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Cameron Diaz tells Bill Maher she loves women, but not "in that way"

On a special one-on-one episode of Real Time with Bill Maher, the political talk show host spoke with Cameron Diaz about her environmental work and new film, My Sister's Keeper.

In the interview, Maher randomly poses to Diaz that she "has more male friends than female," following it up with the even more bizarre statement that "usually girls are haters."

The actress quickly assures him she "loves women" and is "a girl's girl," which of course turns into her needing to say, "But not in that way. Maybe once or twice but shh — no, just kidding!"

I'm not really sure where Bill Maher was going with that segment of the interview, as Cameron asked "Are you just going to let me keep going?" as it was noticeably awkward and out of nowhere. After speaking so highly of her work and how "suave" Maher thinks she is, it was definitely an odd thing for him to say, insinuating she hangs out with men as to avoid catfights with members of the same sex.

You can watch the interview in its entirety below. She starts talking about her relationships with women around 13:41.

What do you think Bill Maher was going for with his "assumption"?

RainbowSheep's picture

He was going for sensation.

He was going for sensation. Clown. What is it with celebs and interviewers these days? They're all gettng on the "gay for a day" bandwagon and milking it for headlines *cough* Megan Fox *cough*. Most irritating.
Katie's picture

in love

i absolutely love cameron diaz! she is one of my favorite actress and she is so funny and cute!
Sarah's picture

Cringe.

I couldn't make it through that clip.

On another note, Cameron Diaz seems to be 'reverse aging' in the same way that Leisha Hailey is.

She looks good. 

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Lunakiss's picture

I Think It's Sad Straight

celebs have to defend their sexuality in fear some trashy mag or internet gossip queen will blow up their words. She supports the community and that is what matters. I agree with Bill Mahr I thought she was soooo pretty in the Mask too. I still miss her  figure.

We need  to see more non-violent movies coming out of Hollywood,although, this one , My Sister's Keeper ,is based from the  best selling novel by Jodi Picoult.

 

ice cream's picture

YES

She was soooo hot in The Mask!  And the last time I watched that movie was when I was about 10 haha...I miss her figure too!

 (I clearly didn't bother watching the interview--if it was really that awkward, I'll take your word for it.)

ice cream's picture

My Sister's Keeper was a

My Sister's Keeper was a pretty mediocre movie.  I'm sort of surprised that Bill Maher didn't make a whole bunch of snarky comments about how corny it was.  The only thing I really liked about the movie was that Alec Baldwin was awesome in it...

Also:  Cameron Diaz better not get an Oscar.  She seems like a cool person, but she totally over-acted the entire movie.  Example quote:  "Who does this broad think she is?!"

Brynn's picture

She most certainly is suave

-but leave it to Bill Maher to mar that... oh so sorry for the pun... couldn't help meself.
Ashley Maile's picture

Bill Maher is the shit. He

Bill Maher is the shit. He is the man. I love his work, his show & his Religulous movie. He calls society/politics out for what they are - and then mocks the shit out of it. Anyone who is that politically & socially humorous makes me want to mary them.. and I don't even want to get married.

I don't think that's where he was headed... I think by randomly saying something along the lines of "you must not have many friends who are girls because of cat fights" he was trying to give a compliment.. implying girls get easily jealous and start drama with her because she's just so stunning. I don't personally see how asking if most of your friends are guys is headed towards the "do you do chicks" subject.. If anything it would just bring up drama with past female friends and that she's hot..

And as someone who has had a guy as a best friend since I was in the 8th grade and all my friends have been guys for years... I completely understand why he would ask.. Because it's true. The majority of girls I'VE met, like 70%, are a bit on the crazy/over dramatic side...

A few summers ago I worked at a water park and this guy Bill & I hit it off immidiately. He had a long term girlfriend and I told him about me, so it was perfect. He said he never has chicks for friends and I said that I never have girls for friends either. After many days of heavily discussing this on the job not doing our job.. we decided the main reason was because women are just too judgemental. Across the board women are too judgemental. She's not pretty enough, I don't like her hair, she seems slutty, she seems gay, she seems like a bitch, she didn't smile at me she must not like me, she's boring, she's weird, etc. etc. etc.....

Even here in the gay community, I get pounced on and called a sexiest, misogynist pig for still liking a certain celebrity. Or in a women's studies class I get pratically ostrcized for defending certain "male" points of view. Radical feminist can't stand me.

With women in general I can't be open about going to a strip club for my 23rd birthday because I'm labeled this and that and I'm a pig and it's wrong.. and holy shit shut up lady! Women judge like it's nobodys business. And I can't stand it.

And I know Bill makes a lving off of making fun of people, but so does Jon Stewart. They report the most current and topical events, and then make fun of it. But let's be honest, 90% of the things they mock (anti-gay people, bush, extreme republicans, gay republicans, palin etc) deserve it.. Either way, Cameron is amazingly hot and Bill is still the man.

"There would be no black and white, the world would just treat my wife right. We could walk down in Mississippi, and no one would look at us twice. That's my dreamworld." - Dreamworld bRobin Thicke

Hollywood Marie's picture

As a radical feminist...

let me explain.  I'm only speaking for myself and only basing my knowledge of you on your comments here (and taking into consideration your age/life experience).  Radical feminists aren't out to hate women, but it seems you are.  The patriarchy does that well enough.  That said, I've never seen a radical feminist denegrate ANY woman, especially someone as ignorant (please ignore the connotation) and misdirected as you seem to be.  The rad fem viewpoint is that you've been brainwashed by the patriarchy to act the way you do (defending the "male" P.O.V. as you said) as are the women you complain about  (the "judgemental" ones, as you called them).  So really, you are exactly like the women you complain about.  Maybe it would be a good idea to take a step back and really listen in your Women's Studies class and see that women are NOT the enemy -- the patriarchy that society operates under is and that you can be friends with women as well.  Because if you can't be friends with women, how will you ever love one?  To put it in your terminology, "stop being a hater."  Plus, stereotyping women with the misogynistic tropes about "crazy/hysterical" (I mean, do you even know the origin of the word, "hysterical"?  Look it up) isn't helping your case, it's just making you look like exactly what you claim not to be.  And you really should read Levy's "Female Chauvenist Pigs," because people like Cameron Diaz seem to get it, while you don't.  Good luck.
Ashley Maile's picture

I don't think I used the

I don't think I used the word hysterical.. did I? I did use the word crazy though.

When I say I found myself defending "the other" POV more was because the class was ridiculous. They would complain that cartoon eyeballs on the women were larger than the males to represent breasts.. they claimed places like Miss America were distgusting and immoral... I think the Miss America competitions are lame, but I'm not about to go protest it out of anger. It's their choice, not ours.  


The topic of strip clubs and hooters came up, and I defended a women's right to choose what she wants to do. She's not hurting anyone, if she wants to make 500 a night dancing, that's her life. And if I want to contribute to her making that money, I would like to be able to with out being labeled 5 different negative terms. Mind your own business is what I think when it comes to that issue.

I would like to be able to have a playboy in my house with my guy room mates and have gay women/feminists over and not have to feel the need to HIDE it to avoid drama..

It's things like that that just irritate me. Too many radical fems overreact. They can pick a little issue and create a war over it.

I am sarcastic, I make fun of people, I like to say things like "Ann Coulter likes to tea bag Limbaugh." I understand I am no shining beacon of wisdom. But I also don't go around screaming "misogynist pig!" or "radical feminists are bitches" to people's faces or here online. My first year of high school I was called "slut" or "tramp" by half of the upper classmen girls... guess what, I'm still a virgin and I've never had a boyfriend.. So when I say in my experience most girls are too dramatic, I'm judging from my personal experience. And I'm not saying ALL women.. I'm not a women hater. In my opinion with girls i've met, about 60-65% of them were a bit too drama prone for me.. that doesn't mean I hate them, it just means I enjoy watching a Sox game with my boys more or going to a boxing match on a friday night than going clubbing with girls. My first night at a gay bar in boston I got a drink thrown at my from a girl who thought I was hitting on her girlfriend. I didn't even know I talked to her girlfriend..

Did you hear the latest story about some women claiming the iphone is sexist because of their longer fingernails?! Are you fucking kidding me? It's bullshit stories like this were I just have to leave the room.

I love women, I LOVE them.. but radical fems are just too intense for me. Can I have a cup of coffee in the morning and enjoy Ann Curry's legs with out being slammed for "encouraging women's sexual exposure"?! It's all judgement. It's all anger towards the more "man liberal" women like me.

Just because I like strip clubs, and hooters, and defended Natalie Dylan's right to sell her virginity, does not mean I run around slapping women screaming "bitch make me a sandwich!" It doesn't mean I treat them with any less respect than you do. Yea, the rad fems who are going to negatively judge me I'll give it right back, but it would be nice to be able to put on my dress, go to a strip club and enjoy my night without getting nasty looks from "angry feminists" or get side comments from my guys girlfriend's saying I'm a "pig" and "such a guy." Hey, mind your own fucking business and let me enjoy my life without you labeling me.

I think we have it pretty good here in America as women.. compared to many other places. I see no need to protest Hooters or burn bras. I love the fact that we have this much freedom, sexual freedom, and can profit off it.

"There would be no black and white, the world would just treat my wife right. We could walk down in Mississippi, and no one would look at us twice. That's my dreamworld." - Dreamworld by Robin Thicke

Sukcubus's picture

I think...

...it would be pretty funny if you ran around yelling "bitch make me a sandwich!" But that's just me.
Ashley Maile's picture

I just reread what you

I just reread what you wrote to make sure I didn't miss anything.   I'm not quite sure how you arrived at the the assumption that I think feminists hate women?? But uhh, yea lol, I don't think that. At all.

I dno't think feminists hate women, I don't hate women, and I don't think all men hate women.

I think generally, women are too judgemental and dramatic than men are. I think I have a good eye of the country too. I've lived in Hawaii for a long time. I grew up in the New England area most my life. I recently drove acorss country. And now I'm in Portland, Oregon.

I'm no sheltered young girl with no sense of the world. I've been to four different high schools and each school is the same story. Nasty comments from girls I've never seen before, and accepting guys. Again I am NOT saying all women are like that, but in my personal experience the majority are not as laid back as the men. Acknowledging women can be more cruel than guys can be, does not mean I hate women or will not be able to "love them" as you say. I love women. I'm just sick of being treated like I'm a "pig" from radical feminists.

 

"There would be no black and white, the world would just treat my wife right. We could walk down in Mississippi, and no one would look at us twice. That's my dreamworld." - Dreamworld by Robin Thicke

brackishtea's picture

I get where you are coming from...

Then I grew up and realized that clearly not ALL women are judgmental just the majority that I knew. I also realized that clearly not ALL the men are stupid just the majority that I knew. I thought long and hard, why am I meeting people like that? Then I realized, oh I'm in High School, oh I'm at Penn State at a lame frat party, oh the people I'm meeting have personalities I don't care for and it's not so much about their sex/gender.

It was like a HUGE light bulb that went off in my head. Maybe the narrow-mindedness I was having in regards to how people act had nothing to do with their gender but more so about their personality, environment, and age (this is a big one). Their gender added that sexist spice that I was using because I didn't use all of my brain. I for the most part didn't like anybody male or female because I thought the worst of them given to my experiences. As I gotolder I matured and some of them matured and realized it was about more them being young & stupid (lol) than being "stupid" boys & girls. I mean there is a BIG difference between a girl and *insecure* girl, big.

As for having the radical feminists attack your ideals, well they *might* be challenging you to think harder about the motives of why you like Hooters and Strip bars etc. I too was attacked for me not caring so much about the women who strip because they can. It something we in a free society we have to deal with: opposition of ideas. Clearly they didn't agree with you and just dissmissed you as a female sexist pig. I was called one too but the difference is that how I handled it and what I learned from them. I learned that not all people are going to agree with my opinions. I have to tolerate it and if they do become nast about it; I ignore them because I like to have intelligent debates gender issues. Sadly these are rare because people are not willing to learn or not truly open, they just want to convert you to think the way they do.

Just know that if your opinion just be ready to defend it but be open to see where they are coming from.

As for the "girls" that are annoying is because a lot are 1) young 2) insecure. Something most grow out of, most. So when dismissing female friendships because on the basis of your experience with them, remember on the locality of that time, you (they) were young and immature so ofcourse they are going to be annoying, lol.

Ashley Maile's picture

I agree , 100%. I was

I agree , 100%. I was going to dive into the age issue and how a lot of it happened when I was young and in school, but I feel I already wrote wayyy to freaking much and didn't want to have to put my responses in chapters.. But yea, a lot has to do with the age and it was HIGH SCHOOL lol..

I was a total loner at high school for the most part.. I had my guy friends, but they were never in school lol. So really, I was a loner. I sat alone in the cafeteria when I didn't just skip lunch.. And when I did sit alone my sophomore year, girls would walk by and say "slut." By my jr year and last hs my sister, the "cool" and "popular girl" had made enough friends so no one ever talked down to us again, but still, it was unreal. I was going through HELL at home, and at school girls made it worse.  

they would also make fun of my friends, the "troubled boys." there is a line from Good Will Hunting that gets me.. well the whole movie is like the male version of me.. but a teacher goes "Why does he hang out with these retarded gorillas?!" And Robin Williams goes, "Do you have any fucking clue why he hangs out with these retarded gorillas as you call thhem? Because anyone of them, if he asked them to, would take a fucking bat to your head. It's called loyalty."

And in my experience,  as much as men have hurt me (father, male family members, harrassment from co-workers, court memories, etc) guys were the ones who stood by me the longest through all that. I guess I have yet to find my "ride or die chick" lol. And I do still have a lot to learn, but I still think I'm a seasoned social explorer. The virgin lesbian was known as a slut who fucked everyone's boyfriends... I almost got beat up one day when I yelled back, so I learned to just ignore the girls.

"There would be no black and white, the world would just treat my wife right. We could walk down in Mississippi, and no one would look at us twice. That's my dreamworld." - Dreamworld by Robin Thicke

lefunko's picture

maher v stewart

the difference between them is that when jon stewart makes fun of people he is respectful.  i liked the concept of Religulous but i couldnt even get through it because maher is such an a-hole.  the way his rebuttal to other people's views on religion (insane as they are) is disrespectful.  but i guess that's his schtick.  i just dont like it.
monica_ca's picture

Maher gives the human race a bad name

The subject says it all.

I also find it sad that being gay is still unacceptable enough that if you're straight and someone implies that you're gay, it's necessary to clarify/defend yourself.  Ultimately the problem is that it's still not okay to be gay.  If it was, then it really wouldn't be an issue if someone accidently assumed someone was gay.  The person would probably still clarify (for the sake of being honest), but it wouldn't be the big deal that it generally is. 

ice cream's picture

I admire Cameron as an

I admire Cameron as an incredible actress and as environmentalist. She is stunning due to her kind soul. I cannot wait to see her new movie.
Sarah's picture

Honestly,

*show me love*

 

honestly, i feel like he was getting himself a little worked up while spewing compliments are Diaz. kinda got into the heat of the moment, his mind wandered and his thoughts dumped out his mouth.

Sarah's picture

The difference between them...

...is also a tummytuck and a nosejob.

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Donica's picture

Bill Maher

like most of the media doesn't take female homosexuality seriously. Lesbianism is either mentioned by way of a joke, or a wink wink frat boy high five fantasy. Whenever homosexuality is discussed seriously, it is always about men. Even homophobes rail against MALE homosexuality. The sooner this is dealt with, the more understanding there will be for the WHOLE gay community. Right now, we are jokes.
colorblindx's picture

Love Cameron!

She's so funny. Can't count how many times I've watched 'the holiday' and 'what happens in vegas'

 

 

Ms. Dilly Dally's picture

Perfectly reasonable

His question was in line with him asking her about being "low maintenance." He was implying that men get along better with women who are not overly emotional, so he assumed she has more male friends than female friends. She bungled the question by rambling on about "loving both" men and women, and then trying to undo that implication.

 

 

 

 

 

thelionqueen's picture

"just because you suck one dick, doesn't make you gay"-

Cameron Diaz. that is one of the quotes I heard Diaz say. I remember it clearly because she was sitting in front of this guy who was also mentioning sexuality. when she said it, I was like "that is so true".

i never heard of this book until i saw the previews for the movie. i thought the movie looked sad and sweet, but i dont want to see it. i didnt even know it was in the theatres yet. maybe because i've been focusing too much on trying to see BRUNO!

my mommy told me it was better to have guy friends, and i agree but all my guy friends are gay guys that don't hang out with other gay guys. i remember standing in line to go on the Galith at Fiesta Texas and my best friend said, "i dont like gay guys." and i said "yeah i know what you mean; i dont like lesbians." even though we're obviously both homosexual.

dance4life's picture

I hate "gay for a day"

I hate "gay for a day"
Candice's picture

I love Bill Maher. He is a

I love Bill Maher. He is a genius.  

Galaxyglue's picture

Comments

First off, I agree with the notion that Bill Maher is a brilliant man, and I love him for that. He isnt afraid to bash his own party when they are wrong also which is refreshing. Sure any political commentator is going to err occasionally when what they do is talk for a living but Bill's stuff is always fresh and fun.

Also, the problem with women being too competitive with one another is a resut of the patriarchy. It extends to men also in the business world. Men are absolutely cut throat with one another to get ahead because thats what it takes sadly. Women need to star doing this more not less in my opinion.  What is so wrong about a woman who wants to go to a strip club for goodness sake?  This exhibits power. Make a decision and do it! I dont get the radical feminisits. Feminism is about making choices and doing whatever you want. radical feminists and separitist feminists  have such a hard nosed agenda that if you disagree with them you are considered an enemy. Thats why they have become diminished to college campuses and blogs. I just ignore what they say and live my life the way i want not the way they expect me to.