Jodie Foster and the writing on the wall of the Saban Center

"To me, the nameplate seems like a simple assertion that Jodie, Cydney, Kit and Charles are a family, and to them, that's what really matters. It's the very picture of health and wellness."

Scribegrrl, you said it.

"There is no formula. You learn to love by loving. "
Aldous Huxley

Allegedly thet met on Sommersby, not Anna and the King

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that's not Cydney with her in The Brave One pic, that's her stunt double.

But yeah I doubt we'll ever hear I'm gay from Jodie unless she's desperate for publicity which I hope she never is. I kinda admire how she navigates her fame on her own terms.

Jodie-and Anderson Cooper as well as Queen Latifah perhaps-might have found a new way to "come out". Softer, not-headline making, smooth. They never confirmed any suspicions but they never denied anything either.

 But I'm really torn on this issue... On one hand, I feel like it's nothing to be ashamed of and celebrities should make a public statement in order for the state of things to change. But again, I understand how they'd want to keep their relationships private (as more and more straight celebs tend to do) by avoiding the media frenzy that would ensue...

 And then you have to wonder... Anderson and Jodie seem a lot more "open" about their orientation recently. Did the Advocate's "glass closet" issue have anything to do with it???

you can also see her sporting her wedding ring in those photos. just sayin'.

i was about to add that in that pic of jodie on set with cydney, don't they look rather...identical....but thanks for clearing that up, alex.

Not that there ever was any doubt in my mind, and never will be, that she's gay, but I still think she has every right to keep it to herself. Not that I'd mind if she came out, don't get me wrong, but I just think she should do whatever she wants. To 'us' it's so obvious, and to others it's not. Feels a bit like it's our secret:p Although it isn't ofcourse.

I don't get why Jodi Foster doesn't just go ahead and come out. She is one of those people whose wealth and success put her beyond life's slings and arrows and allow her to do pretty much whatever the hell she wants. So why doesn't she want to come out, since that would obviously be such a huge boon to the gay community? If she did, maybe I could get on board with all the lesbian Jodi Foster love. As of now, I just don't get it--maybe because I hated Silence of the Lambs and saw nothing feminist--but plenty homophobic--in it.

However, at this point, I'm almost starting to admire the way Foster manages to be out without coming out. With this Bernard Foster plaque thing she has reached a new level of coy that I can't help but stand in awe of.

The selfless act of the donation and then adding her two son’s hand prints and full name, like two precious and subtle exclamation points about her life, in all the ways that matter, just cements her amazing character even more, in my book.

I think Jodi is out. No, she did not have a press conference to anounce it or take out an ad. But, she is seen in public with Cydney and the kids, she wears her ring, takes Cydney to events, puts up plaques with her children's names on them.

She is just living her life and not hiding anything, isn't that being "out". I think many of us are the same way. I am completely out here at work. I don't go around  saying that I am a lesbian but, I have pictures of my partner and our son on my desk, I take my partner to work events, I say things like "Kristi and I are going on vacation", "we went to Josh's lacrosse game on Saturday". Maybe some people think she is just my sister or my best friend or something but that is their ignorance.

My point is that celebrities don't have to be on the cover of a magazine declairing their sexual orientation for them to be out. They can be like us, not going around anouncing it but not denying it either.

I personally don't need any kind of declarations from her. She makes fantastic movies and what she does in her personal life is her business. The truth is that everyone, including Jodie Foster, has the right to have a private life. If she doesn't want to talk about it, she won't talk about it. That doesn't mean that she hides any of it, which clearly she does not. She just refuses to comment on it.

We've been having this debate on the site and on the forum for years and I think it boils down to personal choice. Some think we all should come out screaming and some, like me, think that talking about personal things like this should be left personal. I have hard enough time talking about relationships with family and friends, I can't imagine what it would feel like if you feel the pressure from the entire world. Seriously.

I think the name plates speak volumes by themselves, she doesn't need to comment on it. And really, talking about relationships to the press, be they straight or gay, is just stupid. You end up feeling like a total tool if the relationship doesn't work out and you've gushed about it to the whole world. And then not only do you have to feel the pity of your family and friends, you have the whole world watching it (example: Brad Pitt & Jennifer Aniston break up).

Clearly Jodie's not hiding her life so I don't see what the big problem is. I think it's clear by now that she just won't talk about her romantic relationships to the press. EVER. And she shouldn't have to.

"I doubt Jodie would be quite that cruel, though I do tend to wonder whether the name "Kit" was the wisest choice."

I believe either Cydney's mother or grandmother is named Kit.  So, Kit Bernard would actually be a family name on Cydney's side which makes it even more family than just the Bernard part.  Very cool.

And, secondly, I almost get the feeling that Foster is waiting until the kids are adults, living their own lives, before publicly acknowledging what we all already know.  She had such an open, public childhood that I can see her wanting to keep any extra attention away from her kids.  She's started unlocking the facade a bit more recently now that the kids aren't babies anymore.  I'd expect full, nonchalant disclosure (ie. no press conferences, just showing up at events in America with Cydney in full spouse mode, uttering the phrase 'Cydney and I' at least once in an interview, etc.) after the kids are a bit older. 

"The Jodie Foster Aquatic Pavillion"?? Rather a grand name for what looks suspiciously like a bathtub, or maybe a spa bath. I guess "The Jodie Foster Jacuzzi" would give rise to a whole nother mental picture, now wouldn't it?

You know, I've said it before and I'm sure I'll need to keep saying it again until someone listens to me...I'm no great fan of old JF. I find her a little too pinch-faced to lust over (I'm just saying; don't start pm-ing me again) and Taxi Driver is the last film she made that I didn't curl up and sleep through. But people...do we really need to keep the "is she in; is she out?" conversation going? We're talking about sexuality here, not an elected office. And what is "out" anyway? Giving an interview? Issuing a press release? Or living openly with her female life partner, giving her surname to their two kids and putting their handprints on the wall of her Jacuzzi Aquatic Pavillion?

If she was to act somehow in a hypocritical or dishonest fashion (such as marrying a beard and pandering to homophobes) I'd be the first to run to the barricades. But she hasn't and she clearly likes to preserve a little bit of her life for, well, for herself. And I couldn't care less. Good luck to her.

Not Only But Also

The sign over the jacuzzi in my bathroom says "The Bad Machine Aquatic & Wine Pavilion."

Coincidence? I think not. 

would be when jodie indeed comes out. but i reckon that'll never really happen. i don't really see jodie as someone who will put herself in a definitive point in that line that divides the marginalized us (including her, if she is) and the privileged them (with one foot in our space and still one foot, the one with the heavier gravitational weight, in theirs -- much like where ellen is).

but it's nice to dream. :) i mean, hey, she's been our idol since her BUGSY MALONE/TAXI DRIVER (and even TOM SAWYER) days so hey, that means a lot :)

But when you think about it, Jodi Foster's attitude has set a whole precedent. Look at people such as Christina Aguilera and Jennifer Lopez who basically chose not to confirm their pregnancy, in spite of the glaring evidence.

I think at times people who are in the public eye don't really like having their private life spelled out. Yes, they have a public persona, and yes, it all comes with the territory. But think about, how would you feel if somebody constantly aired your most private thoughts, moments, souvenirs, memories... If someone was always in your face, screaming for an autograph, or wanting something else from you... If you can't even simply put the trash out in your PJ's because there's someone with a telelens in a car parked outside your house...

I think that all too often we underestimate the impact of our star hunger... and the consequences for the people that we like and admire...

The plaques at the center simply state the obvious.

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