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What's YOUR Problem? Episode 9

Actress and therapist Cathy DeBuono and actress Marnie Alton talk about how they met auditioning for Exes & Oh's, what it was like for Marnie to have her first girl kiss, and how she learned about homosexuality while growing up.

The two women also take on AfterEllen.com viewer letters dealing with issues of that straight girl friend who is either homophobic, or wants to cross that line....

What's Your Problem? Episode 9 "What Happened to Gloria!?!"

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They also chat about their first paid gigs, childhood crushes and the battle of Canadians vs. Americans.... it's hard to tell who won.

If you have questions/issues you want Cathy to address, you can leave it in the comments, or private message Cathy (just make sure to let her know in the message whether she can mention your username on air or not).

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  • SlayreDrakon's picture

    Thanks

    Thanks Cathy and Marnie for doing this vlog! The advice is always awesome!
    ggeye's picture

    THE EDITED OUT SONG IS UP!!!!!

    What fun! That was great. I can't wait to see the what she edited out!.

    I got this from Cathy's myspace bulletin yesterday. It has to be the song.

     **PS - Tune back in to my myspace page tomorrow to see a special "Cutting Room Floor" edition of this particular episode.

    (I won't tell you what, but there was some stuff we couldn't legally post on Afterellen...... )

     http://www.myspace.com/cathydebuono  
    http://www.myspace.com/cathydebuono

     

    nepa's picture

    :)

    Tnx for link, was more than worth it. I can't stop laughin.
    IWantToComment's picture

    Cutting Room Floor

    YES!!  (Ms DeBuono:  You don't have to email those scraps to me now.)
    sonrisaysol's picture

    impatient

    i haven't even finished watching but marnie could be the best vlog guest ever!

    http://onefootinonefootout.blogspot.com/

    Gelphie's picture

    YES!

    I SECOND THAT!!
     
    You guys were ADORABLE and absolutely hilarious. I don't think i've laughed that hard in a VERY long time XD
     
    Love ya's!
      

    "If you should see her...tell her I miss her still." -- Galinda. 'Wicked'
    carolinagrrrl's picture

    Finally!

    Been waiting all day. :)

    Loved your chemistry on Exes and Oh's so I can't wait to see it on the vlog!

     

    Okay, so now I've watched it, and I have to say that is BY FAR my favorite episode of Cathy's vlog. Marnie, you are ABSOLUTELY ADORABLE!! And, you definitely didn't loose cool points for the New Kids on the Block reference--honesty is a good policy!

    Comet is precious.

    And there were two points where I laughed so hard that I almost spit out my coffee:

    Cathy: I'm tolerating your ignorance by not breaking your nose! And I've broken a few noses!

    AND

    When Cathy told Marnie to "prove" that Canadians are better at sex. ;)

     

    Kudos, ladies! Muah!

     

    http://legallyout.blogspot.com

    strict machine's picture

    best one yet!

    marnie is adorable!  that was so funny.  im gutted we didnt get to see gloria!
    ice cream's picture

    I haven't even watched yet

    and I'm stoked, totally.
    ice cream's picture

    too bad u had to edit out the song....

    Gloria.... Laura Branigan

    http://www.guba.com/watch/2000930168

    is it me or do most of the music of the 80's sound the same?? this song in the beginning sounded like.... physical, physical.... something like that. although i have no idea what year that song is from.... great vlog n i learned to beware the moths.... or at least wear underwear under my dresses. :D 

    Chantal's picture

    Yes!

    It absolutely does sound like Physical!

    As for the Vlog it was great, had a great laugh. Marnie is adorable

     

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    dazed's picture

    thanks for the great advice

    thanks for the great advice you two!

    i hadn't actually considered that her statement could have meant that she feels we can talk about the real issues we're having openly and in a trusting environment, so that actually makes me feel a lot better.

    awesome vlog as usual!

    supremebeing's picture

    Cathy your laugh is the

    Cathy your laugh is the cutest thing everrrr..
    Charlie's picture

    WOW!

    Marnie is so funny - "I approve this vlog"

    Great advice as usual Cathy :)

    just gotta wait for the song to be uploaded now....

    BetweenThaLines's picture

    Canadians

    Ok, I know Jim Carrey, Wendy Crewson, Avril Lavigne, Alanis Morissette, Keanu Reeves, Jennifer Tilly... that's all I can come up with. Pretty good for someone from Europe:p LOL

    Again a great vlog! Marnie was very entertaining and sweet! I must say that this vlog is one of my favs from AE. Always looking forward to it!

    http://www.youtube.com/BetweenThaLines

    Cristina's picture

    and don't forget

    Christina Cox....
    boywithmoonandstars's picture

    Favorites from Canada

    Martin Short, because he is a comedy icon. David Foley, Scott Thompson and Bruce Mcullough(sic) I.E The Kids in The Hall. The Mckenzie Brothers because their Twelve Days of Christmas parody is a staple of my household each year. And Don Cherry because he is the best hockey announcer in the whole damn world. I love to watch him rant about the players of today being wussies. One time he saw one of those little half-fights we usually see nowadays and Don said " Whats this poke, poke crap? If someone pokes ya in the face, ya drop your gloves and clock em'. That's hockey!" And while it's not a person The Beer Store is pretty cool too.
    NorthernSong's picture

    Canadians, eh?

    Marnie, my family has that book too, "So you want to be a Canadian, eh?" -- my dad loves it. Actually, I think it's pretty hilarious myself.

    But anyway, to add a few names to the list... Joni Mitchell, the Barenaked Ladies, the L Word's very own Mia Kirshner, Shania Twain, Sarah Maclachlan, Sum 41, Pamela Anderson (do we really want to claim her?), Feist, Charles Best and Frederick Banting (they discovered insulin. Hmm, maybe they're only famous in Canada. But everyone who goes to elementary school in Canada knows their names -- kind of like that cotton guy in the US. Eli Whitney?) Ellen Page obviously, k.d. lang, Dan Aykroyd, Alex Trebek, Margaret Atwood, Ann-Marie Macdonald... and Marnie Alton. :)

    You guys are adorable -- and Cathy, your blog is great. The moths kind of make me cringe though. Ugh. Good luck with those...!
    jam's picture

    more famous canadians

     steve nash

    neil young

    paul anka

    Reginald A. Fessenden - invented the television

    james naismith - invented basketball

    evangaline lilly - LOST

    neve campbell - wild things

    mike meyers

    matthew perry - friends

    jason priestly

    william shatner

    kiefer sutherland

    John candy

    phil hartman - SNL/simpsons

    joshua jackson - dawson's creek

    eugene levy - american pie

    Rick moranis - honey i shrunk the kids

    brendan fraser

    ryan gosling - the notebook

    tom green

    Jay Manual - america's next top model

    alexander graham bell invented the telephone in canada...but moved to the states to develop it

    ggeye's picture

    THEA GILL

    Love her!
    danamite's picture

    another great one!

    That would be tied with another for my fav vlog so far!

    What a great mix of having fun, intelligent conversations,and sexy girls.

    How many hits do you think you just caused on Gloria videos?

    Leibug's picture

    Great

    Vlog again!  Marnie is funny and absolutely adorable(aww she cuddles with her best friend...too sweet)!!  And Cathy good sound advice always thank you so much!  Thank goodness for Vlogs and the interweb, eh, Lucia?! ;D

    takebacktonight's picture

    Yes we can claim Superman (Heritage Moments!)


    And the telephone (kinda). Alexander Graham Bell summered in Canada...

    Basketball was invented by a Canadian...but I think he was living in Boston..

    Insulin too!  

    Samantha's picture

    Canadian Inventions.

    some other Canadian inventions are :

    5 pin bowling, kerosine, Muskol (which is very imporant where I live in the summer, the mosquitoes are CRAZY), Pictionary, Rollerskates, snowblower, Trivial Pursuit, the zipper, the light bulb, amongst other things.

    Great things come out of Canada. The best thing to come out of Canada I think is the Poutine. I don't eat them that often because I don't like cheese, but seriously, fried potatoes, cheese and gravy in a bowl. Yum.

    Siri's picture

    Loved it :-) as always ;-)

    You guys seem to have so much fun, I'm jealous ;-) I love Marnie and I love Cathy, as always this was an awsome vlog. perfect way to start the weekend and holidays :-D

    Have a great week :-)

    Hugs and smiles 

     

    "Be who you are and say what you want because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter" Dr.Seuss

    Lost in New York's picture

    Very Entertaining...

    This was my favorite vlog ever.  Very entertaining, insightful, funny.  This vlog had the whole package.  We love you Marnie.  You should be a guest on the show more often.  You and Cathy have a lot of really good chemistry together and you're both equally funny and smart.  I LOVED it.
    Bea Woman's picture

    Love on the Side

    Wow  - I was just watching Love on the Side yesterday and I was like "hmm...Vernice looks alot like Marnie Alton" turns out that it was her! Cute movie, although  I disapproved of the straight girl using a lesbian to make a guy jealous. But Marnie's character was adorable (how could she not be?) and ended up with the girl hee hee! Great vlog as usual!
    chocolatebars's picture

    Best WYP vlog.

    There's many famous Canadians, Ellen Page, Rachel Mcadams! Hahaha! Marnie is sooo hot and how cute is she?? The way she talks, tell stories,how she's confident in her own sexuality, are all very endearing. Marnie should be a guest vlogger for every vlog!On a more regular basis!
    Gem89's picture

    Great Vlog!!

    Marnie is so cute.

    By the way are we ever gonna see Lucia? cos u want to put a face to the funny comments and quick fire questions

    Vic's picture

    Cathy and Marnie are amazing!

    This was a great vlog, well worth the wait! Marnie is a fantastic woman. I'm dying to see her sing for us.

     

    jeeo's picture

    The End

    Aww that was cool. "I'm Marnie Alton, and I approve this vlog."

     

    Great vlog :D

    ice cream's picture

    I had to do it

    I had to find "Gloria" and your right, it's disturbing and doesn't make much sense. Marnie is so cute and you two definitely have great chemistry. BTW, is Becca coming back to Exes and Oh's? One can hope. Great Vlog as usual.  Do I need to start a write in campaign somewhere? 
    gooby's picture

    Possibly the best ending to

    Possibly the best ending to a vlog ever. High-larious. Marnie is such a sweetiepie! And this was a really, really good episode. Marnie is an amazing guest. I wouldn't mind seeing her return! Please? :D She had some really great stories and insights.
    Girl Blunder's picture

    My thanks for this Vlog

    For the most part I avoid such things as Blogs and Vlogs, but was bored last night and was reading about the ones hosted here on the site.

    Most of them didn't hold much interest to me...I'm afraid I don't watch the shows, I just like reading about them. (I'm odd like that.)

    The idea for this Vlog intrigued me, so I decided to watch.

    I would like to say that the episodes I've seen have been exactly something that I've been seeking...but didn't know it.

    There's enough comedy and joking around to make me comfortable enough to be receptive to the more serious issues you discuss. I must say, as a bit of an isolated lesbian, I am very grateful to have stumbled upon this gem.

    I'm eternally grateful for whomever thought of getting Cathy DeBuono to do a Vlog like this. And, I am also extremely grateful that she is just the person that makes a Vlog like this work. Thanks Cathy.

    I can't wait for next episode. =)

    ice cream's picture

    No undies?

    That's the best moth story I ever heard. Thanks Cathy and Marnie, great vlog. Marnie, you didn't need to worry, you were a great guest.
    Ms. Davies's picture

    Marnie rocks!

    I so wanted to see Marnie singing! Marnie is histerically funny and she talks with her hands! I love multitasking too!

    Great vlog, the funniest so far! I loved Marnie's moth story, hilarious!

    Congrats Cathy, you're the best!

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    Gloria

    OMG, it's a cover of a famous italian song of the end of 70's or begining of the 80's (and the same title !) !! Cathy, as an italian, you don't know that ??? I'm just 50% and I know it ! ;-) I think the singer is Umberto Tozzi...not sure of my memory.

     

    Am I the only who have noticed Lucia in the mirror in the last vlog ??

     

    Cathy, even if I don't understand many of what is said (don't worry, not only in your vlog) cause english is not my native tong, I can't wait for your vlog each week.

     

    Marnie and Corday are definitely my favorites...sorry for all others before !

    Susi's picture

    Loved it

    This was probably the best vlog yet, Marnie rocks.

    Oh, and the Björn Borg comment made me laugh, but that was probably just me. He's a tennisplayer and he's swedish.

    Pyewacket's picture

    I laughed too!

    The BB comment made me laugh too, especially because of how proud Cathy was to remember his name for like two seconds until it dawned on her he was a tennis player! lol
    Sparky's picture

    I approve this vlog

    This was one of the best yet! Marnie was an amazing guest. She was the perfect combination of 'fun yet insightful'.

     

    EDIT: I just saw Marnie singing If I Loved You Anymore" over at logo andshw was fantastic. It's such a beautiful song and she has such a beautiful voice!

    ufos_are_real's picture

    a Canuck also invented the Zipper

    yes Cathy its true Superman was infact created by a Canadian we even had commercials on tv to tell us this glorious story of our canadian heritage --> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9GYWbhBoHM

     

    and here are some names to throw out the next time you play the "famous canadian" game Marnie

     

    Mike Myers

    Jim Carrey

    Mr. Matrix Keanu Reeves

    Pamela Anderson

    Neve Campbell

    Avril Lavigne

    Shania Twain

    Alanis Morissette

    and the woman that brought us LILITH FAIR!! Sarah McLachlan

    and TEGAN AND SARA! : )

     

     

     

     

    sarah's picture

    adorable

    all i have to say is.....cathy and marnie are too friggin cute...
    Dana's picture

    Once a week isn't enough!!

    Cathy - Once again, the vlog was excellent.  Marnie was delightful, and you were just as adorable as ever.   You seem to have great chemistry with everyone and it's always a joy to watch you interact with your guests.  I love how you can be serious, funny, 'giggly', shy, and goofy all in the span of 1/2 hour.  The advice is always right on, with just the right mix of fun, frivolity and sexiness thrown in.  You are truly awesome! 

    P.S.  I just love Comet!! 

    Looking forward to the 'cutting room floor' edition!

    ice cream's picture

    Geez

    I can't belive how great this vlog was. Marnie Alton is my new crush :)

    I can't even think straight...

    imthey's picture

    Vlog "approved by Marnie Alton" (LOL)

    Go Lucia... we finally get to hear more from the woman behind the camera, now if only we could see Lucia from time to time as well!
     
    Marnie's so sweet, especially in the almost apologetic way that she says "I like boys" (☺cute). Not to mention Marnie has really nice arms. 
     
    Go Cathy, all chivalrous and everything... getting Marnie "off the street" and asking about her comfort level before your scenes together on Exes and Oh's! I love the chemistry between the two of you and the always adorable giggle fest throughout so much of the vlog.
       
    I'm right there with you... I too have trouble focusing when I'm sitting next to a pretty girl or watching 2 (or more) of them, which explains why I usually have to watch these and all the vlogs from the ladies of AfterEllen more than once. Between Marnie and Cathy with the hot arms (biceps and deltoids) I had an even harder time concentrating this week.
      
    I had that Laura Branigan album growing up and listened to it way too much!
      
     
    "Think Sideways"
        I M THEY

    ice cream's picture

    Meucci

    The telephone was invented by an Italian. Come on DeBuono, you should know this.
    Connie's picture

    !

    I visited Vancuver once to visit my uncle who lives there, and there were a lot of asians. It made me want to go back. I don't rerember hearing too much French though.

    I think it is cute that your dog just sits there all wet and everything, with my dog if you are not actively doing anything with him he will try to escape out of the bath tub.

    "So put me on a plane, and fly me to anywhere...with you"-Augustana

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    ALBERTA RULES!!! YAY MARNIE!!!/ Shots/ Who is in the picture?

    Marnie Alton

    K.D. Lang

    Nathan Fillion

    Evangeline Lilly...

    All fellow Albertans! Hmm I think everyone in this list is from Edmonton or Northern AB...

    I'm living in Edmonton right now, going to U of A! But I'm a Lethbridge girl, sorry I don't like the cold.flagflag

    Marnie you rock!!!! Oh my goodness!! I remember the SAAN store in Coaldale!!!

    saansaan

    Love Albertans! Except the PC's and Ralph Klein.

    Aww poor Cathy hiding from the evil Dr's and their shots!

    But hey I'm a Registered Nurse, and I gave about 100 shots to Gr 9 kids in the past 3 days and NO ONE cried or said it hurt, so hey if you need a shot, I would gladly do it.

    P.S. Who is in the picture you have on the couch? I think I saw the same pic on top of your laptop a few episodes ago.

    Samantha's picture

    SAAN

    We have a SAAN where my parents live. There's probably one where I am too. That and Rossy. Oooh Dollarama too. I go there to get snacks for my lunch. Giant Tiger, BiWay (I miss that store). Great stores.

    I'm not that bad with needles. I give blood and have tattoos so they don't bother me. The only time getting a needle bothered me was in November when I got my mumps vaccine. When she put the needle in the skin I could feel it burning. It felt like hot acid going into my arm. Terribly painful.

     

    Wendy's picture

    Bad nurse and mumps

    Yes people made fun of me for shopping at Saan store.

    Yuck the mumps outbreak here... so bad.. but then they shut down the campaign because of those few anaphylactic reactions. So I didn't end up getting mine.
    It shouldn't burn, it's not going into your muscle, so I think you got a sucky person giving you the shot.