The Best and Worst Dating Apps For Lesbian and Bisexual Women


Being a lesbian is often all about deciphering whether or not women are interested in you. There is no code. There is no rainbow bat signal. All we have is intuition, and although that serves us right most of the time, our gaydar is sometimes off. That’s why dating apps are EVERYTHING in the gay community. Luckily, there are LGBT dating apps— but are they any good? Are they worth our precious gay time? Since AfterEllen is deeply committed to helping women connect with other women, I was asked to spend several weeks downloading and exploring a few of the hottest LGBTQ (and some non-LGBTQ) dating apps. Here’s the scoop:




  • A lot of women are on this app. It appears to be a popular option among gay women.
  • The women are attractive.
  • This is great for hookups.


  • Not a lot of women are active on the site or responsive. I didn’t get any messages, likes, or attention (poor me).
  • The app is also not user-friendly and somewhat confusing.
  • It feels outdated.

Summary: Overall, Lesly may be a place to find women, but it could potentially take weeks until you meet that special someone. If you plan to download the app, prepare for a learning curve. As a bonus, don’t expect any creepy messages from couples looking for threesomes. It’s all ladies, ladies.



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  • The app is catfish proof. The images you upload cannot be downloaded from the internet. They only allow photos from your phone’s camera roll.
  • The app also has an option to upload short videos of yourself as a profile picture, making it a great way to really know the person you’re talking to.
  • It’s user-friendly.


  • There are in-app purchase notifications too often. This app wants you to pay up.
  • There are no age-specific searches, making searches for particular women tedious.
  • The women are often overly upfront and sexual which could possibly be spam (or I’m just incredibly sexy?).
  • There doesn’t seem to be a lot of women using this app.

Summary: Fem is a step up from Lesly, but prepare for spam messages, overly sexual responses, constant in-app purchase reminders and a lot of videos of strangers. The app seems primarily for hookups. If that’s what you’re looking for, this is the app for you.

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