Cherry Bomb: "Back Burner Relationships"

Great episode, Ladies!

Love to see you all a little tipsy and yet still coherent. Always looking forward to watching you and you never disappoint.

 

That was a great episode ladies! It was nice to hear the guest's voices for once :)

I think the thing about back burner relationships is that everyone feels like they need a safety net just in case the front burner relationship doesn't work out. But you have to be black & white & healthy about it like Nikki. Most people reside in the grey area so the whole back-burner thing gets really complicated really fast. Personally I'm grey about everything, so I have to be careful & avoid those situations.

Seriously if Nicole is not single I'll be the back- burner for her any day :) & too bad Rachel is straight-poor thing!

 

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"You can not pray away the gay!"--- Callie Torres

Nicole Pacent!!

That is all.. :)

Great episode!!  OMG!! Nicole is sooo Hot!!

I don't know if you'd consider that a back burner... but for me it's part of the safety of my relationship, knowing that I can still have a thing for another woman and be sure that I want to be in my relationship.

On the other hand, I've made a decision in not approaching the other girl, though there's definately always been a spark.That for me is where things stop being grey, even though you still find someone else attractive.

Oh, and I think I have been a back burner as well. It made me stronger, that's what I'd say today, but at that time it drove me nuts. But having been there I'd definately say I'm the type who enjoys healthy relationships where both partners are on the same page...

For the surprise question: did you use the same question two times or was that an accident?

 

I could not have a "back burner" individual waiting for a relationship with me because I am honest. I will let the individual know I am interested or not. Also I have never had a situation like this happen to me (as of yet). And I hope it does not.

My story kind of reminds me of this issue: I was waiting for a former crush to think of me as the same way so we could (possibly) date but she had only seen me as a friend. It took me around 5 years to truly move on for myself. Early this year I had tried to be her friend (again, after not contacting her for a year or so), we got along but my feelings were coming back. Around two months ago, I had the feeling of officially letting her go, I was not going to try anymore; I had to move on. I had told her this and I have not talked to her since. So because of this situation I could not do the "back burner" relationship to anyone.

Wow, I've been dropping hints for years (posters, gay flags) yet my family just will not even ask about it. I don't think we'll ever talk about it since neither of us is comfortable bringing it up. About the back burner thing...I guess I'll find out it when I actually have a real relationship.

What a coincidence! I'm-having-this-issue-where-I'm-on-the-back-burner! It's-a-bit-complicated.

i dnt think they got wht tatum was saying.. she was saying tht her backburner wasnt really for a relationship back burner. she was saying tht just incase her relationship didnt work out tht she has someone on the side tht was a player or doing there own thing tht she didnt look at as a partner or future relationship and tht they were just someone to have around for whn she became single again tht she could have sex with.. like a friends with benefits.

Gosh i love these girls, Nicole and Rachael! cant wait for ABM's return! And great topic this week. I just realised, how unhealthy it is especially being the one waiting.. Damn Rachael is so cute..why is she straight?! *sigh

when you're a back burner for someone, they usually keep you waiting, play the old "come here, go away" game. what makes you a non-equal partner to that person.

and why do people still think that once they're in a relationship with someone like this, they will be an equal partner?

(my own story got me thinking. and the "i'll never do that to myself again"-part. ;) )

I don't think I could ever have a back burner relationship. I'm just way to honest. Once I am in a relationship with someone I stop looking at other women. I don't even put myself in a situation for temptation.

Say you love me. Say you don't. I can make my own mistakes. Let it bend before it breaks. -Brandi Carlile

great show!

I actually got Tatum's insurance point, as well.  I have always called my backburner relationship, my 'break glass in case of emergency' person.  While I was committed to my partner and would never cheat on her, I knew that I had this mutual attraction for this other person.  I didn't feel guilty.  I never cheated my partner out of my feelings either.  I always made a point of never being alone with the other person because I didn't want to mess up anything I had with my partner.  Who knows?  My partner could have had this same thing going on with someone else.