know if the woman you're crushing on or lusting for is into girls, always ask but be tactful.  I was afraid of being fired or losing her respect and it ended up costing me a friendship with her.

Rejection is when the person consciously and deliberately refuses to socialize with you, usually for no legitimate reason.  For you gay and bi gals, if she's straight, she can't date you.  If she's into chicks too and shoots you down, it's because she won't date you  The only time anyone deserves rejection is when they say and do sleazy things or their appearance doesn't resonate with excellent character.  Rejection contradicts the "Carpe Diem" mantra. 

That's why I admire bisexual women and lesbians: proactive (and 'fairly' open minded) women.  Take advantage of life when it's right there in front of you.  Don't get me wrong.  Don't date dilapidated people or people of bad character, but the rule of thumb about those things is that if you let your inner politics and insecurities go, your intuition and logical compass shouldn't lead you astray.  Try to control who you want to be with and you will find you've tried too hard and pushed someone good away in favor of someone who fits your agenda, but didn't live up to your hype.  Don't be too in awe of anyone. 

 

 

 

To JJP: I'm sorry I hurt you.  Please forgive me so our wounds will heal.  God is gracious.

i usually fall for straight girls n got use to their rejection but when i liked a gay girland i got rejected...man i felt hurt for few days...it was like why...but it doesnt matter anymore!

i'd say it sucks more being rejected by a gay girl. especially since i'm pretty spectacular, so i assume it's a blessing to be hit on by me.

ok i'm lying. last girl i hit on was throuh a text message so that if she got confused i could just act like i sent it to the wrong person. THAT'S GAME! lol

 

I got a dick like a mule...with a big dick.

I'd have to say the easier rejection from me is from a gay girl because if i got rejected by a straight girl i would be embarrassed and kinda dumb that i asked out a straight girl even if i didnt get any signs or hints that she might me gay.

Rejection hurts any way you slice it but trying for an encounter/date/whatever with a straight woman is asking for Rejection.

A few times straight women have come on to me or at least they were being friendly. If I reciprocated they went back to the 'I like men' 'I'm straight' scenario. Now I just laugh these flirtations off. One wanted to have sex just to see what it was like. Sorry, I'm not your experiment.

If I'm rejected by a gay woman, there's some kind of reason for it; she's not attracted to me, she's unavailable, I'm not her type, and so on.