I am about 5'8 1/2; My GF is 5'8 So no issue their for us. Now when I was married to my ex-husband he was about 5-6 1/2 (yes a shortie) He wants to believe that he was shorter then me that are relationship did not workout  and not the fact that I realize I was gay. He told me that I divorced him because I was able to see his thinning hairline everyday and that could of made me sick. So I just let him believe that if that what makes him happy.

P.S. Height shouldnt really matter being that we all our the same height when laying down next to each other anyway. :)

Don't let the height difference stop you from seeing this woman even though it might feel awkward at first. The other aspects of the relationship may develop into something fantastic. Give her a chance. I am also on the tall side (6'), and once had a girlfriend around 5'4" or so. (We broke up, but the reasons had nothing to do with our height differences.) We did everything any 'normal' couple did and never really thought about the height difference, except to make fun of it. I am naturally more masculine than feminine, so the only advice I can give regarding that is to just be yourself. If you start to feel awkward because you find yourself acting more masculine, then maybe the relationship isn't for you. Just be yourself and let her be herself, and see where it goes. Enjoy your time with her -- she may turn out to be the love of your life or you may find out that other things make you incompatible as a couple.

I'm also tall (5ft 11ins) and always went out with girls shorter than me, including someone 5ft 4ins. My girlfriend is 6ft and we have now been together 10 years. Height is the last thing to worry about and does not define a relationship. How you like this girl and how the two of you get on is the most important.

Regarding what your sister says about the taller person being the more dominant/masculine, absolutely not! Wear what you want and be who you are.

You know, it's weird, I used to think that the taller one had to be the more dominant before I came out. Now that's totally reversed. I've seen so many pocket sized butches with tall, beautiful femmes that seeing it the other way around is weird.

But really, whose to say there even needs to be a more dominant one? Lol try not to let the butch/femme dynamic or anything thats associated with it sway your opinions, especially if your current attraction doesn't fit it.

Hmm, yet to completely contradict myself, I'm about 5'9", and I usually prefer women that are shorter than me (subconsciously I think, I'm not limiting myself), and I'm usually the more dominant one haha. :P

I'm the same height as you and the girl I like is about 5'5". I don't feel domineering, as a matter of fact on our first night together she offered to carry me to the bed :) I said no, although it would've been so sweet. But I'm just taller, I wouldn't want her to break her back.

 I wish the was the issue! I'd agree to be twice as tall as she is, only if she'd want to be with me! So, my advice is do not pass on the opportunity to be with someone you really like because of such small thing.

Are the two of you able to speak comfortably with each other? do you make each other laugh?  I hope so

Is she needy or drain your energy in any other way? is she manipulative? - I think these issue are far more relevant to the enjoyment of your time spent together.

Height will become an issue if you want it to be. Your sisters opinions are fine, she's entitled to hers.

 You are entitled to yours.

I know there's another thread like this somewhere -- Because I've posted this before.  I don't think it was specifically a thread about height though.

Anyway, I'm short (5'0") and I suppose that makes it kind of obvious I like taller women (than myself).  Hah!  But, overall I prefer shorter than average women.  My tallest ex was 5'9" or 10" and that was fine.  It didn't bother me.  However, I've found that taller women can be a bit, hmm, bias against shorter women.  That does bother me somewhat.

So, do folks think it is more difficult on the taller woman or the shorter in a relationship with height differences such as this?

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you know thinking about this some more  come to think of it being taller then most girls (And I think the taller girls on her might agree; lol) that it has its advantages. Just think if you like a girl that is shorter then you and  you didn't tell her how you feel about her you can always stand close up to her and peek down into her shirt w/o her realizing it at first. LOL

~Can't everything be like before when it overcomes me?~

thanks for the input. i feel better just projecting out into this space. 

I'm about three inches shorter than my girl, and I'm the "guy" in the relationship (if you don't mind me putting like that). It is a little annoying sometimes when we hug or kiss standing, but for the most part it doesn't really matter.

If you really like this girl, height won't matter in the end.

... and I don't have a preference either. "It surely doesn't matter when you're doing the horizontal thing" is how a friend of mine puts it.

I don't think the taller one is or should be the "masculine" one - just because of the height. I'm 5'3" and I've had girlfriends who are 5'7" and 5'10" and it was all good. You can play with the dynamics height difference can bring along, and try and let go of your childhood insecurities :)

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It's natural to assume that the taller one is more agressive and masculine. But...we know that's not the case. In a relationship, love is key. Not whether or not you're dominant. Save it for the bedroom ;)

If it really bothers you, wear a shirt with an arrow that says "She's the dominant one" lol =]

Think i have between 1.60 and 1.62. European mesures of course! :-) 

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I have a regular height (a little over 5') for a Filipina girl but short by other standards. It's a little frustrating that my younger is 5'8..though she is really tall (taller than even most guys) by Filipino standards.

Size DOES matter. I'm also 5'9" and was in a relationship for 9 years with a woman who was 5'1".

I guess shouldn't say it matters, exactly....but it does become a factor. Just be prepared (and I mean PREPARED) for others to see them as the "defenseless" one and then don't be surprised to see them eat it up. Whether you like it or not you will be known as the protector or provider or lifter-of-heavy-objects, etc. The first time I jumped out of the shower (due to the presence of an unwanted arachnid), I was the joke of the party that night. It has the potential of becoming an unspoken rule...thats all.

(In retrospect...that should have been a sign that this relationship was in trouble, eh?)

...Go out with a girl that was a little more an inch smaller than me.

At first, it subconsciously gave me the feeling that I had to protect her...

But she was pretty much the toughest one, even if sometimes she could just break down. Yet on the outside, everybody would tell you I was the dominant one, being a very social person and talking a lot, acting like I was the protective one and fighting the fights.

In the end, I realised that it didn't matter that I was about 1 or two inches taller than she was, because at the end of the day, she would make me feel safe and protected and loved.

And that's not a question of height but rather a question of love.

She was keeping grounded and sane, and that was the most important thing ever.

Height is not an issue if the love you feel is real.

height is no issue 4 me. but my gfs r always taller than me. i dont tink da dominant ting is based on der height. even dwarfs can b dominant huhu..but dat wud b weird eww..(tinking of male goblins n leprechauns..)

cheers

Just like you, I am 5'9" tall. I am definataly a Lesbian but in no way, shape,  form or fashion have I EVER been mistaken as a dom. I am an Ultra Femme and that is VERY clear. My woman stands about 5'5" and that doesn't bother me one bit. She is VERY dominant & masculine (just how I like it).

To answer your questions, I don't think that height determines a relationship. My woman treats me like I'm worth my weight in gold and I reciprocate, that is what matters. There is no need to make up for the gap because she overcompensates in every other area. I have NEVER felt akward with her because of the height difference. Nothing about us has been affected, it is all good.

I am about 5'1".  I have always been self concious of it but I can also tell the best short jokes about myself too.  I believe that people don't take me seriously because of my height.  I would LOVE to find a woman who is of similar height.  However, I am attracted to women of any height and I am not afraid to let a taller woman know that I like her.  I have also feared taller women who I percieve to be very aggressive.  For instance a friend who is about 6' is very accustomed to playfully shoving people during fits of laughter but when she does this to me, I am almost knocked down.  I know she doesn't aim to hurt me.  I guess a much taller woman would have to demonstrate extreme gentleness in order for me to consider dating her.  That's just how I feel and it probably harkens back to something in my childhood as well. 

Here's something funny:  The state of Indiana says that children 4'9" and under must be in a child seat when riding in a car!  I always tell people "I am only 4 inches away from needing a car seat!"  That's hilarious.

if you really like her..just do it...

and about the dominant thing...um..i dont think thats true..i'm about 5'8-5'8 1/2 and my girlfriend is 5'2ish..she definitely tends to be the more dominant one. neither of us are masculine...but we're not all that feminine either..so i dont know..your sister is crazy. haha jk but yeah, height doesn't really matter..i mean..when me and my girlfriend hug or kiss..yeah..she has to tip-toe or i have to bend down a bit but its totally worth it ;) lol

And I generally like tall woman...but usally I'm taller by a good couple of inches...I'm like the jolly green giant because for some reason all the girls in Liverppol are short xD

Oh well

I don't really mind I'm used to being taller so

Dance like no ones watching...but drink lots of vodka first

holy crap everyone is taller than me....TT___TT

well i'm only 16, and i'm still growing so there we go. plus i'm asian =)

but the height shouldn't really be an issue. it's a little small thing that should be ignored in a way. i'm like 5'4-5 and i'm usually the more dominant one in a relationship, but i'm short. that does bug me a little bit... but i haven't been with a girl, so i'm still good =)

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Um. i'm 5'0. and i wouldn't give a damn if my gf was 6'0 as long as we had a connection, she didn't wear heels around me,  and she bent down to kiss me. ;) there are more important issues than height!! 

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I'm 5'5 which I guess is just about in the middle so there's never been more than a few inches difference. Even though I tend to be the more dominant one, not dating a girl just because she's taller than me has never crossed my mind.