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Reba stands by her fans, including the gay ones

Whether you’re a country music fan or not, you have to admit that female country singers, well, rock. Dolly has always loved her gays and earlier this year Martina McBride caused some red state fans to turn purple when she gave an interview to Out magazine.

Now Reba McEntire has joined the gay rights parade with her own Out interview.

Reba, who released her latest album, Keep on Loving You, last week, told Out that she has a simple response to conservative fans who might not appreciate her support of the LGBT community: Don’t judge. She said:

And that’s what it says in the Bible — "Don’t judge." Keep an open mind. That would be my voice. I have gay friends. I have a lot of straight friends. I don’t judge them. I take them for what they are. They’re my friends, and I can’t defend my feelings for them, other than I like ‘em.

Wait — her only basis for friendship is whether she likes the person? What a bold concept.

Her approach to gay marriage is equally practical: “Again, I can’t judge that. I have gay friends who have partners, and I see why they would want to get married. I understand why. So, I can’t judge that.”

Gotta love her. I mean, the whole issue truly is that simple — live and let live.

Reba also talked with Logo's NewNowNext about what she thinks of her “impersonators.”

Seriously, could she be more adorable?

Look for Reba this week on America’s Got Talent, Wednesday at 9 ET.

Are you a Reba McEntire fan? What do you think of her new recording? Do you think her open support of the LGBT community will hurt her sales?

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  • Goin2Maui's picture

    I like Reba!

    I like her music (although not a big fan of country except for the women in country), liked her TV show which had some gay content from time to time and it wasn't demeaning, just funny like the other stuff on there.  And she's a damn fine lookin' woman.
    monica_ca's picture

    TV show

    My roommate and I used to watch Ellen and then an hour of Reba's show ever afternoon once we got back from classes.  I thought that her sitcom was hilarious (good clean fun) and I think that she's got an amazing voice.  I'm not really a huge country fan, but good music is good music even if it's not your personal fave.
    Mara's picture

    Honesty and approachability

    ... are definite bonusses when it comes to artists - even if you don't like their music.

    I don't think her open support of the LGBT community will hurt her sales. For every redneck fan she upsets and loses over that, she'll (probably) gain a new queer fan.

    _ _ _ _ _

    "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." (Dr. Seuss)

    survivaldiaries's picture

    Oh wow!

    As a little girl, before discovering other music, there were a few country artists that really spoke to me. It's been like, 12 years or so since I've really liked country, and while I don't follow Reba's music consistently, she's always been one of the top telents in the genre. I think it's wonderful that she's supporting love of all kinds, and respect her more now, which I didn't think was possible, than when I was singing "fancy" as a kid.

     I was never a mess. I was just faking it.

    Susan Gabriel's picture

    Gutsy woman

    Anyone who comes out in support of the LGBT community is a winner, as far as I'm concerned. She also probably has enough money at this point to buy a small country, so what does she really have to lose?

     

    www.SeekingSaraSummers.com

    woody-69's picture

    I have friends who have met

    I have friends who have met her more than once, and she is as she appears to be. Honest, down to earth sweet as pie. Dolly is the same...open and honest. For that, they will forever have my love and support.
    jt4702's picture

    I knew

    there were many reasons why I like her. I am not the biggest country fan, but she is one of the exception. I hope people are not that petty, and that they follow her philosophy/message. Don't judge. It's that simple. Imagine, being friends with someone because you like that someone... what will people think of next. In all seriousness, I hope her live and let live way is catching because this world sure needs more people like that. 

    ___________________________________________________

    "Come fly away with me, right in the land of eternity"

    outoutout's picture

    Beautiful inside and out

    Oh, Reba.  I've loved her since the 80s.  She is a fantastic lady.

    T's picture

    I've loved Reba

    since I was a little kid and after seeing this I love her even more!
    alex's picture

    omg

    i love reba - the heart wont lie is my all time fave country song ever. could she be any more fantastic?

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    DaChickenLady's picture

    Ms. Reba

    Love country music.  Love her.  Have loved her since the 80s.  I don't go to concerts much but I'm glad I went to one of hers right here in Concord, CA -- so long ago that Garth Brooks was one of her opening acts. =D
    GreenBean2's picture

    Woah

    Martina McBride played in my town 2 weeks ago. My town is in the top of Ireland. Heh now I wish I had of gone. All I knew of her was she was a country star and has rockin' hair.
    Nothing's picture

    Here's to Reba's common sense

    I also choose my friends for the people they are, and not because they are gay.  It always amazes me when other lesbians assume we should be friends just because, and for no other reason than, we are both lesbians.  My friends are both gay and straight because I don’t judge them, I only know who I like and who I don’t.

    ClassicChic's picture

    I can't STAND Reba...

    She tore the Dixie Chicks apart more than once when they were being boycotted for speaking the truth about Bush. Plus I saw her in concert years ago and she literally did not say ONE word to us. She's a stuck up hypocrite!

    On the other hand I LOVE Martina Mccbride and had no idea she gave an interview in Out mag! Remember her song I Love You from "Runaway Bride"? Man I was obsessed with that song AND movie LOL!

    ida b's picture

    Seriously, Reba?

    What a hypocrite. As far as I remember, she was not so nonjudgemental when she trashed the Dixie Chicks after they came out against the Iraq war. Excuse me if I am not impressed that she doesn't judge me.
    Kate Mac's picture

    Can't remember

    ida b- I can't remember if she was harsh toward the Dixie Chicks. That would make me sad because I think what Country Music did to them was RIDICULOUS.  Good point if it's true. Love your profile pic by the way. -Kate
    Mdshore's picture

    Me thinks she's not being entirely honest...

    about her nonjudgemental philosophy toward others.  She had a field day tearing the Dixie Chicks apart for their opposition to the war.  She positioned herself as a true American and them as un-American.  She even made them the butt of several jokes during her hosting duties on a country music awards show until Vince Gill appealed for her (during the same show)  to stop it. 

    I'm a bit skeptical of her proclaimed non judgement of others. Would like to think it's genuine, but not so sure.

    http://twitter.com/mdshore

    .★.Matt The Rock$tar.★.'s picture

    YAY!

    Let's ride the queer train guys!

    Is it just me or accepting of homosexuals is either you do or you don't type of thing?

    I am not understanding the whole running up and down streets having my PR and myself yelling "I LOVE HOMOSEXUALS" (if you play it to an acoustic tune this might sound better)

    What is the point this should be understood information. I can see if she was at a No on Prop 8 rally but seriously this screams I need queers to pay my house note.

    Not cool at all!

    Matt's world you just live in it!

    atAll's picture

    sorry

    but, isn't Reba gay herself?

    really, since the first time i saw her i thought that, and it only got 'worse' through time

     

    elliedragon's picture

    Lifetime Fan

    My mother is a big Reba fan and I grew up with her music.  I'm also a big Martina McBride fan.  I'm so happy that the great women I took them both for is the truth.  Especially Reba.  There have been so many special moments in my life that her work has been a part of.  I don't think her openness will her hurt sales.  Not with her kind of loyal fan base.  As for her new album, I haven't heard it yet but it is only a matter of time.
    BAS's picture

    I love Reba

    I like her music, I liked her show, and I like her honesty in this interview. I also love Martina McBride and didn't know she'd given an Out interview too, so thanks for the notice on that one too!

    There was a funny ep of the sitcom in which her character ends up with another divorced mom who is gay and thinks Reba is too and that she's hot. Don't remember the details, but it was hilarious and well-handled - Reba is understandably uncomfortable with the fact that her friend has mis-read the situation but at no point is there any concept that there's anything wrong with the other woman being gay.

    As for the previous few posters who think she is a "hypocrite" for judging the Dixie Chicks...first of all, what did she say? I honestly don't know, and a couple commenters on the Out page make it seem like it was just a maybe slightly in poor taste joke at an awards ceremony, not a serious insult.

    Second, how is it hypocritical to say you can't judge someone for their sexual orientation but that you can judge someone for saying things you deem to be unpatriotic or just stupid? I judge people all the time - for things they do, not for who they are. In fact, you are judging her about something she said - how is that different from her judging the Dixie Chicks?

     

    monica_ca's picture

    Bingo!!

    Quote:
    Second, how is it hypocritical to say you can't judge someone for their sexual orientation but that you can judge someone for saying things you deem to be unpatriotic or just stupid? I judge people all the time - for things they do, not for who they are. In fact, you are judging her about something she said - how is that different from her judging the Dixie Chicks?

    I'm glad that you're able to see the difference.  Seems that lots of people don't. 

    ClassicChic's picture

    It's not the fact that we...

    can't seperate the two it's the fact that now it's ok for singers to go against the so called "grain" in the conservative country music world. When the Chicks did it in '03 it was "blasphamy" and they were basically blacklisted and she jumped right on the bandwagon. The Chicks stood up for gay rights also during this whole mess and only a handful stood up for the Chicks (Faith Hill/Tim McCgraw, Sara Evans, Willie Nelson to name a few)...But now it's ok for Reba to go against the grain. Love for the Chicks to go up on stage and give her some sh*t infront of the world like Reba did to them at the time...Yeah, I'm still pissed about that ;) 
    .★.Matt The Rock$tar.★.'s picture

    Exactly!

    I know people who burned their CDs in the parking lot at school after they heard about all the things Dixie Chicks were saying calling it "blasphemy". Complete hypocrisy and I am standing behind my girls 

    ...I ain't ready to make nice and I'm mad as hell...lol 

    Matt's world you just live in it!

    woody-69's picture

    Sara Evans?!

    She sings at all the GOP parties...can't imagine her standing up for any liberal thought.
    Mdshore's picture

    She supported their right to express

    She supported their right to express their viewpoint, even though she didn't agree with it and she spoke out against others in country music and country radio for blacklisting the Chicks.

    http://twitter.com/mdshore

    shelby's picture

    Fan of hers but

    I doing think it was what I would call the boldest support for her LGBT fans I have ever heard.  It's a very safe response to keep both sides happy.

    And ditto to the person who pointed out the Dixie Chicks controversy.  She sat firmly on the side of the more conservative members of the country music 'family'

     

    pancreas's picture

    Exactly. Not the worst way

    Exactly. Not the worst way to put it but I prefer to think a celebrity "not judging" her gay fans is nowhere near newsworthy. Especially if that's the best she had to say in an actual gay magazine.
    snow's picture

    I don't think this was

    I don't think this was exactly the ringing endorsement others seem to think it is.  Understanding and supporting are two very different things.  

     She seems to have played this very safe, never really coming out and saying she supported gay marriage or gay rights, just saying she understood them.  To me it still seems as though she's sitting on the fence.  To me it says:  "Look at me, I'm cool, I'm hip I have gay friends, I understand gay people and to my conservative fan base, I never said anything about supporting them."  

     I still enjoy a few select reba songs, but this seems to be a grab for a bigger fan base without alienating her core fans too badly.   

    ClassicChic's picture

    Thank you!

    That's exactly what I posted about the Chicks in the reply above u!
    CountessEntwistle's picture

    Speechless

    I've been a fan of hers since I was little. Having grown up mostly in Oklahoma and having parents who were rabid country music fans, she was one of the very few from that genre that I actually liked and bought my own copies of her music.

    I listen to classic rock these days but still reserve a small space in my heart for Reba, and going by this article, that space is very well deserved. 

    MaryD's picture

    I was force fed country music by my parents

    from the time I was in diapers... I still listen to it on occassion, but it has never been my favorite kind of music. Martina and Reba are two that I do like, but the Dixie Chicks always have been one of my all time favorites and I have more of their music than I have of any other country artist. 
    texas_ale's picture

    Stand by my woman

    I'm a big Reba fan and always will be.  She is very gracious to her fans and I love the fact that she did interviews with Out and New, Now, Next.  Yes, these interviews are part of a press tour for her new album, but who cares? 

    As for the Reba vs Dixie Chicks war...I think the media probably made it bigger than it was.  Here's an article for anyone unfamiliar:  http://www.cmt.com/news/country-music/1534793/reba-mcentire-shares-views-on-vegas-renewed-sitcom-and-dixie-chicks.jhtml  It is an interview with Reba, so I'm sure there is somewhat of a bias, but she plainly states her feelings on the subject. 

    As for her being stuck up...in my opinion, that is hardly the case.  We are talking about a woman who would sign autographs for HOURS until her hand was cramped and she was in tears...and then she would take a quick break and come back out until she had met with everyone in line.  Awesome.

    And I'll step down from my soap box now.  :)

    TinaMW's picture

    Reba is one of the few that

    Reba is one of the few that can bring straigh, gay, bi, trans, etc... all together under one roof- you have to love her.

    I've been to two of her concerts (both were her and Kelly Clarkson)- one in Mississippi and the other in Alabama- and I've never seen so many gays and straights in one room getting along, especially for the South.  

    rainbowcoloredbutterfly's picture

       I hardly see her

     

     I hardly see her comments to us as being supportive more like non-judgmental. I'm sure she has a lot of gay friends and family and that she supports them and of course being overtly supportive would have hurt sales so maybe it is a little courageous but not that much.

    I find that entertainers in  homophobic countries who clearly stand up for gay rights and same sex marriage more courageous but thats just me. For example, I think Celina Jaitley, an Indian actress and gay rights activist, has more guts and courage. Although Reba's audience is mostly conservative, as a past Miss Universe contestant Celina was representing an entire conservative, homophobic country. You know the type where people get sent to gaol for being gay. Standing up for a minority group when you would get death threats, boycotts, lost fans, hate mail and require extra body guards means more to me. But of course Out, 365gay and other white lgbt magazines/media would never cover these straight allies in that much depth.  Never interview them. No way.  A non judgemental white straight ally beats a vocal straight ally  of colour anyday or so it seems. No wonder LGBT of colour complain of racism in LGBT bars and events.

    These gay magazines spent 1% of the time reporting on people of colour or their straight allies. That might be a reason why their sales are so rapidly falling. Did out mention the African AMerican gay Iraq war vet running for congress in any detail? Did they have an interview with him?

     

    These  mainstream gay newspapers dont have the courage to report on issues or interview courageous straight allies of colour. The best they can do is someone who is so ambivalent on gay rights but at least she's non judgemental at least she can understand why we would want rights. Yay. Extra brownie points for that. It felt like she was ducking most of the questions.

    I'm not a country fan so maybe I shouldnt have commented. But i kind of hate it when my emails to white LGBT publications get ignored when i talk about courageous straight allies they could be interviewing. 

     

    For those wondering this is what she said for the Dixie Chicks it was in response to Natalie when she said she didn't want the same fans as other country artists. So maybe not so inflammatory but still it wasnt exactly supportive of views outside the mainstream. Although I think Martina McBride lost a lot of fans after that interview and maybe Reba would have as well if she had been honest. But then again why would you want to have bigoted fans anyway. Honesty, integrity and support for minorities should be more important than money making.

    McEntire: "Dixie Chicks were supposed to sing tonight ... but that's hard to do with your foot stuck in your mouth."

    The way country fans in America treated the Dixie Chicks for exercising their right to speak in a foreign country and criticise their president was quite sickening. Their records were burnt, they were sent death threats, record  stomping protests,banned from radio stations and hate mail. All for saying the war in Iraq was illegal, which it was. Too bad the money you wasted in Iraq wasnt spent elsewhere.

    I mean how many of those country AMericans, including public figures, are criticizing Obama in overseas countries. I'm sure quite a few Republicans are. How hypocritical!

    The Dixie Chicks have long supported gay rights. LIke equivocally and not in a non-judgemental way.

    DIXIE CHICKS - DIXIE CHICKS EMBRACE GAY FANS

     http://www.advocate.com/issue_story_ektid31686.asp

    The Dixie Chicks

    Three years ago the country music industry pitched a hissy fit when Dixie Chicks lead singer Natalie Maines said, “Just so you know, we're ashamed the president of the United States is from Texas.” The Chicks didn’t just get blackballed, they got death threats. Now they’re back with a rocking new album of self-penned songs, Taking the Long Way, and a fierce first single, “Not Ready to Make Nice.” We spoke to Maines and Robison, and just so you know, we’re proud they’re from Texas.
    By Michele Kort
    From The Advocate  June 20, 2006

    You’re really breaking the genre mold for country music. “Not Ready to Make Nice” could be a gay anthem.
    Robison: Yeah, I think there’s a certain defiance to our music. These days—correct me if I’m wrong—you almost have to be defiant in the gay and lesbian community just to stand your ground.

    That part in “Not Ready To Make Nice”—where someone writes you a letter saying “Shut up and sing / Or [your] life will be over”—gives me the chills.
    Maines: People get mad that we’re saying that, but every single word is true. Because of “the incident,” as we like to call it, we really felt we had something to say. It made us mature, made us grow as women and people, and inspired us for this record. Rick Rubin, our producer, had seen us at the beginning of our career and thought we were really good but that no one took us seriously. Emily said the other day, “I don’t know if it was the glitter or what.” [Laughs]

    I think you’ve gotten a whole new crowd of gay fans because you were so outspoken.
    Maines: We’ve wiped the slate clean as to whom we think our fans are, but we do think we have more liberals and more gay men behind us. We have a gay hairdresser and gay makeup artist who are with us every single day, so they fill us in.

    You must see a lot of lesbians at your shows.
    Robison: They’re usually on Martie’s side. [Laughs] We always tease her that she gets all the lesbians.

    You all had babies since the last album—what are you going to teach your children about tolerance and about speaking out?
    Maines: When all this was happening, I had a 2-year-old, and Emily had a baby, and that was one of the things that crossed my mind. I know a lot of people would have just said “Sorry.” But I had to think about when my son gets old enough to ask me what they were talking about. I could never say, “Oh, I said this thing about the president because I didn’t agree with us going to war, but then I took it back.” I wanted him to know that I stood up for what I know to be right.

     

    .★.Matt The Rock$tar.★.'s picture

    FACTS!

    I love you always come with the facts! 

    I supported DC with that statement and still do and Toby Keith and their whole little bandwagon came along to gang up on them for "blasphemy". Not right at all.

    Where is my FUTK shirt at anyways? I need to add some names...

    Matt's world you just live in it!

    LiveFree's picture

    Martina McBride has got some

    Martina McBride has got some great songs, as does Reba; i've been a country music fan since at least the 80s and have always liked Reba.  Country music is so much more woman-positive than almost every other musical genre, both in terms of the lyrics and just the number of women in the business and on the radio.   i think country gets a bad rap, especially from the LBGT crowd, probably because it tends to be favored by right-wingers, but the music itself usually has very positive messages.
    afan's picture

    I love country music

    I like Reba but; never cared for her music. She's a pop singer with a twang, or new country - which isn't country. But; as a person she adorable....
    Vera_V's picture

    I was country....

    ....when country wasn't cool. I absolutely adore Reba McEntire! I have all of her albums and seen her in concert quite a few times. It never mattered to me one way or another what she thought of my lifestyle. I just thoroughly enjoy her music...and her beautiful blue eyes ;)

     -The  Redneck Lesbian

    frogprincess's picture

    hmmm.....i think this is newsworthy

    the bush support/dixie chicks comments were pretty bad (and judgemental), but i did like the way gay and lesbian storylines and comments were sprinkled into the reba show and handled really well.  (better than almost all primetime shows.  the reba show could school them in how to handle those storylines)  i think this is newsworthy because it is unexpected. yes, it is coming out as the same time as the rest of her album release press, but it is noteworthy, because it isn't the standard red state rhetoric ("i believe marriage should be between a man and a woman").  i think it is a small, but refreshing step in the right direction.  it doesn't make me throw a party because i thought her outspoken dixie chicks comments were unneccessary and that she should have just kept quiet instead of throwing them under the bus.  but i like that she has gone on record to talk about gay marriage and understanding, even on some small level, why it would be important to gays, lesbians, bisexual and transgender people.