Cherry Bomb: "Women With Children"

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QUESTION: Are Gloria and Nikki dating?

They're normally kinda flirty on the show, but the kiss and the talk of "our baby", it just seems a little more legit.

I would think it's really cute. Its sort of adorable =)

the reactions to the question!

I had a baby before I really identified myself as bisexual-- I have five children, my oldest who turned 19 recently, but I was 15 when my oldest was born. I was 16 when I came out. And I remember it was really REALLY hard to date. And it's not about a single person without any kids feeling "okay" with dating ME, even when I was 16 years old and had broken up with my boyfriend (who is now my husband) and trying to date women, I was dating WOMEN, not GIRLS. I mean, there were no girls my own age who would date me at that time, so I was always dating women (and men) who were older. Girls my own age were completely freaked out by the idea of me with my kid, and honestly, I had three children by the time I was 20. I had five children before I was 30. That was an age range where people weren't all that inclined to date me.

There were some people who didn't want to deal with it. I mean, all five of my kids have the same father, and I think they looked at me, struggling to make ends meet when I was a 20 year old college student with three kids and it freaked them out. 

But really, I didn't think about it much from THEIR perspective. For the most part, I thought about people I'd date as distractions from my kid.If I dated you, you were taking time away from my kids, so you damn well better be worth it. And you only meet my kids if you were worth it. 

I know teen moms and young moms get a bad rap, and sometimes, it's deservedly so, particularly because they wouldn't give me an epidural with my first one since I was too young. But something kicked in, that instinct of really fierce protection. I mean, people looked at my kid the wrong way and I'd go after them. And come on, I had three kids by the time I was 20 years old, and none of them were  multiple births. I was NOT big on good judgment-- I am insidiously fertile though. Anyway. So when you have a kid, dating becomes about not whether they'd date you, but whether YOU'D date THEM. There were some people I dated just for fun, because I was young and they were hot, but not once did I introduce my kids to them. I got a babysitter or they went with their dad, and I had lots of fun with a hot person with a personality disorder. 

But there were some people who, even before they met my kids, would ask about them. And then they'd slowly meet my kids. My very first girlfriend, the one I had as a teenager, who was a few years older than I was and was kind of freaked out about me having kids since she was young too, but was open to it, that's the woman who would later become the godmother of each of my kids.

I get why single people with no kids don't want to date people with  kids though. I'm lucky I ended up with the father of my kids-- it took a LONG time to get there. I was 14 when I got pregnant and I didn't end up marrying him until I was 2. And in that time there was some very ugly arguments about custody, about when the kids go with whom, etc etc. When my kids spent Christmas with their dad, back when they were little, I cried the whole week and my girlfriend at the time had to comfort me. I mean, I kind of get why dating someone with a kid would be an inconvenience for someone childless.

But really, we're dealing with kids here, and the parent of those children are the ones who have the most to lose.  

loving the friendship between these 2...gloria seem abit out of place with this topic though...

LOL to the reaction to the etiquette question is hilarious... lmao!

Unless they´re really butch, LOL... Gloria you are one funny lady!

All of your facial expressions when you read/heard the question was comedy gold!! :D

And Tatum always raises intresting questions and points of views. Also I never thought I´d enjoy talk about dog poop. " I would walk it, but I can´t pick up it´s .....stuff" LOL

Another great vlog ladies!

 

It is definitely a plus being in gay community as a lesbian that gives opportunity evaluate situation see if you are ready to commit to having a child.

I agree Gloria having a child is big responsibility.  It is life changing, and it changes your priority in life.  I would have to get lot things out of system before I could commit to that type of lifestyle.  

 

Great episode again ladies...very insightful!

On the Nikki & Gloria front....that's been going on for ages - especially during that one episode when Nikki was more than the usual flirty self...I too picked up on the 'our' baby and the cutie kiss on the forehead....I'd like to think they are but I have a feeling it's a no, but one can still dream!

Keep doin what you're doin girls!

Respect your partner's parenting style, and when you have children together sharing the responsibilities is critical.  Balancing the attention you put into your relationship with your partner and your child takes some thinking and some juggling.

another fabulous episode ladies. the question of the week was quite hilarious.

on a different note, it seems like the production crew is playing around with the camera effects. i like it!

looking good tatum! 

seems like Nikki is hired on already. so...*rips application**tear* damn! lol. and idk, bout the rest of you guys, but I think everyone should boycott straight women from now on. I personally am fortunate enough to not have had the same experience, but Damn, her experience is enough to keep me from going down that road again. Powder and Toilet Paper? wowwww........ but then again, it could've been a lot worse than that? YUCK!

 

I would love to have children, the idea appeals to me. However, I am not ready now, I do not think I will make a good mother just yet and there are many things that I would love to do before then. Having a child is a huge responsibility and like Nikki, I grew up raising my siblings, so it is not something I would ever go in to lightly.

This is my first time commenting and I love the show, the diversity of opinions is a wonderful thing.

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I dated a chick with a kid. Cute kid. Wouldn't do it again. I'm too busy being selfish now and wanting to wander off to another city for a weekend. You can't do that with a baby. So no. No  kids. Not unless the kid is like, 9 and can spend the night at a friend's.

Also...TALC? GAWD that just SOUNDS itchy!! I remember that being at like, the very end of the spectrum of pH in science class of acids and bases. That can't be good for the vadge of honor.

Also. Gloria. My love. You're awesome as always, lol.

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I have no experience on the women with kids issue- a little too young to be thinking about that but-

Toilet paper and powder? TOILET PAPER AND POWDER- OMG THAT'S DISGUSTIING WTF?!

I dated a woman with a child before, won't do it again though. Kids aren't for me, now or ever. Great episode ladies.

hey...it got cut off in the middle...not fair. :(