The trusty website, UrbanDictionary.com, has several definitions for the term lesbro:
1. A man who has more friendships with lesbians than other women or men.
2. The male equivalent of a fag hag.
3. A heterosexual man who is either one or both of the following: a brother to one or more lesbian sisters, or, friends with a disproportionate amount of homosexual women. “Wow, your brother really only hangs out with gay girls, doesn’t he! And you’re a big gay yourself, sister! What a lesbro you’ve got there!”
To us, a lesbro is a little bit of all, but at his core, a lesbro is a male friend to at least one, but possibly several, lesbians. This column shares a little bit about some famous lesbros that we love.
This week’s Lesbro: Peter Suk.
Peter Suk is a musician and composer based out of Portland, Oregon. He is also the keyboardist, co-singer and co-songwriter in the electro-indie pop duo Mnemonic Sounds. Peter and bandmate Megan Ouchida have completed their first full-length album, Muscle Memories, and Peter also works as a producer, teacher, composer, songwriter and session musician. He is in the midst of writing and recording a second Mnemonic Sounds album, while also composing music for various commercial licensing commissions.
AfterEllen.com: Of the above definitions of Lesbro, which do you think describes you best?
AE: What is the best thing about your lesbian friend/s and particularly your band mate Megan?
More specifically with Megan, I would say the best thing about her is her transparency when it comes to how she feels or what she thinks in any given situation. She doesn’t hide her disdain in her facial expressions when I make “that’s what she said jokes” in poor taste, and she won’t back down when we have a disagreement during the creative process of writing and recording music together.
AE: Do you think that having lesbian friends has anything to do with where you fall on the Kinsey scale? Care to comment on your own sexuality?
In general I believe sexuality is a scale that people fall onto with biology being the main determining factor as to how a person defines their orientation. However, I think enforced cultural and societal norms coupled with hundreds of years of institutionalized values being appropriated onto society often affects and influences the scaling on that Kinsey scale. I think there would be more people being open to the middle of the scale, particularly men, if we didn’t live in such a homophobic and Victorian informed culture that encourages that people be straight or gay, or a culture that encourages men to be “manly man,” as if being gay is something that would threaten emasculation.
As for myself, I’m definitely hetero, although I do have an occasional man crush for sure, although it has never been sexual in nature. I can appreciate a good-looking man for sure, though.
AE: What stereotype about lesbians have you found to be false?
AE: What do you think it is specifically that draws you towards being friends with lesbians?
AE: Did you know Megan was gay when you started your music project with her? How did that affect your relationship when she came out to you?
In truth, her coming out to me further established our open and honest way of communicating. While we always don’t see eye to eye on some things in the musical process, we always try to maintain a way of talking to each that is direct and open. And I think it solidified and brought us closer together as bandmates and friends because it allowed her to be her complete self with me. It did, however, increase the frequency of “that’s what she said” jokes in her presence, which has increased the eye rolling at me.
AE: How has your girlfriend — or past girlfriends if you are not in a relationship now — responded to your friendships with lesbians?
AE: Where did you grow up?
AE: Did you have a lot of queer friends in high school? Were people out in high school?
The funny thing is, my oldest friend with whom I went to school with all the way from first through 12th grade came out to me years later after college and told me he was gay and always knew during those formative years. It makes a bit sad as the type of school we went to really just didn’t allow for anyone to be gay both culturally and because of the religious tenants we were brought up with.
AE: You and Megan went to the same church together as kids. How does religion play into your relationship?
I reconnected with Megan post college after returning to Portland and heard some of her solo music and that is when we decided to start a band together. Although we were both raised religiously, neither of us are religious as adults. I won’t speak for Megan on the subject, but it really plays no part in our relationship or our music except perhaps as something we both experienced back when we were kids.
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