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morning/evening all. i just want to talk for a bit about the woman im dating currently....get some advice if you will. she is what i believe to be a true bisexual (no need to get into the reasons i believe that to be...just that i believe her to be one). for backround her first relationship was with a guy..(short term) then she moved into a LTR with a woman and then spent about eh..5 or 6 weeks dating a guy again before me (we have been dating now for about 6 weeks).

everything with us has been going really well and i as a woman who has only dated lesbian women previously got a pretty big shock when we were talking the other night about past relationships and what put "spark" back into them and she mentioned that with her ex gf they used heterosexual porn. i dont know what it was about that moment however all of a sudden i found myself like...cringing and being REALLY not ok with that idea at all for us...she immedately said that it was totally fine if the time ever came that we NOT watch that stuff however i just couldnt get out of my mind the idea that yes..she did date guys and yes she is attracted to guys in a sexual way (i do realize btw that the hetero porn thing is not exclusive to heteros or bi's...this was just the catalyst that brought all this on)

since that time ive been thinking alot about things of this nature and how to help make myself feel more secure when things like this come up. there is no particular reason i can think of to feel threatened even a little bit by a liking of matthew mccaunghey or her making passing statements about the opposite sex and attractiveness...heck...or even to be threatened by heterosexual adult entertainment but i am a tiny bit. nor should she be forced to endure me making a face or ever making snippy comments about it. this is who she is and i wouldnt want to change that.

make no mistake..this is a me issue and has nothing to do with anything shes said or done and i feel a bit silly at 30 even thinking about this but alas i cant help it right now.

any advice here would be more than welcome.

pyc2star