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Which movie made you realize you're gay?

Yeah - I wish the L word was around when i was just considering what was going on - it would have helped a lot!! And - not made me late for school so much with having to stay up waiting for late night tv to start showing the good stuff!!Frown

satal's picture

XENA!

everytime I watched the show, I just couldn't take my eyes away from Lucy Lawless. but ironically she looked so NOT feminine, those days I wasn't sure what aspects of her attracted me so much. then many year passes it was finally Jolie in Gia :)

OnTyJo's picture

Titanic

I knew then that I wanted a  1900 car and i wanted to steam those windows up. And Hello Kate Winslet, is bib worthy.

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Stang's picture

Hrmm.. hard to give a short answer..

I think my first crush was Jennifer Love Hewitt in I Know What You Did Last Summer. And then it was like Alyssa Milano in Charmed and then definitely Jessica Alba in Dark Angel was when I first started acknowledging I probably wasn't straight. A few years later, I watch the OC and that Marissa & Alex kiss definitely got me feeling [insert word I cannot put my finger on at the moment] inside. And then I watched DEBS. That's when I finally came out to people. I think it helped cause I was in that transition from high school to college.

I find it hard to believe that people come to the realization that they're gay from a single movie. But maybe I'm wrong. I just know I'd known all along since around middle school and sort of eased myself into the idea rather than *BAM!* "Oh, I think I'm gay!"

seejanerun617's picture

Xena

Definately Xena.. those eyes.. that body.. hey... I wonder if I'm gay?
lol

vmi2023's picture

Jessica Alba did it for me.

I was still in middle school,I think in the 8th grade,when I first saw DARK ANGEL.I was amazed on how beautiful Jessica Alba looked.My friends from there knew I was gay,but I didn't.I was a bit confused how I was looking at her differently.And then came Angelina Jolie.I saw the BONE COLLECTOR and GONE IN 60 SECONDS,that just did it for me. :) 
Iloveit2008's picture

There isn't one........

There isn't a particular film or show that made me realize I was attracted to women but I think Stuff like The L word helped me know for certain that I was attracted to women aswell as men.
Woolf20's picture

Wild side

I couple of years ago I watched "Wild Side" (with Anne Heche I guess). During the movie I thought about the possibility of being gay (I never did that before). The next day I was sure that I'm gay and I was very happy about it :)
dejablu's picture

My very first lesbian

My very first lesbian movie crush was Lesley Ann Warren in Cinderella.  I saw it when I was 7 years old and remember thinking:  she's so pretty, Prince Charming, not so much so...uh, oh.   I still think the same thing when I see her to this day.

I was totally smitten with Linda Fiorentino in VisionQuest and again as Sascha in Gotcha! Likewise, I fell for Mary Stuart Masterson in Live to Tell and by Some Kind of Wonderful I was thoroughly gone and have never gotten over it.  Frankly, for my generation, all of John Hughes 80s teen angst movies were the stuff of fledgling lesbian dreams. 

PorscheOwner's picture

MINE WOULD BE

Show Girls

last goodbye kiss turned me on!

JuSt-mOi's picture

Foxfire!!!

I still remember watching the trailer on a class I was like 9 or so, I saw Angelina Jolie and I fell in love, no joke lol ...then I watched the movie a few years afterwards and yup, I was attracted to girls :)

"i don't suffer from insanity...i enjoy every minute of it"

SLipknot 22's picture

All Over Me

My one had to be All Over Me. Clude is so amazing, I just fell in lust with her. Wow and Lucy mmmmmmm

little yellow bus's picture

hmmm

Im going to have to say that it was But Im a Cheerleader, it made me want to go to that camp, not to de-gay me, but to hang out with all the girls!

"I'll grow my hair, I'll wear a bra, I'll even cut my penus off for you!" She Has a Girlfriend by Reel Big Fish

Belladonna's picture

The Mask of Zorro

It was whilst watching "The Mask of Zorro" that I remembered watching "The Darling Buds of May" when I was younger, really young like 8 or so, and I used to watch it for Catherine Zeta Jones every time it was on my Mum and Dad recorded it so that they had the whole series on tape and I'd watch the videos and fast-forward the bits that CZJ wasn't in. *swoon*

still crazy after all these years

cookie_monster's picture

i got totally obssesed


i got totally obssesed with Fried Green Tomatoes. I was too young to see any clear lesbian subtlety but got the biggest crush on Mary Louise Parker. She's gorgeous!!
Then i got older and Xena WP began airing, and there she was Renee O'connor.... my goodness

"I need some psycholesbian theraphy"

CarbonatedMilk's picture

"Ghost World". Now, I

"Ghost World". Now, I watched it with my boyfriend at the time...and he was Sri Lankan...and the opening credits feature this teenage girl dancing to a Bollywood musical.

He was a little upset with me, since I was the one who picked it out.

After getting over that trauma, we started exploring each other's bodies the way teenagers do. I had to hide my face in my hands to keep from giggling at him. And then we started fooling around, but I kept on getting distracted by the movie. Especially Thora Birch's sex scene. I honestly remember the movie much better than my first sexual experiences with him.

I'm the worst girlfriend in the world.

FeliciaB's picture

Ghost World

Was I the only one that hoped that Rebecca and Enid would somehow get together at the end? :) It would've been a lot more enjoyable than that awkward scene with Enid and Seymour (played by Steve Buscemi)...
ripleymax's picture

i would say L.A. Law back

i would say L.A. Law back then when it was first time they showed 2 women kiss on tv. I was surprised and thrilled and wanted to see more of that. i liked L.A. Law with different people. since then, i always want to see lesbian characters on tv and movies and see they make love or kiss...it's more fun than 2 straight people (woman and man) kiss because i see that many times...it's so boring and old same news. it felt long time ago.

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Hello's picture

i know..

so ya as i read bound isnt exactly original. but hey, that was the first gay movie i ever saw..if anything it was the first gay anything in my life. i was little then so i didnt even know wat a lesbain was...weird my brother was the first person to tell me what a lesbain was...if only he knew...
Charmed71's picture

It was really a tv show for me...

I started watching Buffy reruns on FX when I was in 6th grade...it wasn't until 7th though that anything happened between Willow and Tara. I saw that and I just became obsessed with that show and I found myself wanting to just kinda rewind the Willow/Tara scenes and watch them over and over. Ha. Plus I got this huge crush on Alyson Hannigan. I don't know if thats what made me realize I was bi or not but from that point on I kept wanting to see more and more lesbians on television and in movies. lol.

-Lori
shortypants's picture

Splash

 

I'm pretty sure it was Daryl Hannah in Splash back in the day.  I thought she was stunning and b/c she played a mermaid, it also started my lifelong love and interest in everything fantasy and mythological.

OHH!!  another big indicator from around the same time: Tanya Roberts in Sheena Queen of the Jungle.  I still get tingly everytime I happen to pass by that movie on TV. :0)

Iximioca's picture

what movie

:: for me it was top gun ... back then i also realized i wanted to be a pilot and own a motorbike ::
Floogle's picture

For me, it'll always be

For me, it'll always be Charlie's Angels: Full Throttle as I sat through that whole film thinking "my god, the Angels are so hot, I want them so badly". Although the first lesbian movie that got me going was probably Lost & Delirious.

Falsefaith's picture

It wasn't a movie for me...

It wasn't a movie for me...

It was my girlfriend while she forced me to watch The L Word season 1 over a cup of coffee at her place. We did that for like three days and I must say, those where some of the best times I've ever had (and don't think dirty... all we did was enjoy each other's company).

Sadly enough I only came out of denial about 2 years ago... so I've yet to watch that many Lesbian movies. But I do like Imagine Me & You.

brandykiki's picture

~:.kC.:~Titanic. I saw it

~:.kC.:~

Titanic. I saw it for the first time a couple of monthes ago and now I'm OBBSESED with Kate Winslet. Does anybody know where i can sign up for a 12 step program?? LoL

mmm kate...im so gay!

Rachel19's picture

Well no film made me realise

Well no film made me realise i'm bisexual, but after that i found out im bisexual it did make sense why i always noticed jennifer love hewitts tits in I know what you did last summer...
northernlights's picture

There were probably many

There were probably many others, and this isn't even a movie, but when Alias used to be good, I often found myself watching and drooling over Lena Olin. That was when I realized, "Yeah...not straight."

 

vlpenney's picture

The summer of '97...

I was alone in my apartment..my roommates had gone away and I was flicking through the channels looking for something to watch, I stopped on no particular stn in general and watched a yellow train pull up to a station and a nice looking lady in a gray suit got off and looked around....The title drifted across the screen. I've never heard of or seen this movie before and had no inkling as to what it was about...hmm might be interesting.....It was Desert Hearts.  Halfway through I remember staring at the tv totally bawling my eyes out saying no no no no no....but a flood of memories immediately cascaded through my mind, and I knew..."that's what's wrong with me" I thought.....for years I had absolutley no clue.  I had crushes on guys but nothing as powerful or tormenting as how I felt about certain women in my small world.  Still...I didn't clue in.  Nobody spoke of it in my world.  No Idea such a thing existed!  Thank you to the Desert Heart People!!!  My gf and I will be celebrating our 10th anniv next year and I couldn't be happier!!! 

(Sorry so long...I tend to blather on sometimes lol)

Original Cyn's picture

Chasing Amy...

Well, at least when they showed the kiss clip on MTV lol...
BornSupreme's picture

I knew

I liked girls from the age of 6, but never really thought of it being this really big thing, until I watched the TV series Bad girls when it was first broadcasted, because I remember liking girls, but wasn't too sure on the whole lesbian scene, and that basicually just confirmed things for me.

Also the TV  series Sugar Rush & of course The L Word were eye openers for me.

Helen(BG),Kim(SR),Alice(TLW) what a good combination :)

Yup Yup's picture

... ha.

Kissing Jessica Stein. Odd thing was I didn't even know what the movie was about. My cousin's roommate showed us the movie, and afterwards I thought "Ha... so girls eh?"
Teh Emuh's picture

The Adams Family...cough

 Man it's all Christina Riccis fault!!!

 

I had a major thing about Wednesday Admas god help me...I was also a major fan of Xena...and Wonder woman...I never had a chance did I *sigh*

 

Dance like no ones watching...but drink lots of vodka first

confusedmary's picture

for me.....

I guess I've always known that I was more interested with the leading ladies than the leading men but I thought that was just normal.Then came Angelina Jolie in Tomb Raider and I was like "That's it, I'm so in love with Jolie" I mean, who wouldn't turn gay with Angelina right? lol And ever since then I was always looking forward to the leading ladies in the films that I watch. then along came, Imagine me and you, DEBS and kissing Jessica Stein and "Yeah, I'm definitely gay!" :) :) xxx
phantomphan1985's picture

I can remember being 10 or

I can remember being 10 or so and running home from school to watch Xena. I was totally obsessed by that show. And by Gabrielle. I didn't come out 'til ten years later, but I should've know when I was about 6 and I used to stare at my first grade teacher when I was supposed to have been doing my work....
Sara3003's picture

It is so wierd...

Don't think it was a movie for me either. But I think it comes a little from whatching Buffy for as long as I can remember. Like, girls liking girls has never been "unormal" to me. It is so wierd, I just thought about it, but Alex in The O.C was like the hottest girl I new for months and i told it randomly to friends, and neither me nor them picked up the clue that I might be gay.... And this I just realized now. lol.

The thing, on the other hand, that made be question my sexuality for the first time, was when I had the biggest crush on a girl I met at summercamp when I was 13. Atleast I think that was the first time... Can't really remember anymore...

carob15's picture

I always "knew"

I always "knew" even as a little girl, watching Disney movies or cartoons I only cared for the leading ladies, and most of the time I couldn't stand the men stealing screen time from them, but I wasn't sure. I mean, I was crushing in these fictional ladies, but I also crushed in real guys and no real women. I was sooo confused. It wasn't until I saw WB's "Popular" and Carly Pope appeared in my screen that I knew for certain that I liked girls. It took me some other time to realize that I also liked boys. I'm kinda slow, okay!
alicas's picture

I guess for me that would

I guess for me that would have been Marina on L Word...

the first time I watched it made me finally admit that there was something in women I would never ever find in men

so that discovery took me some 24 years ;)

 

Everyone who doesn't believe in miracles isn't a realist (David Ben Garion)

lilwiss2088's picture

Movie and TV Show

The first movie when I was like wow i'm gay was The Legend of Billie Jean....let's have a moment of silence for Helen Slater.......thank you and (don't judge ha) I was a HUGE Power Rangers fan (the original ones) I had a huge crush on Kimberly the Pink Ranger lol
ijpayayatenka's picture

Angelina Joli has turned the whole world gay!

Girl Interrupted.  I felt things my dorky high school (guy) crushes couldn't begin to come close to.

ragdoll's picture

Actually, the movie that

Actually, the movie that made me realize I'm gay was You've Got Mail, haha.

Cause I had a crush on Meg Ryan ._.

cassandra0543's picture

For me, it was the Mists of

For me, it was the Mists of Avalon on TNT (a made for tv movie in 2001[?]). There was just something about Julianna Margulies...I had known for a long time (years) that there was something different about me, and then when this movie came out with Julianna on the cover of TV guide and then that movie, I was finally able to put a name to what I had been feeling for a long time. To this day I still think she's one of the most gorgeous women and that movie has a special place in my heart.
Hostilexhippie's picture

wow.

Well. I was just talking about this with my girlfriend, my very first crush was on Claire Danes in Romeo and juliet, I always hated Leo, and I sure as hell wasn't watching it because I thought he was cute, I watched it so much, and I have watched every other thing she has done since then, I guess you could say she was my first crush.
BiFemmeMA's picture

Showing my age here.......

Anyone remember the show called "Family" - Kristy McNichol was my first girl crush.
lalinebrandao's picture

Scream (1996)

 

I mean, I've always known that I felt atracted to girls, but had never admited it to myself. So I must say that Neve Campbell changed my concepts.

Of course it took me a few years to find out that my own city was secretly (not that much) a big gay one, that a lot of people I knew was very much gay and that I could stop losing my time trying to fall in love with boys and start breaking my heart (not that much) with girls.

hmorsey's picture

Watching Tomb Raider in the

Watching Tomb Raider in the theaters was the first time I was ever attracted to another woman...but it wasnt until I started watching the L Word a few months ago that I really started to question my sexuality.
connieandmonique84's picture

i was gia,but now jolie it was the blonde...

it was ''gia'' for me,but the blonde got me....because she( like me) didnt get was gia was trying to do until that one night where every part of your body is tempted so much that your wondering '' why am i getting so damn WET'',and every time i see two girls kiss or anything back then ( im 24 now and engaged to an amazing woman) when i was 16 i was so scared ( my family is mormon and close minded) that someone would notice,so after moving to utah i figured that i was 2000 miles away then i could come out and i did! i love my baby girl and our son hunter to death.you know the weird thing is,i prefer brunntes over blondes ( my baby is brunnett) so i dont know what did it for me with the blonde,i guess angie lips are too big and shes too vainy,ewww
shakespearianwiccan's picture

Movie

Fried Green Tomatoes....Idgie boiled my potatoes, collar greens, and about every other part of me. Most people don't think that movie has a lesbian love story but I see signs of it every-time I see the movie and in the book they tell each that they love each other.
lazyaznguh3's picture

Mine is Stupid but....

When I was little my first encounter was at 7 lol with Sailor Moon...course typical Asian of me (-__-), but when I saw them together it made me really happy. I couldn't understand it until now
Skywalking's picture

Julia Roberts...

Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman made me wonder...I mean if I ignored Richard Gere at his most charming and handsome age...

Also, I had such a huge crush on Joey when I watched "Dawson's Creek". I always thought Dawson was crazy to look at Jen with Joey there!!!!

nerathert's picture

The Truth About Jane

Yes, a Lifetime original movie. It wasn't exactly what made me realize I was gay, but it was something I definitely clung to and watched everytime it aired. I remember watching it with my mom and having a mixture of feeling nervous she might realize, but also really excited for her to see it and hoping that she would connect the dots.
quaintrelle's picture

Well, there wasn't one film

Well, there wasn't one film or experience that led me to such a big revelation about my sexuality. You know what did it? My friend lent me her password for SuicideGirls.com. This was a few years ago, when everyone still thought it was just a cool place to look at naked alt chicks and no one knew what an exploitative and terrible operation they run. Anyway, after at least a month of spending every day on that website looking at pictures of naked women, I had my epiphany.

Because I'm bisexual, for a long time I wasn't in touch with my attraction to women; I didn't really give those feelings a second thought.

But I remember being in grade school and seeing Titanic and being completely arrested by Kate Winslet. I remember writing in my diary that seeing her naked gave me strange feelings and I didn't know what they were. But, like I said, I never gave it much thought, especially because at that particular time I was in total, utter DICAPRIO FANGIRL MODE. So embarrasing!

To this day, I'd like to note, I still get, er, peculiar feelings when I see Kate Winslet!

Also, Todd Haynes's film Velvet Goldmine was incredibly important to me in high school. It didn't make me discover I was queer, but it enabled me to start thinking honestly about sexuality- my own, and sexuality in general. Plus, it's a loving homage to one of my favourite musicians (David Bowie) and made me appreciate Oscar Wilde, whose work more or less changed my life. It's a tremendous film, and I still adore it.

 

"Nothing makes one so vain as being told one is a sinner."

~ Oscar Wilde


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