Lesbianing with AE! A Brief Guide to Scissoring

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Dear Lindsey,

I feel like me and my girlfriend can’t scissor effectively. We try to get in the right position but it just doesn’t seem like we’re rubbing together in the right way. We always end up switching positions. I want to scissor! What should I do?

-Stuck

Hey Stuck,

There are many ways to scissor and many ways that bodies fit together. So if you and your girlfriend have some pornified version of what scissoring is supposed to look like, let go of that and explore the ways that your bodies fit together.

Some problems that people have when scissoring ….

  • Your clits aren’t rubbing together
  • You can’t get the right angle
  • It’s too much damn effort and/or you can’t stop laughing
  • You’re just not flexible enough for this scissoring shit
  • Someone is in pain when you try to scissor
  • You feel self-conscious or weird and it gets in the way of your having fun

Scissoring should feel good—not like some advanced pilates exercise where you’re not sure your hip flexors are open enough to master it.

Scissoring should feel good—not like some advanced pilates exercise where you’re not sure your hip flexors are open enough to master it.

For some folks, pillows and props help support limbs or raise up body parts so it’s easier to mash your bits together without feeling like you’re doing some sort of side plank challenge.

Other women like to place a vibrator down there to boost sensations. That can also help if you feel like you just can’t get close enough to one another.

It’s often difficult to get into the perfect position where it feels good for the both of you. Some couples aren’t able to get that clit contact at all, so they give up on it.

This is not how.

If you’re interesting in having a scissoring experience, you will probably need to push through some awkward period where you’re not sure if you’re doing it right—or doing anything other than getting sweaty and feeling weird. That can sometimes turn into finding the perfect sweet spot where you’re like, “oh….. so this is how it’s supposed to work!” and then you know how to do it and from then on it feels more natural. But you might not get there with her, or your next girlfriend, or at all and that’s cool.

You will probably need to push through some awkward period where you’re not sure if you’re doing it right—or doing anything other than getting sweaty and feeling weird. That can sometimes turn into finding the perfect sweet spot where you’re like, “oh….. so this is how it’s supposed to work!” and then you know how to do it and from then on it feels more natural.

Try different positions. Instead of the porn-classic scissor, you could try sitting on top of your girlfriend, with one of your legs in between hers and her free leg up in the air so you can have that clit contact. Flexibility is key here; if her legs are super tight, it won’t feel great to have her leg vertical.

A simpler way to ease into scissoring is to grind against her upper thigh when you’re on top of her straddling her legs. You’ll get a lot of the full body contact you would with a scissor (just with her leg, not her clit) and you can use your leg to stimulate her. Some lesbians might claim this isn’t “real scissoring” cause it’s not clit-to-clit, but if it gets you off, who cares?

Some women love to scissor while others have tried it and don’t enjoy it, find it too difficult to get into the right position, etc. If you’re looking to cross scissoring off your bucket list, these tips can help. If you try to adjust your position and you’re not feeling fireworks, don’t worry. It’s not the right position for you and your current flame—so spend time on what does get you off.

THIS is how.

Bonus: There’s actually a lesbian sex toy made just for scissoring, and we interviews the creator, who is of course a lesbian herself and can give you more tips HERE.

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