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A little love for "Big Love"

HBO's early renewal of Big Love for a third season is great news for those of us hooked on this compelling series about a polygamous family in Utah. Yes, I said a polygamous family in Utah. And you should watch this, why?

Well, here's the easy answer.

Jeanne Tripplehorn, Chloe Sevigny and Ginnifer Goodwin play the three sister-wives at the core of the family. And they inhabit their parts so completely, it’s hard to imagine them in previous roles.

Tripplehorn, whose movie debut was as a psychiatrist in Basic Instinct (she was the one who did wear panties), plays Barb Henrickson, the first wife and only one legally married to Bill (played by Bill Paxton).

As a teacher and the sister-wife most visible in the community, Barb’s story feels all too familiar at times. A recent story line saw Barb’s nomination as her community’s Mother of the Year crumble when she was outed as a polygamist. Ouch.

Sevigny, recently named No. 1 on AfterEllen.com's Top 15 Hottest Butches list, is Nicky Grant, second wife and the one most devoted to “the principle” of plural marriage.

Sevigny’s role as conservative, tightly wound Nicky is eons away from projects like Boys Don’t Cry, If These Walls Could Talk 2 and Brown Bunny. Not that I saw Brown Bunny. Ew. But her ability to make us love the manipulative, often whiny Nicky is a testament to how good she is in this part. Sevigny deserves an Emmy. ‘nuff said.

Goodwin, who played Johnny Cash's first wife in Walk the Line, is the youngest, most effusive sister-wife, Margene Heffman.

Margene is the source of much of the humor in the show. She is madly in love with Bill and absolutely devoted to her sister-wives and their collective children. She’s also very naïve — she wrestles with Barb’s 17-year-old son with nary a thought that she, at 23, might arouse more than maternal feelings in him. And her recent struggle with telling her mother the truth about her lifestyle … well, been there.

This season of Big Love has taken us beyond each wife’s marriage to Bill to explore the relationships between the wives themselves. Barb, Nicky and Margene consider themselves married not only to Bill, but also to each other.

Wait. Women married to each other? Hmm.

Don’t get me wrong. Big Love is no sweet parable about discrimination. The underlying theme is submission to the patriarchy. And some of the subject matter is troubling, from coerced underage marriage to hints of incest. But it’s often funny — and always entertaining. I am enthralled with the show because I truly care about these characters and want to know what happens to them.

Does anyone else watch Big Love? What do you think? And is anyone cooler than Chloe Sevigny?



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  • imthey's picture

    I'm a Big Fan of Big Love

    I think that Big Love is a great show and it's definitely on my DVR for recording every week.
    I do hope that we get some more of Sarah and Heather in the show (respectively played by Amanda Seyfried and Tina Majorino, who I also loved from Veronica Mars).  The show always seems to be hinting that there might be more than just mere friendship between the two (either that or I'm reading subtext into it again, like I tend to do with far too many shows).
    I think all three of the lead actresses bring a great deal to the table and are doing a fantastic job of bring across the complex religious practice of polygamy.


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    the S O V's picture

    ?

    Yeah...what ever happened to that storyline? I liked where it appeared to be heading. Also...Gennifer looks really pissed off in that picture!
    Omega II's picture

    Same here

    I saw the couple possibilities between them in season one, but it looks like Sarah is veering off. Heather is still in love with Sarah though (being tired of being Sarah's last option indeed).

     

    "I can explain why I like, but not why I love."

    Anastasiaaah's picture

    Aaaaaaaaaah!!!

    Oh my god. That was such a late-90's horror show. Lesbians CAN dress themselves (see below for help in this area) and some of us DO carry handbags (read: purse).

    Lesbians talking about what lesbians should wear. Tune in. Trust.

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    Bri4173's picture

    That video made my cry.

    That video made my cry. And vomit. Every ten seconds.

    And Big Love is pretty much amazing.

     

    You're not really going to wear that, are you?

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    Flame's picture

    imo its is a horrible,

    imo its is a horrible, horrible, misogynist show. Why is it so popular? Because there is this one man who gets to have as much pu**y as he wants to.
    MaebyFunke's picture

    not exactly

    That may be why some people tuned in at first, but I think that's grossly oversimplifying the show. And I think it's more than a bit insulting -- do you really think a lot of lesbians would be fans of the show if it was glorifying that some guy gets to bone three women? It's a complex, well-written show, one that I think offers a lot of food for thought.

    PastLife's picture

    Complexity

    A straight married male friend of mine watches the show and said it made him realize three women in bed is a fantasy, three wives at the breakfast table is a nightmare. The strength of this show is the complexity of the female characters. Dismissing the show because it's about polygamists is like saying The Sapranos is just about a bunch of violent thugs.
    blackfaerychild's picture

    i love big love!

    i love big love!
    Xaverie's picture

    Big Love is amazing

    To answer a previous poster, just because events portrayed in a show are misogynist doesn't actually mean the show is. The protrays several different oppressive systems and how the characters struggle against them. The show was created by gay men, one of whom was the writer of If These Walls Could Talk 2.

    This show is so intense, so real and so compelling I can barely wait until the next episode airs. I think that to say it's a show about one man married to several women is to do the show an injustice. It's so complex and dark that it's hard to really explain, I think. I have serious love for all the characters, even the despicable ones like Roman, Rhonda and Albie just because they make the drama feel rich and real. Plus, a serious love for the subtexty relationship between Heather and Sarah.

    buster47's picture

    One of the best shows on tv

    Big Love is great. I especially like that each of the wives is completely different, and that each of them is struggling in their own way to deal with the other wives, not to mention the opening credits. It's also pretty cool that there are so many people from Veronica Mars on the show.

    bgood's picture

    I absolutely love BIG Love!

    Ive been watching since day one. love love love love love love big love.

     

    nuff said

    lhans537's picture

    Hells yeah

    I've been hooked since the first minute and I started watching it feeling completely skeptical.  It's simply an amazing show.

    I don't know why it hasn't been included in the Emmy's this year.  Major oversight.  For Chloe, especially, who has the hard job of making Nikki sympathic, likeable and enjoyable to watch, which she executes perfectly.  Nikki is more than likeable, she's absolutely loveable in spite of her many, many flaws.  If that's not talented acting, I don't know what is.

    I think there is still more to see from Mac - I mean Heather.  Sarah may not be into girls, but I really do think there's something Heather's hiding.  Why do you suppose she cares so much that Sarah always puts her last? ;)

    slcpunkster01's picture

    How can I not watch it?

    I definitely watch "Big Love." It feels so nice and subversive considering I live a hop, skip and a jump where the fictional family is supposed to be living. It's just that you really can't talk about it with co-workers...very touchy subject. But for the people outside of Utah, I don't think they can appreciate how well the writers capture all of the quirks and craziness of the place. They definitely did their research, and it makes the show so much more entertaining.
    bklnyhavot's picture

    This show sucks

    The biggest problem with this show is that it is boring, unbelievably boring. The writing is terrific, quite realistic. Self righteous white guy fighting evil and pursuing capitalistic success. Somewhat intelligent women who, at the end of the day, need the guidance and support of a man. When I watch this show I feel like I am transported into a waspy heterosexual wonderland. And I find that unbearable boring. Frankly, the kitsch factor is not enough to get me to watch this show.
    Blasianbeatnik's picture

    "Echo!"

    That's what we use to say in the restaurant business. It means, "I heard you!" or "I am with you!" Yeah, I agree the writing is fantastic and episodes are amusing but the end of the day, I ain't buying the product. Nothing about suburbian glory appeals to me. And definitely hearing about how difficult it is to be polygamist is just wack...but I do love Chloe...You know what it is...this show just does have any edge. It's not edgy. There's no real contrast to put all this polygamy is perspective.

    Is this show a commentary on a non-traditional nuclear family or a politcal essay on polygamy...Either way, it doesn't do either. It plays safe.

    Pesto the Pirate's picture

    Love

    I absolutely love this show. I have not seen any other polygamist-related show. And even if I did, it was just a side-story. It's really interesting to see how complex their live is between where they're living in their other live in the compound. I find Chloe's character at times, but then there are times when I can't help but sympathize with her. Like when she's trying to please her father and her husband at the same time. She's the most interesting character out of the three.

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