Lesbian Love: The Ex (Episode 4)

i really like this series so far. hope it goes on for awhile. i complete agree about the dangers of cyber stalking an ex. definitely one of the worst ways to try and deal.

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I love your honesty with each other, I can't stop watching this, you give some really good sound advice. Keep on doing what your doing! Cant wait for more! ox

"My First, Last, Forever" Angie <3

LOL at the Princess Di quote.

That number thing is completely true!

Ladies expressed some good points.  Very smart and wise.

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 ... social networking sites but I think that is an impossibility in today's internet. What I do is: I don't friend request from people I work with and no exes ever. So I set limits, I think thats the reasonable thing to do.

lacey....I kid, I kid is triumph the insult wonderdog

Friendship follows Fearlessly. Never Blindly. Never Lightly.

Lacey you're a trainer right? I can imagine in my head you screamin to your clients "move it! lets go! that the best you got?!". I had a personal trainer once, twas a guy. Good looking guy but I got dead bored and am still overweight :P

lol off topic, sorry. You girls are awesome and I can see both of ya are getting a lot more comfier doing these Vlogs :)

Haha I love these : ), and its great that you two are able to communicate so well.  And yeah, facebook pretty much sucks after you've been dumped.

Just watched the vlog for the first time, and I'm about to back track and watch the rest. You have great chemistry and zaniness (off the cuff) to the show.

And both of those things are refreshing to watch. Thanks for a great job!

Lacey and I really appreciate you all watching, and all the feedback and ideas we're getting... so keep it coming please!

 We're definitely enjoying ourselves at AE and plan to stick around for a while ;)

 Jessica xo 

The actual quote by the late princess during her interview with Martin Brashir.

"There were three in the marriage so it was a bit crowded"

She was so eloquent in that interview but the critics were really rough on her. She was so beaten emotionally you could almost feel her pain. Sad moment in history. I might add.

Thanks Jessica and Lacey you are truly both inspiring. Keep the blogs coming. I look forward to Mondays.

Your words are insightful

Robin

Thank you both for taking the time to create such a lovely and entertaining vlog.

As a future topic, may you tackle the issue of gender constructs/roles within relationships?  In what ways did upbringing and gender "performance" mitigate how you initially conceptualized same-sex partnership?  I've often contemplated how gender "rules" (not necessarily strictly bound to ongoing feminine/masculine/butch/femme dichotomies) have impacted my previous relationships.  As a femme raised in an Italian emigrant household, I've struggled to distance myself from such pronounced gender roles.  Yet, I've often relapsed into the familiar when dealing with issues ranging from chore allocations to how guest(s) ought to be welcomed and treated (as in: they must be fed).  Did you both ever directly address gender roles?   If so, how do you strike a balance?  

informative, but also lighthearted & funny. nice work.

"if she's prettier than you, that sucks. and if she's not prettier than you, that sucks too." haha so true. 

From the series.

 Maybe because I can relate the most to.

 I like how you guys tackle hard issues and you just put it out there.

 I would really like it if you talked about staying friends with the ex, you know the lgbt community is so small that sometimes you don't get much of a choice but it's hard to really get over someone if you stay friends, but if you don't then you might lose them for good... so then what?

 Anyway, cool topic  

I love how you guys are so open with each other its fantastic.

Ill keep watching for sure.

Hey Amira!

Yes I'm a trainer - www.laceystonefitness.com and I'll WHOP YA! :)

Thank you all for your comments... I can't wait for you to see next weeks episode we've made some "background" changes and we're going to answering A LOT of your questions.

Thank YOU,

Lacey 

UGH, of course this is all so easy for them to say when they are in a happy relationship together.

Lestara girrlll... if it weren't for the ex's we would have never found each other. You have to go through some major BS before you find your queen. I feel for you woman... I really, really do.

Love,

Lacey Xx 

I'm sorry Lacey, but the whole time you were talking I was just imagining myself unzipping your girlfriend's top. Don't blame me! If anything, blame Jessica for being so damn beautiful! Oh but you're nice too...

Love is fun, but love-making is sexy!

hahahah you gotta love the EX!! ugh! 

Great job ladies :P

Okay, so this week I agree on some things, but disagree on others:

1) Co-dependency.
Being completely emotionally dependent on someone is never healthy, especially if that love is all you have and you are unhappy with the rest of your life.
But there is nothing wrong with feeling that the other person completes you. Most relationships don't last, but I can say from experience that they don't last because the other person isn't "completing" you (in terms of being compatible with you). When I say "You complete me", I refer to more than just "Having you makes me happy." It all comes down to the things that really matter and are the foundation of every lasting relationship (humor, support, being "on the same wavelength",...), not "just a feeling." Your mere emotions often betray you, especially when you're the type of person that needs someone in their life and cannot be alone. But sometimes - if you get lucky - you might meet that special person that indeed enriches your life in a way that you haven't known before.

2) "Stalking"
Indeed a bad idea. As long as you are not over someone, you should under any circumstances avoid things like looking up pictures of her and her new girlfriend, gathering information about her current life through friends, etc. That only slows down the healing process.
But once you are over her, there is no reason why the two of you cannot be friends, as long as you respect that there are lines that cannot (and should not) be crossed. Some things might still sting for a moment, but it won't last.
However, if you figure out you can't do it, then don't -- but it is wrong to generalize the issue by saying that no one can build up a healthy non-romantic relationship with their ex.

Cheers!

Hey Everyone!

 Be sure to tune into to our Monday Episode! We've changed things up a BUNCH... I think you'll like it. It's all in the details :)

Years ago you could split up, take her number out of your phone & just disappear.. Now you have her mobile number,house number & work number engrained on your brain.  Also, her friends are your friends on Facebook & seehowmystatusproveswhatagreattimeimhavingwithoutyou.com

You don't want to be mean by removing her but you know for a fact that she's checking up on what you're doing coz you're doing exactly the same thing.. (just out of curiosity - I have no exes on here, I can tell the truth).

It's like stalk or be stalked...

: )

wow, i check my crush's myspace page all the FREAKIN time! :(

its complete torture! haha...

i check for new photos, or her twitter thoughts, her friends comments. booo....

I know i shouldnt so i can totally Move ON! but its soo hard! :(((