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Gay or lesbian siblings.

Ok so forget other relatives.
I'm from a family of 5. 3 brothers. anyway my older sister is 21 and also gay and has been out for a few years now. I accidently came out this year to mum. She wasn't happy and has only mentioned it once to me. She thought there was something going on with me and my sister's ex.. no way i'd ever do that to my sister.

Point is. I want to know if you have a gay sibling, male, female or both?
Who was the first to come out, if any have?
How have your parents reacted?
Has it been easier having a gay sibling or has it made things harder for you. As my mother said. "There is already one in the family. I don't want another" ah my mother.. insane
Did you aproach your sibling or them you, about each suspecting?

Anything else such as these.

I find having a gay sister has taken some of the pressure off of me. It also had me fearful of my mother's reaction. She treated my sister like crap.


nowvoyager's picture

2 out of 3

I am one of three sisters and two of us are gay. I came out first and had a bit of a tough time and it wasn't any easier for my younger sister when she came out to my parents later. But now they are very cool with it and its no big deal. It has taken a few years to get to that point though.
Teh Emuh's picture

Yerp

Both me and my little sister are Gay so...we don't really talk bout it though and we have completly diffrent attitudes about woman so...hmm

 

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sheshe1876's picture

2 out of 4

My older sister is gay, my mom really doesn't seem to care in any way.  It has not made it any easier for me though.  My aunts/family are all really quite nasty to her and so it makes me a little nervous.  We were raised basiclly just by my mom (my dad died when I was 10) and so I am sure that it would be assumed that it is my mom's fault because we didn't have a male influence...blah...blah...blah!  I don't know if she knows about me or not. Sometimes I think that there is no way that she wouldn't, but then other times she talks about me getting with guys.  I think that she has a bit of a crush on my girlfriend, but I can't say anything about it! 
Mackin's picture

I can't say I have a blood

I can't say I have a blood sibling in my family, but  he's pretty damn close to it. He just came out to my mom this year and apart from the obvious disaproval at first she turned out to be perfectly fine with it. Soon she was meeting his boyfriends, helping him into his drag costumes and commented on them. But now I feel that if I come out she is just going to think I'm following his lead, or she is going to blame him and I don't want that. Also I'm worried that my mom would react differently because I unlike my brother, I am her blood daughter.

 P.S. My brother is not adopted, he is actually my cousin who has grown up with me ever since he was a diva in a diaper.

.:Mackin:.

xRobyn's picture

2 out of 3

I have a very straight brother, who has a girlfriend and daughter.  and a gay brother.  And.. I'm just a big homo.

My brother is out.. and.. we all already knew/assumed.. so it wasn't that big of a deal.  My parents were accepting.. but kept it all very "hush hush."  My mother doesn't talk about it.. but it hasn't changed her opinion of him at all.. and my father is the same way.. but.. he's a bit more.. affected by it.. because he knows the the way society treats homosexuals.. and I think he fears that.  I also have a step-mother and step-father.  My step-mother thinks it's great.. and.. my step-dad doesnt really care but he seems a bit ignorant.  Not homophobic.. just ignorant.

 I have yet to come out to anyone but my brother and a few guy friends.  My parents expect me to be the "normal" one out of my siblings.. so I don't know.  I'm the baby girl and I expect it to make more of an impact on my family because it would just be so out of the blue.

 It is nice to know that my parents are accepting in that area of their children's lives.

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a_l_y_s_s_a's picture

2 out of 3

my brother is gay and he came out i think his junior or sophmore year. uh i remember when he told me i was always like gay? what is that? and i thought a guy liking a guy and a girl liking a girl was fine. when he came out i didn't know what the big fuss was. uh i didn't tell my brother i was gay he found out. me and my brother are close but i don't talk about me liking girls with him. he's a little um what's the word....well he doesn't like lesbians. my mom thinks im gay only because my brother is. i haven't had an official coming out but my dad will always love me he said but my mom ugh whatever. bt yea im only hoping my little sister isn't gay because i don't want her to have to go through all this because already i can see her being very dependant in my parents so....like i know im gonna be successful and m parents are always oh your gonna get us out of poverty an stuff so i won't need them after my senior year in high school
BooYouWhore's picture

Two for two. Score!

My sister is bi and younger than me and I'm a lesbian. She came out before me... and needless to say I was/still am jealous of that.

My dad was very accpeting of it and although my mom didn't turn her back on her, she is still having a hard time with it, but is still there for my sister and treats her the same, being as supportive as she can - it's just something she'd rather not talk much about.

As for me, I have yet to come out to my parents although I think it's been obvious since I was a teen. It's like they know, and I know they know, they know I know they know... lmao, you get it... and it's just been left at that. I know I'll tell them officially some day, just don't know when that day will be.

cookie_monster's picture

haha this sounded like


haha this sounded like Bridget and her sister Audrey.
Nah i've got a 29yr old sis, the straightest person ever!
she calls me 'my lil dyke' which i can't help but find kinda cute, but not so much when she makes those stupid lil comments about me liking girls or! when she thinks i've got to get over my ex and walks around pointin out at girls saying loud 'do u like that one?'
Needless to say, the girl in question always turns around in shock *sigh* or! when we're out having a drink and i'm chatting with some girl and then she comes over and whispers in my ear 'no no, shes ugly.. or too butchy..'
but she's cool and fun to be around with and all, so i'm very lucky.

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Psychopractor's picture

1 of 4...

...as far as I know. Everyone thinks my older brother is gay, and I know my little sister has been... bi-curious. The other sister (her twin) is totally straight. My brother and I arn't so close... I don't really think he is though. Funny how everyone suspects him and not me. I have no idea how no one knows yet. Or maybe they choose to not know. I don't know, this is all very confusing. O_o.
melonface's picture

quite a gay family

well.. me, my bro, my sis, my cousin nd my uncle r all bi/gay.. must be in the genes lol so my family is quite accepting, i guess they're used to it by now.
little_girl86's picture

2 of 3

My older brother is gay and he came out to my parent ...It didnt really go well but not because my parent are homophobic or wathever but simply bc my brother was quite a mess at this time and my parent we're a lot worried anyways when it came to my turn to came out it was really easy. Its my mother who told me she knew because she saw me and my gf...she told me it was fine and she loved me anyways! So I dont think if it wouldnt be of my brother it would have been that easy for me to come out...Now the only thing that keep bugging my mother is that she wont have grandchild..but I keep saying to her that I can still have one! loll

I have another sister but she is handicap (idk the right word) so I'll never now if she's straight or not...

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luxury_bus's picture

1 for 7

I have three sisters and three brothers, and I'm the only gay one. The others are as straight as can be! They all have husbands/wives and most of them have children.

They always joke around that I'm the black sheep of the family. =]

keanabug's picture

I do not have a gay sibling

I do not have a gay sibling but I do have a cousin by marraige who is bi-sexual (a girl) and her mother thought that there was something going on between me and her because that side of my family does know that I'm a lesbian and Kelsey came out as bi-sexual shortly after I came out so now she's not allowed to be around me even though nothing ever DID happen because even though it's only by marraige and not blood, the fact that she's legally my cousin makes it completely out of the question for me.


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