Cherry Bomb: "Gay Marriages"

First, I want to say that Nikki looks really yummy in her outfit. ;)

Second, I so, so, so agree that it's important to be out (obviously when you're ready) and like Nikki said, make it so that people look at your sexuality as a secondary thing instead of walking around with a rainbow flag. It's one thing to be proud but it's also another thing to make your sexuality the biggest part of your life. If people look at gays as people who just so happen to be gay and not just "gay people", it'll make it easier for gays to be more accepted.

I don't know how you ladies manage to put together such good videos each and every week. This one was absolutely riveting as you all asked questions that were spot on to the topic. And the advice you gave for the question of the week made perfect sense (i.e., take your family along with you on the journey of pregnancy and look for family allies). I wish you had more time to talk about gay marriage, though, as it is definitely a timely topic. And if Prop 8 gets defeated here, then hopefully that will start a trend across the country.

By the by, are any of you coming out (so to speak!) to Palm Springs Pride? It's coming up at the end of the month. Also, I think taping a couple of your shows at Dinah next year would be outstanding. 

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Ladies you seem to top yourselves every week. I vote this vblog episode on my top 5 fav episode  lists of all the vblogs on AE. This was defintely an important issue to breakdown. I'm very glad you had an attorney to come on as a guest to help us understand the legality of Propsition 8,state and federal laws stance on same-gender marriages across the US. I want to thank you so very much.

Thanks Dalila and Gloria for speaking the truth to the African-American womyn about interracial babies/children and lesbian relationships.

 Awww Nikki, I hope your wishes come true about wanting an interracial baby. All babies no matter what race or ethnicities are beautiful.

Worship you all!

This blog is tha best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

=D Tatum looked extra hawt today!

I love my American neighbours, but seriously...  your country boasts about being the land of opportunity etc and something about apple pie, yet equality rights are still being trampled on.  Honestly, it seems so long ago when we passed Bill C-38 The Civil Marriage Act (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Civil_Marriage_Act).  Why is it that it takes so long for the US to hop on the same boat?  If we did a census, I'm sure there are more LGBT people in the US than there is in Canada, yet we are the country that has the rights.  

I can only hope for my neighbours that Prop 8 gets shut down, and that it is just one step towards being the 7th country to legalize same-sex marriage ( I was going to say 6th, but apparently Norway is gaining recognition next year!)  

P.S.  I volunteer to have Nikki's interracial baby :) 

And it's awonderful thing. we were married at our local city hall last week.  SF city hall. Don't let anyone tell you it doesn't make a difference. It has made an incredible difference in our stature, our life as a couple. It's fabulous.   Our lawyer explained that though it is not legal federally, it is a contract executed in CA that calls for what is mine is hers and vce versa..A mile starts with a few steps. We must assure this law remains in tack.

For our young baby dykes everywhere.

And it's awonderful thing. we were married at our local city hall last week.  SF city hall. Don't let anyone tell you it doesn't make a difference. It has made an incredible difference in our stature, our life as a couple. It's fabulous.   Our lawyer explained that though it is not legal federally, it is a contract executed in CA that calls for what is mine is hers and vce versa..A mile starts with a few steps. We must assure this law remains in tack.

For our young baby dykes everywhere.

And it's awonderful thing. we were married at our local city hall last week.  SF city hall. Don't let anyone tell you it doesn't make a difference. It has made an incredible difference in our stature, our life as a couple. It's fabulous.   Our lawyer explained that though it is not legal federally, it is a contract executed in CA that calls for what is mine is hers and vce versa..A mile starts with a few steps. We must assure this law remains in tack.

For our young baby dykes everywhere.

I'm not trying to start something...

It almost seems like Nikki wants Gloria's ethnic babies.

LOL when Gloria replies, "ok, we gonna get you one." 

Are Nikki and Gloria...

Or is Nikki REALLY affectionate?

It's a little early to be talking about having kids.

** Nikki and that shirt... that is all

Please, please take action against Prop 8 everyone!  I'm a volunteer lead with my local San Diego headquarters and we're working so hard to keep people coming back in for another shift.  With only 17 days left, we don't have time to recruit new volunteers.  We need everyone on the phonebanks and we need every volunteer to recommit to another shift!

Steve Bing and Equality California has also issued a challenge to all supporters of No On 8 and will match every dollar donated from now until Sunday up to 1 million dollars.

Visit www.NoOnProp8.com to find the closest field office to volunteer or to donate online.  Anything and everything helps, even if it's just one volunteer shift or a $5 donation.  Send me a message if you want some more info.  This Proposition isn't going to defeat itself!

 You do not have to live in California to donate, so don't that stop you. Everything counts from now until Nov. 4th. 

Seriously.  Who wants to wake up on the 5th and think to themselves, "What if I had just volunteered one more time, or made one more donation?" Seperate but equal is an issue we thought we defeated already, but don't let anything fool you into believing that we have this fight in the bag.  Nov. 4th, I'm going to be clutching the hands of my fellow volunteers who I've been working beside for the last three months until the very last voting booth results come in.

• "Mixed babies are stunning and gorgeous and adorable." 

• "I wanna little ethnic baby." 

Every single one of us belongs to an ethnic group and are ethnic in some way. Nikki belongs to an ethnic group.  Just as I do.  So I don't really get it... 

"Be who you are and say what you feel,
because those who mind don't matter
and those who matter don't mind."    ~Dr. Seuss

This is the first time I've commented on anything on this website although I've been coming here quite a lot and I've watched pretty much every CherryBomb vlog ---

But this one just seemed so important. I'm sure 'Gay Marriage' is important to most people here, but what really got to me was what was said about immigration because I am in one of those long distance relationships. I was an exchange student to the US two years ago and I met my girlfriend there. We've been together for close to 15 months now and even though we're still pretty young --- things like that just cross your mind... Figuring out how and when you can be together (first for visits and then long-term...). I think you start thinking about commitment and what it means a lot sooner.

And the fact that I'm from Germany and that (out of all the countries in the world) Tatum just mentioned that one --- It was just incredible!

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And while I'm at it (at commenting, I mean) I just wanted to thank the CherryBomb ladies for their effort and time. For their insight, eloquence and for their loveliness. It is much appreciated : )

"We come spinning out of nothingness, scattering stars like dust."

-Rumi-

Wow it was THE most relatable Vlog for me yet! I love Cherry Bomb and never miss an episode!

I have the privilage of living in Canada, where it same sex marriage is legal, and that law is from our federal government.  There is at least one province that on a provincial level does not recognize gay marriage, but the fact that the rest of the country does is down right amazing. 

I excercised my legal right this summer and got married, it was a beautiful backyard wedding in my parents yard, with both sides of our family present. There were about 80 guests there to witness and celebrate in our marriage, I wore the $1000 dollar white gown, there was a wedding cake, I tossed the bouquet, we had a big dinner and dance the whole show. It was the wedding I had dreamed about since I was a little girl. I felt so privilaged to be able to marry the woman I love and have my dream wedding without even having to think twice about it! I wish so much for Americans that one day they too can have this privilaged, that won't even thought twice about, because well duh you want to committ for life, you go and get married just like any one else.. because we are anybody else.

I still do not feel that gay marriage is is safe in Canada.  Our conservative government would love to turn that law back, but thankful are currently a minority government and do not have the power to do so right at this moment. But it is unnerving to know that there is a possibilty of having my civil right that I am entitled to taken away.  So I will continue to fight the battle with you all.

I also loved the question of the week, as I am in a same sex interacial marriage. I am caucasian and my wife is Phillipino.  We do plan on having children, and thankfully we are legally married and so our children will be legally both of ours and we will not have to go through the ridiculouness of adopting our own child.  We are both planning on having a child, and we are hoping to use the same donor for both children so that we are all that more connected, our children will be truly blood related.  And just to throw another side of otherness into the mix, the donor that we are looking at having is an interracial child himself, His mother is from Barbados and His father from Hungry.  So we will be a very Canadian family!!

Did you all get a new make up artist this week?? Because you all were looking even hotter than usual, who knew that was even possible??!! And Nikki, your breasts peaking out of that top that fit you so perfectly were very distacting.. looking HOT!

Keep up the good work on the show! Love IT!

Also thanks to the guest, it was very interesting insight!

One of the things I love about Cherry Bomb (besides the concentrated hotness) is the realness of both Dalila and Gloria when it comes to expressing an African-American point of view.  Anyone who's ever been to a black family reunion could relate to everything you two said.

Being mulatto myself, I am a bit worried about this wave of white people wanting "ethnic" babies, especially if their plan is to live in an all-white enclave where their children will be tokens.  For me, if it wasn't for my father and my black family, I would have never been given the social, cultural or political tools to navigate in a racist country.

It would be great if you all expanded the topic to a whole show.  Just a thought.

"Those who restrain desire, do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained" - William Blake

What?! This is heinous! I hate injustice so much! I would donate for the fight against prop 8 and stuff, but I'm just barely overage and have no money.

Great blog.

The property rights and estate issues drive me most insane. I know that if it was up to my family they wouldn't respect my wishes to leave everything to a partner. To say nothing of the fact that after I work for all the years it takes to build a pension and then I can't say what happens to it when I pass.

More cheers for the ladies this week. I can't tell you how much I wish that these women were in my friend circle. I would love to be on that couch for the conversation. And for the wine. And for Dalila. Mostly for Dalila.

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I feel a bit naive but how does this work for a trans couple maybe like if theres a trans husband and a woman wife... do they get the same rights as a  traditional hetero couple? I think its such a silly question... To truly believe that because I love another girl I shouldn't be able to enjoy all the ups and downs of marriage without worrying about my future or my wife's future for that matter God forbid if something happened to me or her, like it just doesn't make any sense.  I don't live in cali anymore but my mom does and she just told me she has yes on 8 signs all in her yard, and I just feel so heartbroken to hear that from her 

Viana Says:

"I'm tryna see what that be like? "

And as a side note, I must say all of you ladies are lookin mighty edible today!

Thanks ladies! This has been a very informative vlog.

I never knew that even if the state legalizes gay marriage that they still don't get federal benefits. It makes me pretty sad to hear these kinds of things because I feel like we are still sooo far behind from where we need to be. But any progress is still progress.  

But this whole prop 8 thing just gets me so angry. I just can't understand why people think its okay to deny rights to people. And worse yet lets let peoples rights be decided by popular vote? Come the eff on. Its just nuts. This country really needs to take a serious look at itself and realize that its not what it claims to be.

But on a lighter note... Nikki, I definitley wouldnt be opposed to giving you some little hispanic babies. Eh, eh? lol.

It's so great to see beautiful women who are funny as well as intelligent!!

 Thanks for the great vlog.

You guys manage to do better every single week... I have no idea how you do that... Anyway, great topic and great show as usual...

You ladies are so beautiful... Keep up the good work...  

I just started watching this series and under the cover of anonymity, I think I can say this -

Tatum is drop dead gorgeous. Really really Hot. 

Hey just tryin to spread the word... Visit here to support No on Prop 8 campaign and shop for cool hats and shirts.  All profits go to NoOnProp8.com

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Viana Says:

"I'm tryna see what that be like? "

No on propb 8. I'm not from California, but, i feel for ya. Awesome, awesome vlog.

~The world begins and ends with the person next to the godless stars below the hay of stones which waz totally hot~

This is my favorite vlog, its amazing and totally funny. I think it gives so much information and has lots of comedy with it! I think its amazing and i it has made me sit up and think! 

BTW Gloria, I get the germ thing, everyone else think I am crazy but I would rather not have the germs.

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I'm not even from the US, but I found this discussion really educational. That Chris Wilson is one extraordinary woman, so articulate and remarkable in her observations. You ladies did a fantastic job having her on the show. I really feel like I'm informed on the issue at hand now.

Even though this won't have a direct effect on me either way, I'll be sure to send some money to NoOnProp8, because this is important to all of us. We are all human.

»Living in fear is living life halved.«

Been watching the show for a while now, but never commented. What I find so interesting is how much of what you say can be applied to straight couples as well. And the guest star on this ep was a very intelligent woman, so much respect to her.

And I have to say that I loved Tatum's outfit and makeup in this episode, how did you do it? I would love that look. :)