Lesbianing with AE! Understanding Your Weird Sex Dreams

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Dear Lindsey,

Last night I dreamt I had a penis. What does it mean?

-Freaked Out

Hey Freaked Out,

WEIRD! But guess what, you aren’t alone in having dreams about penises! It turns out lots of women dream they have one at some point, and lots of women go “WTF??!?!?!?” when that happens.

Dream interpreters often suggest that dreaming about having a penis means getting in touch with your masculine energy. This could be physical, i.e., you’re dressing in more androgynous clothing or you just got a rad lesbian haircut. Or it could be a quality that’s associated with being male, like standing up for yourself or taking control. I know, tired gender norms, UGH.

Think on what’s been on your mind lately. What has changed for you? What are you struggling with? Could you benefit from a more “masculine” approach to something? As in whatever positive qualities you associate with masculine? By thinking of it as masculine energy, rather than what it is — a dick you wouldn’t want anything to do with in life — you can de-sexualize the symbol and make sense of your dream.

Could you benefit from a more “masculine” approach to something? As in whatever positive qualities you associate with masculine?

If you were having sex in the dream, it could represent a desire to be more assertive in sex. Take the lead with your partner next time you’re getting it on. If you are single, maybe your subconscious is trying to tell you that it’s time to put yourself out there on the dating market.

If you are single, maybe your subconscious is trying to tell you that it’s time to put yourself out there on the dating market.

Think of the penis as a symbol for something traditionally masculine, and then think about what that means in the context of your life — sexually, emotionally, or otherwise. The dream is what you make of it.

Don’t think too seriously about this. It was one dream, and dreaming of having a penis doesn’t erase your lesbian identity or mean that you’re inadequate the way you are.

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