U People: Episodes 36 & 37 "Femme Fatale" and "Bringing U People Together"

Thanks for this episode. I have a question: why are there specific roles in the lgbt community? I feel I do not fit any roles unless someone thinks I do. I am just myself. With this I feel I may have a difficult time finding women (in general) to date. Also I do not care for the roles, I am not interested in an aggressive, butch, feminine, etc. I just want to date an average female. The personality is what interests me which I find is similar to what Aja Harris stated about what attracts her to different women.

I am glad there is a dvd made. I have to check it out. My Name is Tara. I feel ya. I understand labels but I don't understand role playing(outside the bedroom that is). I think it dehumanizes people and their integrity as a soul living in a human body. I recently came to that conclusion.

...and of coarse I will support the oppertunity to see the work of more creative women of color .

I think that we have to be careful when using societal measurements of what is "girl-ish/feminine" and what is "boy-ish/masculine". Instead of using those terms, can we actually decribe the characteristics?I know its difficult, and it'll make us have to use our words, and all, but its worth it. Just in order to un-bundle gender/sex with the portrayal.

We have children being teased and beaten up when they present certain characteristics that society upholds contra to their sex: too girly or too boyish. Its stupid, and shows the lower levels of Society-IQ, but its real. My blood boils when I hear things like "cries like a girl"

There is no rule that women have to be passive sexually, or on a daily basis in their general day to day activities. I truly believe its nurture, not nature. Women are taught to be passive, in order to cater in the male equivalents(fathers, brothers, uncles, husbands) in their lives, just like men are raised to hide their emotions. Unfortunately, those same ridiculous paradigms are being translated in the lesbian community. In my opinion, its stupid. Absolutely stupid, to play to these roles...especially when there is no basis for it when there are 2 women in the play.

Sorry, I could go on...this is something that really gets to me, similar to the use of the N word in the black community. I guess I'll stop here.

I'll be in touch at the Upeople site to see how I can be of assistance to the Upeople movement.

Thanks for providing the opportunity for this discourse!

 

Love never loses its way home. Remember...its about the journey, not the destination

Great vlog as usual ladies, always so insightful. Gloria and those women she interviewed are gorgeous. Wow!