I don’t usually make resolutions, whether it’s for the new year or otherwise. They have never worked out for me, for starters. They’re usually a set up for failure, especially if the word “gym” is involved or the phrases “fewer drinks” and “low carb.” Nope. Not happening. Maybe I’m just not one for self-denial or rules. What can I say, I like to do what makes me happy and what feels good, I just don’t like it to take work (like dieting). If you can relate, then this short list is for you. These resolutions are all about feeling good, and I think they’re pretty simple but very affective. And hey, if you can’t stick to them, no worries. Resolutions are dumb, anyway.
1.Enjoy your pleasures. Stop eating the cheese fries and then immediately feeling guilt about it. This does you no good, and no one wants to hear how bloated you feel. Were they good? Great! You can eat a salad tomorrow, but please stop saying how bad you are for having enjoyed them. That’s why it’s called YOLO food. You really do only live once, so stop whining and next time, try the poutine.
2. Stop worrying over things you can’t control. I know this one is easier said than done, and I suffer from anxiety myself. But this is worth investing in self-care over, because the more you worry the more helpless you’re going to feel, and feeling helpless will only make you more worried, and well…you get the point.
3. Get rid of people who make you feel bad about yourself. They are s serious waste of your time and do not add anything of value to your life. Because no matter what someone says or does for you, if your every interaction leaves you feeling a little bit down, or less, or just off…listen to your instincts. This person has got to go. Today.
4. Support what you love, and ignore the things you don’t. You would think this would be obvious, but apparently it isn’t. I see this a lot on social media. People jump right into a toxic argument they know will lead nowhere, and we all seem to carry a guilty pleasure for seeking out that political figure or celebrity or website we just love to hate. Meanwhile, the pages you should be giving your likes and clicks to actually get less of your deserved attention. Think about that.
5. Ask out the girl. Stop showing her profile pic to your friends and asking their opinions first, stop lingering during your every interaction and walking away with regret, stop dissecting how she looked at your friend, or if she’s straight. Just ask her. If she says no and you feel silly, so be it. Consider it good practice. But what if she says yes? Ever thought of that? Oh, and if you’re not sure what to say, try this: “would you like to go out sometime?” (specifics like drinks, to see this band, to do this thing, etc. work well too).
6. Stop swiping left. Seriously stop. I see you. I see you when I’m out. You’re the girl who’s always on her phone, swiping without blinking. I’m not suggesting you stop using dating apps, far from it. Lesbians need dating apps to find each other more than ever now that we don’t have anymore lesbian bars. But stop judging so quickly. Even if you live in a large enough city to assume there will always be someone else – someone taller, or older, or without cats – you’re wrong. There isn’t always going to be someone better. Maybe five girls back was your soul mate, but you got trigger happy and judged the one pic where she was smiling weird. Now you’ve lost her forever. How does that make you feel? Not good? So stop doing it. Resolve to swipe right, at leas a few more times. You’ll feel good when you give someone a chance.
7. Go to bed. I know you want to stay up and watch one more episode of whatever you’re currently binge-watching, but you’re entire next day depends on this. It’s not hard. Just go to bed. It will make you feel good, and that’s the point. And don’t take your phone with you, either. I’ll know if you tweet at me at 1 a.m. when you should have been asleep, because I took my phone to bed;)