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"Private Practice" treats lesbians right

I have to admit that in the last few seconds of last night’s Private Practice, I almost forgot about the lesbian story arc. I mean, Kate Walsh walks in on a guy who’s working and she has on this hot dress and says, “I don’t know what I’m doing” and they go to it. Damn.

But last night, Shonda Rimes went a long way toward repairing the Sapphic bridge torn down when Erica Hahn left Grey’s Anatomy. The lesbian storyline was heart wrenching and realistic. (If you haven’t seen it, you may want to skip the rest of this post and go directly to abc.com to watch the episode.)

The story involved Cynthia, a woman in her late 60s or so with a degenerative disease that causes strokes. (Feel free to correct my medical terminology in the comments.) Her son Seth wants to take her home with him so she won’t be alone. He tells Sam that he has worried about her ever since his father died, but she refuses to move. So, Sam recommends that Cynthia talk to Violet.

As every lesbian in the audience knew already, Cynthia is not alone. She tells Violet the truth: She is in a relationship with a woman and feels like she can’t tell her son.

Violet encourages her to tell Seth, which she does once her lover Annette arrives. Seth freaks, but not for the reason you expect. He’s not upset that she’s gay, but that she said her relationship with Annette has been going on for many years — including the time she was with Seth’s father. He’s known Annette all his life, and he feels betrayed.

The story was handled very well, IMO, and tells a tale that’s true of many lesbians of that generation. Cynthia stayed with her husband because she wanted to keep the family together. Her relationship with Annette was in a separate compartment of her life — and neither her husband nor kids suspected a thing.

I especially liked Violet’s approach to the situation. When Cynthia expressed guilt about keeping the secret for so many years, Violet said, “At least you were honest with yourself.” For a housewife in the 60s, that was quite extraordinary.

ABC even let the lesbian couple kiss onscreen, which might be a TV first for women in this age group and in any case is nice to see.

Seth eventually comes around, saying, “I was happy. Dad was happy. I guess it’s your turn to be happy.” Looks like Cynthia raised him right after all.

What did you think about Private Practice’s lesbian story?

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  • JJ's picture

    Nice

    I think it was handle very nice and sweet.
    Alex's picture

    chelsea!

    Just wanted to say that I dig your userpic ;)
    Libertine's picture

    I agree

    "'...last night Shonda Rimes went a long way toward repairing the Sapphic bridge torn down when Erica Hahn left Grey’s Anatomy. The lesbian storyline was heart wrenching and realistic."

    "...the lesbian couple kiss[ed] onscreen, which might be a TV first for women in this age group and in any case is nice to see."  

    These statements pretty much sum up my opinions.

    Oh, and the comment on Kate Walsh too. Mhmm. 

     

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    Pyewacket's picture

    I didn't watch.

    But I will check it out online.  I am surprised McPherson let this one on the air.  Though I suspect he doesn't watch this show either.

    lol

    :P

    Debra Miller's picture

    mostly good analysis...

    OK sisters, a woman in her late 60's may have been married during the Stonewall Riots (1969), but because of that pivotal event and the following years of feminism and Gay visibility, many women came out, left marriages and lived their lives as lesbians.  This story was closer to the story of Del and Phyllis who were/are 15+ years older. That generation may have felt the strings of a "traditional" life.

    I think it is important for younger lesbians to know that many of us were out in 1970, loud, obnoxious, and proud.  The media just did not know we were around.  The gay movement stretches way before that time and it would behoove ya'll to do some research. 

     Still all that being said, it was a great way to highlight the "invisible lesbian".  And it does begin redeem Shonda from her descent in the minds of many of us.  (How about a regular Private Practice lesbian?)

    kooliokid's picture

    South Granny

    When I first looked at the picture of the Cynthia character, I knew that she looked familiar.

    and then I realized where I had seen the actress.

    She played Spencer's grandmother on South of Nowhere.

    the linster's picture

    Great catch!

    Thanks for reminding us.
    Allegra8886's picture

    pp

    awesome !
    A Muse's picture

    good to know networks also

    good to know networks also allow shows and writers to do it right! :D

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    BAS's picture

    she's always been good with the random story lines

    Grey's Anatomy has had random lesbian or gay storylines before, which I always liked.  She even had a few in which the fact that the person was gay was completely unnecessary to the plot - ie their plot was about their disease, much like that of the straight characters.

    It's just main characters she has a problem with. Which I think made it all the harder watching the train wreck that was Callica.

    empiremunchies's picture

    Totally loved it

    A second after I said "Are they gonna even let these two kiss?"...They DID!...It was great that not only was the lesbian thing just talked about, but it was demonstrated.
    Orithia's picture

    I loved this

    I adored this episode.  I really wish my mom would have watched this with me, because I think part of her wishes I would just get married to a guy and have babies and ignore who I am.  And up until a year ago, I was actually willing to do that to keep everyone else happy.  That character's existance, the whole situation with her kid was so tragic, and it really hit home.  Especially when she said, "I knew at 15."  I almost started crying, because that totally could have been me in 40 years. I know people think this is something that is extinct in the younger generations, but it's really not.  Beyond this, all of the other characters had such a healthy reaction to the women, it was so so awesome.  I'm like, see?  We're not monsters.  It's okay.
    SpecialK7's picture

    It's all Addison.

    The lesbians flock to her :)

    So I mainly watch Private Practice for Addison.  I mean, what else does one need to watch a show?   And lately it's had some pretty decent storylines (considering dead Denny's still walking around Seattle Grace, this HAS to be better)...

    But this storyline brought me to tears.  I realized immediately that she was seeing someone, but didn't realize it was another woman until the other woman walked into the hospital room and then I knew they were together and almost started to cry.  So happy they let them kiss on TV.  And loved Violet's whole reaction to the entire situation.  Made my night!

    narcolepsy_slds's picture

    I watch for Addison as well

    I watch for Addison as well ... I have to admit that I could not bring myself to watch the first season, but this season is all right. And this was a good episode.

    But IMO the little girl with CF should not have died. No matter how hot Addison looked in that dress. 

    Jennifer's picture

    thats what happens with b cepacia

    the episode wouldn't have been as perfect as it was if the little girl lived. i have cf and have lost many friends that share the disease because this strain of germ is as highly contagious as it was portrayed and as highly lethal. i applaud the writers for their accuracy . in both aspects of the episode. its not very often two different storylines in one show hit so close to home.
    Jill's picture

    Sounds like it was a good episode.

    Sounds like it was a good episode.

    Personally, I watch this show for Amy Brenneman - I'd watch her read the phone book.

    But the other characters are good too, plus Kate Walsh is also a hottie . . . .

    Metrogirl's picture

    Sexy kiss!

    I love it!
    VeeMachi's picture

    The other side-plot ruinied it for me.

    What did you think about Private Practice’s lesbian story?

    It was really nice to see ABC isn't completely ruled by conservative homophobes, and even nicer to see that for someone on that show everything turned out great. The whole father letting his son grow up without him really ruined it for me. I kept hoping one of the doctors would slap some sense into him!
    pink_sheep's picture

    I agree

    I totally like the lesbian plot for the episode,but the dad going to be with his daughter so that she didn't have to be alone really really sucked. I wish they made that a happy ending too. Guess you can't have everything...
    Low-Ren-Zo.'s picture

    I didn't think that.

    I wasn't bothered by the fact that he left his son alone. His son was like, two? Having to chose between yuor children can't be easy, but seeing your daughter dying scared and virtually alone has to be heartbreaking. His son won't remember what happened because he's so young, and if he hears the story later on, he'd be devastated, but hopefully he'd understand.

    And the lesbian storyline was nice. Yes, I'm still sore about Hahn. But. Ok, Shonda. Ok.

     

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    bobsfrankenbeans's picture

    Bitter Sweet

    I think it's nice that a lesbian storyline can still live on air, no matter how small. In the end, I think this reaction says it all:

    sojourner2005's picture

    Well...

    It may be just me, but I disagree somewhat with this statement:

    "'...last night Shonda Rimes went a long way toward repairing the Sapphic bridge torn down when Erica Hahn left Grey’s Anatomy. The lesbian storyline was heart wrenching and realistic."

    From the beginning Shonda Rimes  has done us proud with her portrayal of lesbian/gay relationships. If anybody thinks that an executive producer has more power than the network boss in terms of what gets shown on tv, then that would be pretty naive. I was amazed how people really thought that someone whose passion is telling stories would blithely throw it all away in the manner which Callie and Hahn broke up.  I'm sure if she had been given more time to wrap up the tale she would have done it in a satisfactory manner. But when you are at the mercy of the money men, do you cut off your nose to spite your face or do try to do what they ask and still be able to tell stories like the one she did in this episode. And any way she attempted to explain and keep her job at the same time would not have satisfied the hordes calling for her demise. The vitriol that has been spewed in her direction was unfair and I believe this episode continues her proven history of treating all kinds of relationships (even ones with ghosts) and cultures with respect...

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    the linster's picture

    Actually...

    I didn't blame Shonda. I said she went a long way toward reparing the damage. Which she did!
    ace.'s picture

    Good

    I didn't watch, but from the review, I think it was handled well.Hope most of the lesbian scenes are like these..meaningful.
    michelle's picture

    MUSIC!

    For me it was awesome to hear Rachael Cantu's "Devil's Thunder" as the closing song.  If you're not hip to her you should check her out :)
    Arc's picture

    Looks Good

    Won't see this for months over here in Ireland but it looks like a really good storyline, handled well. And Kate Walsh - well what can I say HOT!!
    Anonymous's picture

    nice and sweet

    In general, I love how PP handles a host of issues, whether they be women-related ("Everybody without a vagina leave this room right now!*) or queer-related.  It makes me think even higher of Kate Walsh (if that was possible).

    That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

     

    *Episode in season 2 when Pete's girlfriend decides to do abortions out of the clinic and Addison yells at the men for even having an opinion on this (very womanly) topic

    alisaholland77's picture

    Where

    Where can I find this episode online?