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Kelly McGillis comes out as a lesbianIt’s official: My dreams from the '80s have come true — Kelly McGillis has confirmed she’s here and queer so get used to it. The woman took our breath away as Tom Cruise’s love interest in Top Gun but most recently did a bang-up job of portraying closet case Colonel Gillian Davis for two episodes of The L Word. McGillis told SheWired.com the next time she’s in a relationship it will “definitely” be with a woman. “I'm done with the man thing," she said. "I need to move on in life.”
There has been speculation regarding McGillis’s sexual orientation for years. In 2000, Kelly starred in Samantha Lang’s film The Monkey’s Mask, playing a bisexual murder suspect. This role sparked more rumors but McGillis wasn’t too concerned about it — perhaps because the underlying truth would eventually come to surface. The 51-year-old has been divorced twice (the last marriage ended in 2002), but it took until now to gather the courage to come out publicly. “I think that was an ongoing process from the time I was probably 12,” she said. “I find myself now at 51 kind of starting my whole life in a different phase. I don’t know what’s going to happen.”
Hey, better late than never, right? You’re never too old to pursue your own happiness. Now that her children are grown, McGillis said she might try to return to the screen — as long as she isn’t asked to dye her graying locks or get a boob job.
“I love acting, I love what I do so much, but I don’t want to do it at the point of losing who I am and what I believe,” she said. One thing is for sure, if McGillis doesn’t want to go back to acting full-time, she should have no problems doing copy editing for fortune cookie writing, as she also told SheWired, “Life is a freaking journey about coming to terms with who and what you are.” Submitted by on April 30, 2009 - 3:00pm. |
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"Life is a freaking
"Life is a freaking journey" lol. I love her. Omg go Kelly!! So happy for her being brave and coming out. Yep, never ever too late and hopefully we'll see more of her as 'herself' in films/tv, cause she is fantastically gorgeous with a shitload of charisma and soul.
haha it will be so fun to watch her catalog of movies now that we know she was always playing for our team all along ;)
Best news I've heard in a while.
It looks like Blockbusters will be CLEANED OUT of Top Gun rentals for the next week or so.
I'm getting my copy this evening.
Gorgeous lesbian blondes... now that's my cup of tea.
Well, finally....
My gaydar has been saying that for such a long time.
Now can somebody call Kate Jackson
and see if SHE has anything to say?
Plus in the movie "Witness" Kelly is just lovely.
LMAO
"Now can somebody call Kate Jackson and see if SHE has anything to say?"
Priceless! I almost spit out my diet coke.
The chemistry between Kelly and Jodie in The Accused was palpable. I feel for her if it took this many years to come to terms with her sexuality. But good for her for finally embracing who she is!
Grr Arg
Ah
That annoys me
She has been with upteen men, so she's bisexual -- I prefer just saying we are all gay, we're happy one way or the other:)
tJR
www.myfandoms.com and aliceschart.com
the place for fan fiction of any kind....
bi or gay?
Well... she herself actually chooses the word 'gay' to describe herself, and infers that up until now, she was never being true to herself. Just because she has 'been with umpteen men' doesn't automatically mean that she is bisexual and not lesbian. Author Ann Bannon was married for years with children, yet she was a closeted lesbian and not bisexual. Lindsay Lohan has
bearded'been with' loads of men, yet insiders who know her claim that she is in fact a lesbian. Cheryl Crane (Lana Turners daughter) had lots of boyfriends, as did Lesley Gore... but they are both gay, not bi.Some gay women struggle a lot with their sexuality and often, in a deep state of denial, may have LTRs with men.
Now, if she says that she liked, enjoyed and felt sastisfied and comfortable in these relationships with men, and that she was attracted to them, then we can deduce that she is bi.
It seems a bit early for us to assume that she is either gay or bi until she herself confirms. But she is definitely queer, so yay!
Hip To The Beat, Mommie-O!
thank you, well put.
Oh, Please ! I take offense to her remarks about her "being done
with the man thing", as if she's run out of men or because she's had bad luck with men, now it's time to turn to women. You know what ? I'm done with brocolli so I think I'll try carrots. Lesbianism is not something you try on. It has NOTHING to do with being tired of men. Why can't straight women understand that ? I didn't like the way she phrased her coming out, assuming that she's gay in the first place. Gay men don't say "I'm tired of women. I think I'll try men." This is why people don't take lesbianism seriously because of foolish remarks like that.
Oh, and by the way, Lindsay Lohan is bisexual-not gay. She even referred to it in her mock eharmony ad where she said "he or she". She's never come out as gay so let's stop the rumors.
A coupla points...
I think that her comments about having 'done the whole man thing' and being over it are totally being misconstrued. I didn't take it as her saying 'I'm sick of men, I think I'll give women a whirl now'.... I think that she is saying that she's done the whole 'maybe I'm not really gay, maybe I just need to find the right man... maybe the next guy will be the One' in-denial, closeted, hopeful dating/marrying of men because she is finally ready and able to be true to her real sexuality.
She seems much too clever, wry and experienced to have such a vapid, fickle attitude towards her sexuality. She has lived her life and made her journey, and only she can define herself.
I totally agree with the other ladies here who say the labelling and deciding someone else's sexuality is patronising and out-of-order.
I for one have nothing but admiration and best wishes for Kelly, and for her courage in finally coming out as queer. So many celebrities never come out, and many die still in the closet and supposedly 'straight'.
Jodie should take a cue from Ms Gillis and finally take the plunge!
Hip To The Beat, Mommie-O!
If she identifies herself as
Agreed. 'Deciding' someone
was wondering...
...when you would post that news :D
I've always liked her, especially in Witness which is one of my favorite film :D
*Very* old news!
Wasn't she the actress involved in a 3 way cat fight with Jodie Foster (her co-star) and Whitntey Housten. Either Kelly McGillis or Jodie was in a relationship with Whitney, and it came to blows when Kelly & Jodie got together on the set of The Accused. Ah, lesbian drama :)
btw, I wouldn't call this a rumour since I heard it from someone who was working on the set of that movie.
Music to My Ears!
Oooh Kelly! I don't care how she identifies herself, she wants to be with a woman, that's all that matters. *music to my ears*
" True enjoyment comes from activity of the mind and exercise of the body; the two are ever united" ~ Wilhelm von Humbolt
Very Nice
jaw, meet floor
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stoogle?:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0QxB3z2qgU
yeah...
Holy ****!
This is just "freaking" fantastic! Yes, I have to take a swig, I'll join the many who had a crush on her back in the days of Top Gun and Made in Heaven (youth excuses some tastes in movies I hope) and Witness!!!
LOL
What took so long?
Very exciting!! but I wonder why it took so long for the interview to be posted? It was clearly done the weekend of the flag football tournament. I wonder if she negotiated its release while she talked to family and/or friends.
Either way- glad she's OUT!
{Smiling, lots}
Did I like Top Gun? Well, it was okay for the type of film it was.
Did I like Tom Cruise in it? Yes, I admit. Do I like him now? No!
Did I like Kelly McGillis in it? Yes, especially as the sexy older woman! Do I like her now (and not just bcos I know)? YESSSSS!!!!
So happy thats she feels comfortable enough to come out now. Man! it just shows that for some it really is that hard to do so, while for others, they can just openly bounce up and down about it.
Kelly is still awesome at 51!
Dear Kelly McGillis,
If you are reading this, you need to know that it isn't too late for us. The Bunny thanks you are still "hot as" as we say in kiwi land.
XOXOXOXO
Quote:Lindsay Lohan has
bearded'been with' loads of men, yet insiders who know her claim that she is in fact a lesbian.That's not what Lohan said. She said herself, in a interview with US magazine, that she was NOT a lesbian. THANK GOD!
I agree that would make her bisexual whether she called herself that or not. I wonder if all those stories about Kelly going into lesbian bars, in Florida, all those years ago, were true?
Kelly at "The Dump"
This is News???
Done with
Surely I can't be the only one who, on reading "I'm done with the man thing", immediately had visions of Marvel's swamp monster:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man-Thing
Now there's a relationship that would have been news!
Is she gay? Is she bi?
Well, it's not really news that she isn't straight.
“I'm done with the man thing," is the sort of comment that's bound to push people's buttons.
I hope her next relationship works out for her anyway.If every woman...
If every woman quitted men because they were "done" with that species, no woman would ever be with a man. I think she was speaking in rather loose terms, but I know us lesbians like all facts or we interpret random oddities.
The late in life lesbian really holds back the movement. It's really sad that they are so brainwashed that they actually have to grow out of submission. But Goody for her for escaping the shackles.
http://themenstruator.podOmatic.com
Oh please grow up woman
What about late in life bisexuals? What do they do for the movement?
Rita Mae Brown, the famous American lesbian author came out as bisexual last year at the age of 63 in this interview.
Question: You really never came out, did you? You were out.
Brown: The funny thing is, I don't believe in straight or gay. I really don't. I think we're all degrees of bisexual. There may be a few people on the extreme if it's a bell curve who really truly are gay or really truly are straight. Because nobody had ever said these things and used their real name, I suddenly became the only lesbian in America. It was hysterical. It was a misnomer, but it's okay. It was a fight worth fighting.
Source http://www.time.com/time/arts/article/0,8599,1723482,00.html
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Congratulations on being
Congratulations on being true to yourself- I have to say, I think that this is exactly what Kelly is trying to say with her "I'm done with men" statement- I actually read it as her saying (rather clumsily, give her credit she was caught on the hop) that she is done with pretending.
She says that being gay is something that she has "fought with" since she was 12 years old, and it has obviously been a very long road of self-discovery and acceptance (including two heterosexual marriages and two children whom I am sure she loves with all of her heart) to reach this point where she can finally accept herself, and share this acceptance with the world.
I think that it is ignorant and highly disrespectful to state that she "must be" bisexual because she has been with men. Your body can do one thing, but your heart can feel entirely another.
Congratulations Kelly!
(*looks over to Jodie and Tom Cruise* j/k)
"All of her hair was cut off and she was totally weird- and now I guess she's on crack."
Hahaha
Very well said, Schmanet
(*looks over to Jodie and Tom Cruise* j/k)
Lol!
Hip To The Beat, Mommie-O!
Ignorant perhaps
However she could have just found herself a nice woman and then come out as Bi, or not straight, or handled things more like Cynthia Nixon - who I feel is probably quite genuinely bi.
Under the circumstances - her age and all those relationships with man - it would have been more diplomatic and not made her look so tragic.
And was it only two husbands? This website (they don't always get things right but they have been listing Kelly McGillis as Bisexual for years.) says three: http://www.nndb.com/people/521/000025446/
The done with men thing remark will encourage many people to feel she has gone gay because she has had some very bad relationships and experiences with men ( she was the victim of rape in NY 1982? ). And there are women who have evidently had appalling experiences with some men, come out as lesbian, and then eventually go back to men. Even Andrea Dworkin did this, albeit with a man who said he was gay while she went on identifying as lesbian.
After all those men just being out and open in a relationship with a woman but not proclaiming "I'm a lesbian" at the age of 51 would actually encourage many to take her more seriously and not half expect to see her going back to a man next year.
OMG
How could I have missed that??? O.O
When I was a teenager, back in the 80's, I had quite a crush on that woman (Top Gun, Witness, The Accused). :)
At least, now I know for sure that I hadn't been imagining the sexual chemistry between her and Jodie Foster in "The Accused". ;)
Me too!
I know that this is a late reply to this topic, but I just saw 'The Accused' last night and was blown away by the obvious sexual chemistry between Jodie and Kelly... like you, I thought maybe it was my imagination or me being pervy- but it seems not.
It seems that there have been rumours for years that Jodie and Kelly dated for a good while back in the 80's, but that Jodies wandering eye caused poor Kelly some heartbreak. I hate to say it, but Jodie was a fool! ;-)
Hip To The Beat, Mommie-O!
Sisterbowl in South Dakota
The women of South Dakota have been having their version of this Football day for years. Lesbian football in February in Dakota!
i'm proud of kelly
I know its a really late post, but I got my panties in a wad...
I say it doesn't really matter. she doesn't owe anyone an explanation. it's her life, she can damn well identify any way she pleases and apparently that's gay. Do I really care that she's gay or not. Not really, I liked her anyway. I just wished we as a community weren't so damned judgemental on each other.
I have been there and done that and I made the same reply to my friends when asked if I really would never be with another man. I said, "I'm done." So, when I read Ms. McGillis' statement I felt I knew exactly what she meant.
Yes, I am married (been with the same man for over 20 yrs, married for 17), we are now divorcing. I realized when I fell for a friend, I couldn't go on living the way I was, that both my husband and I and our 2 boys deserved better. And no, I didn't leave him because of her. My feelings for her were my wake up call.
Even tho I've known I was gay since I was old enough to know what the word meant, I was with alot of guys. Keep having enough sex with enough guys, you'll be straight......right! You may be called a slut, but it's better than being called a "lesbian"! I was young and naive and it was my way of dealing. I had a girlfriend in highschool and we both dated boys as a cover.
I'm a lesbian. Yes, I lived a het lifestyle, but I've never considered myself straight. Sex with men was just ok, as long as I closed my eyes and pretended it was someone else. A means to an end, I guess, as horrible as that sounds.
Some don't realize how much easier it is nowadays. Being gay is more widely accepted. I didn't say it was easy by any means. And it is soooo different depending on where you are raised, religion, etc. It really bothers me that so many of us can be sooo judgemental. You can't judge until you've been there. I married because that's what I felt I was supposed to do. And me having been there....I can't say I'd change everything, because I wouldn't have my boys. I probably would have divorced ALOT sooner. But can't say that I'll ever be able to be completely out. I came from a town of about 6,000, in the 1980's my graduating class was about 40 students, we only had 800 students in our school district, small town Texas. Religion was VERY big, especially Southern Baptist, I REALLY wasn't big on religion, so that was bad enough growing up. I flew so under that radar and kept out of trouble because it was the kind of place where everyone knew everyone and everything. These things made me who I am and affected my decisions in life, for better or worse...but they are my reasons and my decisions, please don't judge me for living my life the way I felt it needed to be lived.
I have my family, kids, ex, etc. to come out to. So I can only imagine what it is like for someone in show business. They not only have their family/friends, but fans, it can affect their jobs, even more so back then. And now she officially comes out in her 50's. Just remember we don't have to walk by a newstand everyday with a comment about us.
Everything in it's own time...
Totally understand ya bitxaustin. Have been married twice myself and came out at 38. Everyone comes to their own truth when they are ready for it. Try a small town in Iowa with a graduating class of 19!
The important thing is that we got here, and that whoever has made it to their truth, they are happy with it.
An observation though, and I'm old enough to have observed a lot! Typically those who haven't been "closeted" seem to be more judgemental of staying cloistered. They feel that if they were able to come out, that it should be just as simple for everyone.
And the fine line widens.....
I totally agree