Hey I'm 17 and yes I agree with the person above me. You can never be too young to be gay, and you can never be too young to be in a committed relationship.

But anyways, dont worry about it. People change all the time. It's great that you are in a wonderful relationship with someone, and you gotta cherish that :)

 Good luck!

there is no suck thing as too young or too old to know when ur in love or to know what u like..i agree with them..and its nice to see there is love out there!!!

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If you know who you are good for you! I´m almost 20 and still don´t know for sure whether I´m bi or les. I guess that is my way of saying that age isn´t a factor in this, everyone is different and no one can tell you it is a "phase" or something like that.

As for your parents and the double standard thing, I know it sucks but you are being really brave and I applaude you for standing up for what you believe/feel.

Hang in there it is going to sink in eventually!!

"being straight isn't normal it's just more common!"

First off I just want to say. I loved this. So true.

Ah its great to vent sometimes lol. I agree with all above me. Your not too young to know your gay. Your lucky to have figured it out so young.
As for your family and others accepting the idea and not being hipocritical about it. It takes time unfortunately.
But the double standards we have to face is total bull shit!

I don't think that the age matter

my mom always said "you are too young;you can't know if your gay"

but I think  different  a mean they don't know who we feel and what we like

for example my parents they just want me to  change but what they dosen't understand is that this is not a Disease

..::gabii'garza::..

hey baby i totally understand.  my mother found out i was gay when she read my diary in i think 9th grade. she was yelling at me saying things like "how do you know you're gay" or "are you having sex?"  "you don't really know, you are not gay."

she was thought that if i hadn't had sex with a boy then i wouldnt know i am straight and thats why i thought i was gay. she thinks i cant know my own feelings and that i am ruining her life.  sex and sexuality are completely different...sort of ;)  but yeah i had to let it out lol. 

i HATE when people affiliate my sexuality with not finding the right man or being abused as a child.  i was born and like girls, why is that so hard to understand? it shouldnt be.  the only disease this country has is closed minds and ignorance.

i have said my peace. later emms :)

xox jes

i don't think you're too young to know who you are and how to love. in the end that's all that matters anyways. Live your life that was given to you in a way you see fit. In my case, my parents are gay [two moms] and since they've travelled the same road i'm travelling right now, made me second guess my sexuallity. i also got that whole line of "you're too young" and "you don't don't what you are doing" and "don't follow what we did, there's a better life out there for you". Well, turns out, it's all bullshit and that im really gay and love girls. they made be feel so insecure about myself and what i really wanted in life. {really messed me up}. so, recently i just started re-inventing myself again.. i finally got the courage to tell them that they were wrong all along. i wasn't even bi.. i always have fantazies about girls and whenever i see a really attracted girl i always have to pretend not to like them. in anycase, if you feel stongly about you sexuallity go for it.. and don't let the rest of the people tell you what to do =D it's your life and there's no crime in loving someone...

have you even seen that movie "love actually"?

Short answer: No, I don't think you're too young to know you're a lesbian but then I'm the same age, so...

Long answer: I was talking about this with a friend the other day. I think our generation tends to know more about themselves in a lot of ways because of things like the internet that allow us to easily, quickly, and most importantly ANONYMOUSLY get information and advice. So while for some people it is unimaginable that someone who is still a teenager can be so sure they are gay, it makes perfect sense for us.

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Obsessive? Me? Never!

marynan

Hey, I am 38 and I first came out at 15. My Dad tried hard to convince me that it was "just a phase" and that everybody goes through a "questioning" phase. Well, I tried hard to believe him and honor his beliefs. How did it affect me? Well, I went through years of feeling a lot of shame and guilt, trying desperately to fit in as a straight girl, dating boys. I even married one at 27. But guess what? I AM GAY! Sweet girl, if you know, you know. Speaking wisdom, be who you are. I tell you to absolute truth...it is much easier to start out with your truth than to try to unravel a huge lie down the road. And the heartache factor is much harder on everyone, including yourself, the older you are. I have worked with many teens in the school system, and the burden that I see gay kids or even curious/searching kids carry, day after day, is heartbreaking. The fear they face of rejection and ridicule is overwhelming. I have one beautiful 18 year old senior that is very close to me. She is very gay, but hasn't been able to come out even to herself yet. She questions my sexuality often, but hasn't fully even told me her own yet. She knows I am a lesbian, and does trust me. I want her to come out to me and be strong enough to be who she is and avoid so much shame that comes with denying it. Good luck to you! You sound like a great girl!

My mother forced me out of the closet when I was fifteen. Granted, it was followed by the asinine "You're confused," and everyone's favorite question, "Do you wish you had been born a boy?" After assuring her that no, I do not want a sex change, I had to deal with the "It's a phase," scenario. When did you come out? If it was recently (within the past year or so) then I say wait it out. They need time to adjust. Everything you're saying, with the people not being allowed to stay over happened to me, too. Eventually, though, it sets in, and they realize it's not a phase.

That's what happened with me, anyway. I am now twenty, and while my father still doesn't discuss it, my mother and I are on good terms. And my sister... well, my sister was always supportive.

x Rage More x

*shrugs* you're never too young to know. If you know, then you know. It's as simple as that.

I remember that I was watching Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers and I always wanted to be the white ranger, Tommy. haha cuz of the fact that Kimberly the pink ranger liked him

:D

so if you're happy then best of luck to ya

*ignorence is bliss*

you are not too young to know ur gay and ur not too young to be in a committed relationship.  straight people know they are straight at a young age and plenty of straight people 17 and younger are in a committed relationship so just cuz ur gay doesnt mean that suddenly you are to young to know what u want.

*~*Lyndsey*~*

Hey Im 17 too and whenever I think about kissing boys I feel like puking. Ive known since forever that I was gay. I remember when I was like 9ish wanting to be a boy so that I could protect this girl I really liked and be there for her and stuff. It was weird. I also liked my teacher in yr6 which was so confusing especially when I told her about my feelings and she hardly spoke to me afterward. When I was 15 one of my friends told be she was bisexual so I thought that maybe I was too. But now Im begining to think that I dont really like boys, except boys who look like girls :P So dont worry about it. Its like being born black ( which I am). You can't really choose what package comes with your birth. Its like you have brown eyes and its not like you can change the colour of you eyes, you can only mask it with different colours. Sexuality is the same, you can't change it, you can only mask it. And thats really up to you.

that it's hypocritical when people see no issue with a teen girl coming to like boys, but don't trust her if she's into girls, instead. Why should it matter?

There are a lot of people who know, for as long as they have any sort of attractions, that they're gay. For other people, it isn't as clear. Some people will change in how they view their sexuality as time goes by. None of these scenarios are bad. What's important is that you're happy and feel comfortable with how you define yourself. If you see yourself as being gay, and that feels right to you, then by my definition, you're gay.

I knew i was gay at 13 however i didnt come out till about 15/16. When i came out i was lucky that no one said that to me.

If they say that you are too young to know that you are gay then surely they were too young to know they were straight?!

i asked a girl out when i was 5...she said yes!! whooo!!!!...happy times...i still remember it, we were both sitting on our teacher's big chair, looking over the class, pondering our futures (more likely pondering our lunch)...her name was denise, wonder what she is up to these days...hmmm

dont think either of us knew what it meant back then....but i can see i already knew my destiny

(my success rate has somewhat faltered since then.... sad times)

~love is giving someone the power to destroy you, but trusting them not to~

Its all down to different people and their personal development. If you are in love and committed to your girlfriend then you are never too young for love. Parents struggle with this sort of thing its something they can't help the majority of them expect their child to live their ideal life and when thats shattered sometimes they don't know how to handle it.

School I totally understand I guess not everywhere is ready for out couples, if they can't even teach same sex education the chances of them accepting a gay couple in their school are even further. I understand it can be frustrating but until society changes schools are never going to change.

As I said your never too young for love and in my opinion you should stop stressing about if you are too young and just enjoy your time with your girlfriend and don't let outside pressures get you down!

All the best,

Kym

 I realised I liked girls when I was 14...now I'm 15 and have got past the stage of wanting to be straight and wanting it to be a phase. Now however, I've realised that being gay is who I am at the moment and I should live by that. However, I would never ever tell my parents. It would break their hearts and I'm not that cruel. Not until I'm 100% sure anyway.

 I don't think your mother is being fair to you at all. Her attitude to you being gay is the main reason why I'm in the closet to stay!

~Everything operates on the unatainables~...Rufus Wainwright - My Gay Messiah

Holly...she loves me? She loves me not?

You're not too young to know ... and it doesn't matter if you end up feeling differently in the end anyway, because this is who you are now, and that is all that counts. You shouldn't live a lie, for any length of time. So good on you for having the conviction to be who are at your age. I am 21 now, and was still seeing/pretending to like men until I was 19, even though I've always known I was attracted to girls. Then I realised it was a waste of time not to be myself, much to my mum's disappointment. But she's over it now, and I'm happy, so it's okay. Not really 'out' yet though... however I'm getting there.

Good luck.

ever too young of an age to know. in fact the younger a person is i think it would be the best time to actually know b4 the world and society tries to form it for you.

The same thing happened to me. I never was able for guys to spend the night with me, even the gay ones. and then after everyone found out never again could ANY girl, even my best friend like a sister who i've known since we were 10. yea, she's gay too but the point was she's like family. i think everyone in my family is pretty content on staying in denial. atleast you weren't grounded for half a year not able to do nething except go to school. i didn't even come out myself. my myspace page/pics did it for me. TIP:don't take pics, or dont post 'em online, of girls nites out/party in a hotel. :p

~*~Alice: Thank god you're here we're totally outnumbered. Bette: What do you mean? Alice: Straight people. Bette: Oh, Jesus.~*~

Apparently my sexuality is just a "cruel phase," in the words of mother. My school are pretty good about it, but i've been told i couldn't kiss my gf at the time because i was "putting people off their food."

There's no such thing as too young to know your sexuality, just because it's assumed your straight means there isn't an ge limit on it? I don't get it.

I'm not allowed girls in my room with out the door open now, and only allowed my best mates to sleep.

It's pretty much bull shit, but i don't blame my mum, 'cause she didn't grow up with being gay being a norm.

Anyway, my miniature rant over, I totally agree with you.

I share your experience hunny  <3. Same thing has happened to me as far as parents-in-denial goes they have even tried to hook me up with some other guys! (eeeek!). But I have to tell ya, my family disowned me completely and I dont care becaushe they never really cared about me anyway. But, as long as you are comfortable with who you are, everything else is nothing!, you shouldn't change just because of them, no one can change who you really are, fuck then if they dont like you for you, screw them and move on. I know how hard it is to ignore such things, but you will see how good it fels once you come out and live the life you are meant to live freely.

Dont let anyone bring you down!. You will eventually move out of that house and be freeeeee and heck it feels great! Lol  

we are nver too young to know this
it's a feeling
in you
you are or not !!

I came out at 15, and I know what you're dealing with because my family was the same way.  Everything is double standards and people just aren't accepting. I know.  It's really difficult to deal with, and even moreso to make your family come to the realisation that they just have to suck it up and get over it because that's who you are.  You are NOT too young to know your own preferences.  My mother tried to tell me that, too. I said that if she was old enough to know she liked boys at my age, then I'm old enough to know I like girls.

I'm really sorry you have to put up with it right now, but soon enough you'll be able to go out and do your own thing without them trying to put a damper on it.

<3

I came out at 15, and I know what you're dealing with because my family was the same way.  Everything is double standards and people just aren't accepting. I know.  It's really difficult to deal with, and even moreso to make your family come to the realisation that they just have to suck it up and get over it because that's who you are.  You are NOT too young to know your own preferences.  My mother tried to tell me that, too. I said that if she was old enough to know she liked boys at my age, then I'm old enough to know I like girls.

I'm really sorry you have to put up with it right now, but soon enough you'll be able to go out and do your own thing without them trying to put a damper on it.

<3

I came out at 15, and I know what you're dealing with because my family was the same way.  Everything is double standards and people just aren't accepting. I know.  It's really difficult to deal with, and even moreso to make your family come to the realisation that they just have to suck it up and get over it because that's who you are.  You are NOT too young to know your own preferences.  My mother tried to tell me that, too. I said that if she was old enough to know she liked boys at my age, then I'm old enough to know I like girls.

I'm really sorry you have to put up with it right now, but soon enough you'll be able to go out and do your own thing without them trying to put a damper on it.

<3

Ah, mothers say the strangest things. My own questioned if (no, told me that) I was too young to know, and then went on to ask if I'd ever slept with a guy, as though if I did it would suddenly dawn on me, "Oh yeah, I was so wrong about hating the concept of male genitalia!"

Before the yelling and abuse began. I can almost look back on those queries (or is that queeries?) with a certain fondness...