AE: Of course! So tell me, from your perspective, what really happened between the two of you.
KS: Well, Sarah and I had grown close as friends in the first few weeks of being in the house. What happened in the limo was absolutely likeâ€”was sort of a mess. [Laughs.] We were notâ€”I mean, I had no idea that kiss was coming, first of all, and second of all, it was justâ€”it was fun. We were all there and having a good time, and there were actually other kisses that went on in that limo, that went on between other girls who shall remain nameless.
AE: Really? Youâ€™re not going to tell me who they were?
KS: No, Iâ€™m not. [Laughs.] Thatâ€™s for them to say. But they focused on my kiss with Sarah becauseâ€¦Iâ€™m the lesbian, so all my kisses matter, but the limo was really pretty meaningless, obviously very meaningless. As far as anything else that happened, I think youâ€™re in that house and youâ€™re lonely and youâ€™re stressed out, and if you can forge a connection with someone, a closeness, you hold onto that. And Sarah and I were very close friends, and perhaps there was a moment when the friendship lines were blurred, but she and I were on the same page. We both knew that I had a girlfriend that I was very into, and she had someone back home as well. And there wasnâ€™t really much of a romantic feeling going on between us. It was much more of a moment of a question, and then it didnâ€™t happen, obviously. I mean, Iâ€”despite being in an open relationship, I was always emotionally committed to my girlfriend, and physically as well.
AE: And physically as well?
KS: Yeah, physically as well. I mean, if there was a makeout that occurred, so be it, but I donâ€™t really consider that toâ€¦call into question my relationship in any way.
AE: So youâ€™re referring to the little night vision thing that was shown on TV.
KS: Yeah, the night vision shot looked very different than it seemed in my eyes. I guess thatâ€™s up to interpretation.
AE: I can understand your perspective on this. Being a lesbian myself, it seems like, well, okay you hook up, whatever. But since Sarah clearly had never really done that before, do you feel like it was a different experience for her?
KS: I know thatâ€™s the way it was portrayed on the episode, that for her it was a much bigger deal, but Iâ€™m not sure if thatâ€™s true. Sarah and I had a lot of conversations about it, and it seems that for her she was confused about a lot of things in her life, and she was growing as a person. Sheâ€™s very young; sheâ€™s 18 years old, you know? And I think that she has a lot of figuring out to do, and her strife wasnâ€™tâ€”I donâ€™t thinkâ€”about me and her sexuality, it was about a lot of things. The competition was very stressful in general. And I have dated almost all girls who have not in fact been with girls before, which is a coincidenceâ€”Iâ€™m not just going for them! [Laughs.] But I think that I was definitely conscious of her feelings, and we are definitely on good terms. Itâ€™s not like I pieced her out as they made it look on the show. Itâ€™s not like that.
AE: So you feel like you were misrepresented?
KS: Misrepresented is a strong word. I think it was definitely exaggerated. â€¦ I think what went on between us was exaggerated, and I think her stress regarding it was exaggerated.
AE: In a recent interview with fansofrealitytv.com, you said that you though that Sarah was â€œtrying.â€ What did you mean by that?
KS: I meant that Sarah is a really talented girl and she tries hard at everything she does, and because [of] how young she is and where sheâ€™s from, she has to try a lot harder than a lot of people to achieve the goals that she wants to. I think that Sarah should always be respected for her efforts and for everything she does. And I think sheâ€™s someone who always tries her best, and I guess thatâ€™s what I meant, and maybe it came out wrongly in that interview.
AE: OK. So how did what happened with Sarah on TV affect your relationship with your girlfriend?
KS: Well, obviously it wasnâ€™t my girlfriendâ€™s favorite show to watch for a little while, but my girlfriend understood that my commitment was always to her, and she also understand that it was reality television; perhaps things were a little bit exaggerated. We have a lot of trust in our relationship and I think thatâ€™s what really allowed us to justâ€¦look at it as something that happened in the past when we were in an open relationshipâ€¦which she made the decision to have, not me. I think itâ€™s been clear since the first time we started dating that I wanted to be with just her. I think she knows that.
AE: How long have you guys been together?
KS: For eight months now. Weâ€™d only been together for like six weeks when the show started filming, but that was a long time ago, so when I got back from filming, we resumed our relationship and weâ€™ve been together ever since.
AE: Do you guys consider yourselves polyamorous?
KS: No, absolutely not. As soon as I got back from filming, we made our relationship exclusive.
AE: So youâ€™re no longer in an open relationship.