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What's YOUR Problem? Episode 4

Actress and therapist Cathy DeBuono lightens things up in her fourth episode with comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer.

Cathy and Suzanne deconstruct a love triangle, offer advice on finding your mojo and take a random tangential trip through several other topics for no apparent reason at all.

What's Your Problem? Episode 4
"Having Your Cake and Eating Hers Too"


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If you have questions/issues you want Cathy to address, you can leave them in the comments, or private message Cathy.

Suzanne's show, "Suzanne Westenhoefer: A Bottom on Top" is currently airing on Logo and is also available on DVD.  For more information go to www.suzannew.com.

Closing song "Days of Summmer" performed by Janet Robin.

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  • opelchan's picture

    I'm first?

    You gals are hot!

    Cathy reminds me of Mauresmo, does all the hot jocks look the same?

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    hinterguxli_CH's picture

    Momo - so true!!!

    Yeah, Cathy you are hot and should come with a warning! Clever, charming, funny... list could be endless.

    And the similarity to Amélie Mauresmo is huge (my fav tennis player of all times of course for both game and person!). Probably I should even say that Momo looks similar to you... whatever... Cathy - you are probably just more out-going. Other than that: twins. Have you ever met her?

    http://www.ameliemauresmo.fr/en/

    Love you - Keep it up; this vlooooog is brillant!!!!!!

     

    ... singin' 'rudolph, the red nosed reindeer'!

    Twstdtrinity's picture

    Advice and Hilarity

    Who knew it was such a good combination.

    Your vlogs just keep getting better and your guest more wonderful. I heart Suzeanne! By far one the funniest ladies in comedy. Could anyone argue with that? I didn't think so.

    Cathy you are so gorgeous and in no way do you look like a man to me.

    Wonderful vlog

    TheWeyrd1's picture

    Humor does help the therapy medicine go down...

    doesn't it... Now, I gotta go unpack some boxes so I can find my mojo...or 5 bucks.

    oneeyedchicken's picture

    I thought by the time I

    I thought by the time I could watch this episode I would find this full of comments but there is only one... but now i see that you posted it just an hour ago, so isn´t too strange...

     i'm gonna see it right now... i've been waiting all day for this.

    DAM1956's picture

    Incredible

    Cathy - This was just awesome!!  You just get more amazing every week!   In between almost spitting out my coffee at several points, I thought the advice that you gave each person was excellent.  The best part of these vlogs is the sincerity and warmth that you radiate.  I think you've definitely found your 'niche'.  It's also pretty obvious that you found your 'mojo' somewhere along the way (maybe 2nd grade?).  Suzanne doesn't appear to have any problems in the 'mojo' department either.  I'm off now to see if I can find mine.  In all seriousness, I think finding our mojo can be an extremely effective tool in the fight for self esteem.  Once you've found it, you have the power to make your dreams come true.  Great advice!

    I look forward to this every week because you just ROCK!!  

     ROCK ON!!

     

     

     

    sublime493's picture

    SOMETIMES, I really like your vlog...

    Ok, just playin.

    Another great bit of advice from Cathy and crew! :-D

    I love watching your vlog because it reminds me of times in college, hanging out with friends and trying to solve the world's problems over a huge pot of coffee or a nice bottle of wine...or a mini-keg...you know, whatever, don't judge :-p

    Thanks again for your insightful and empathetic responses...your success in the counseling field would certainly have paralled the success you've found in show biz (and don't get all hollywood cynic now on me, i mean that) !!

    Thanks again to you and to everyone putting themselves out there...sharing your stories helps countless others, too!

     

    silent_alarm's picture

    Absolutely...

    Hilarious! I heart the Westenhoefer. I may have to make a t-shirt with that on it. 

    I also agree with everything you guys said in the vlog. Gotta find your 'mojo'. A confident person is always attractive. 

    the girl next door's picture

    Funny!

    You two are so funny <3
    Lestiger's picture

    i laughed till it hert

    i laughed till it hert

     

    1charlie's picture

    "less Kids, lets use up the ones we have!"

    Brilliant Vlog! thank you Cathy.

    in between the hilarious rants, there was some great advice.
    is it wrong that i want a problem to ask your help with? ;)

    Coming from somebody who has never had any pets...
    how do you have a dog, a cat and a bird, all still alive?!?!
    the laws of nature says that ain't right... :P

    Can't wait till next week!

    A Muse's picture

    wow

    best vlog and best guest ever!!!

    loved it! and Samster, the stuntbird was awesome! ;)

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    taurus41's picture

    Fun

    m-a-l-l-e-a-b-l-e
    pecola's picture

    Great Vlog

    Good advice and laughter are a great combination.

    The Mother Theresa joke....

    HAHAHAHAHA!

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    anastasiabeaverhousen's picture

    Eating cake!

    "you're having your cake and eating HER cake all at the same time!"  The best line EVER!.

    Cathy, again.  GREAT VLOG!  You and Suzanne together were hilarious.  I think you ARE the next Oprah!

    Can't wait for next week.

    sunwalker's picture

    LOL!!!

    "You just told me to shut up and stop staring at you all in the same breath" HAHAHAHAA

    This vlog was sooo funny I can't laugh hard enough. And Cathy, sigh, you are so stunning.

    Now I have to wait a whole week.

     

     

    oneeyedchicken's picture

    perfect

    i had a great time watching the vlog... it was 20 minutes of laughs and 7 of advice... hahaha...

    now I'll start looking for my mojo, really need that... or whatever I need...

    explorergal's picture

    Lend me your ear!

    HAHAHAHA Cathy, this was the funniest one yet and great advice in the midst of it!

    I thought I'd die laughing with the 'ear sex'.

    Great insight on the Steph/S and K scenario.

    The 26 year old who says she is never gonna find someone and is too old?

    I'm 56 and just found the love of my life.  It's NEVER TOO LATE!  Get out there and join in, that's the only way you will find what you are looking for.  They are not going to come knocking at your door!  All good things are worth working towards. It makes it all the sweeter for the effort. 

    Remember, YOU ARE WORTH IT!

    TheWeyrd1's picture

    Whew!

    Thank the goddesses...I still have time!
    Nancylee's picture

    Fun Fur

    Cathy -- great show. Funny, foxy women. Drinking and talking about life and love. Surrounded by all God's creatures. And I mean, ALL. I kept waiting for a ferret or some reptile to make an appearance. Seriously, you've got a lot of livestock, girl. Maybe you should have a guest vet and have some pet talk.

     

    Do what you love, with those you love.

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    Tara21's picture

    best one so far

    wow, that was a really entertaining. AND the sound was perfect, finally I could understand every word, that's been uttered. Thank you so much for doing that vlog. I didn't know Suzanne before, she is one funny lady, very entertaining and likeable. I laughed out loud several times during this blog and it's quite hard to make me laugh.

    I can relate to the girl who wrote the last letter so much. I myself have never had a relationship and I pretty much know why. But I'm just incapable of changing it. I know what my problems are and I hate that I can't change it. And that again makes me mad at myself, which brings me to the point again, that you have to love accept yourself before you can be loved by others.

    I just wrote a really long text in here, but I erased it. I already know the answers to my questions...

    Great Vlog, looking forward to the next one!... and still thinking about this one

    lezgirllover's picture

    Best one ever

    Great as always!!! Your advice was great, but I loved to see you 2 talk about everything, that had me laughing for 20 minutes...

     

    *I´m off to find my mojo*

    lezzieboredom's picture

    fun fun fun

    Ok Suzanne, maybe a touch undiagnosed ADD?

     

    maybe?

     

     

    great vlog cathy! and worth using 90% of you personal time to edit. Def!

    thanks!

    j

     

    Hey_You's picture

    haha..provo utah

    hysterically funny and wonderful vlog

    the provo comment killed me...it is so true...i live a few hours away from that city...thats the good news...bad news is that means i still live in utah...

    mustang_sally's picture

    OMG I never thought I'd see

    OMG I never thought I'd see another...that makes 2 lesbians in Utah!
    TheWeyrd1's picture

    Sally...meet...Hey You...

    Now try to find each other and make each other lesbians! Isn't that what Suzanne suggested? Then let us know how that worked out...lol
    Hey_You's picture

    thank you for that wonderful intodution

    i believe she also said you just need to add water

    TheWeyrd1's picture

    Riiiight....

    and add water!
    mustang_sally's picture

    Well hell...that's easy. 

    Well hell...that's easy.  Don't know what my problem is. lol 

    p.s.

    thanks for the intro :)

    JeSsIcA25's picture

    3!!

    There are 3 of us!! In Utah!!
    rainer's picture

    so fun

    This vlog is so fun. And the advice is so solid. What a great combination.  Suzanne is so cool, what a fun gal. I'll be looking up her show for sure. In the mean time, I wonder where Cathy gets her mojo? I'd like to go there, yum.

    mustang_sally's picture

    How can I not love Thursdays?

     "Can you write that down? I didn't know I liked that."  I had to rewatch that part 3 times and I'm still laughing. 

    Great webicide--er -sode....Nice vlog Cathy :)

     

    perfectflaw75's picture

    I almost spit my tea

    ... when you mentioned that an AfterEllen user "compared" you to Aerosmith guitarist Steve Perry *lol* That was me. But, erm, for the record I said you reminded me of Joe Perry from Aerosmith. Steve Perry was the singer of Journey, and Joe Perry is the guitarist. No offense intended; I just think you're cool, Cathy!

    I enjoyed this week's vlog. Again. Like always. Is that you on that photograph stuck to your laptop? Adorable :)

    And I like that your petting zoo is attending the shooting of your vlog ;)

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    "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." (Dr. Seuss)

    raven's picture

    Suzanne is soooo funny

    I'm amazed you kept on track at all....especially since there was a 2 hr delay in which ...I'm thinking  alot of champagne was had by all ;)

    another great vlog with a great mixture of humor and advice.

    It was cool to finally meet Sammy....love his "trick"

    x ruthanne's picture

    I LOVE Suzanne Westenhoefer

    I LOVE Suzanne Westenhoefer sooo much. the end. One of thee funniest ladies alive.
    cats3jic's picture

    I LOVE your vlog!

    Cathy, I'm lovin your vlog! and I <3 Suzanne Westenhoefer!

    I also wanted to thank you for introducing me to Janet Robin.  I LOVE her music!  I'm rockin out to it all the time now! 

    pfl's picture

    Okay, Cathy....

    These are just amazing. Thank you!

    My favorite part has to be the bird in your hair. Adorable.

    Nancylee's picture

    A bird in the hair --

    -- Is worth two in the bush... Ancient lesbian proverb.

     

    Do what you love, with those you love.

    3WayTV.tv

    carolinagrrrl's picture

    Okay...

    That "proverb" made me laugh almost as hard as the vlog itself. Kudos, Nancylee!

    Also, thanks for your work on South of Nowhere and 3Way!! LOVING THEM BOTH (even though I know you aren't doing SoN anymore...)!!

     

    "Whatever people consider to be normal, it never is." -Ashley Davies

    pfl's picture

    Okay, Cathy....

    [argh, sorry for the double post!]
    lunakiss's picture

    Your Vlog made my B-day

     I'm glad you put out your vlog and today is my birthday . My birthday started off rotten and I've never ever had a rotten day like this one especially on my b-day. It still ended rotten. I wanna cry on myb-day b/c it's so horrible but you and Susan just made my day a little better. I needed a little laughter on this day. I deserve it! So thank you Cathy and Susan for making me laugh on my 31st birthday.

    Sidenote: I totally agree with you on the kids thing. We do need to use the one we have. Cathy you got great mojo -you looked hot on your last vlog in your biker outfit. Ha,I noticed more tank tops - thanks !

     

    "Do I have to dial 9 to call 911?"( This  quote was shared to me by a nurse who was talking about her then 14 year old  daughter who asked her  this while the father was suffering a heat stroke)

    lunakiss's picture

    Your Vlog made my B-day

     I'm glad you put out your vlog and today is my birthday . My birthday started off rotten and I've never ever had a rotten day like this one especially on my b-day. It still ended rotten. I wanna cry on myb-day b/c it's so horrible but you and Susan just made my day a little better. I needed a little laughter on this day. I deserve it! So thank you Cathy and Susan for making me laugh on my 31st birthday.

    Sidenote: I totally agree with you on the kids thing. We do need to use the one we have. Cathy you got great mojo -you looked hot on your last vlog in your biker outfit. Ha,I noticed more tank tops - thanks !

     

    "Do I have to dial 9 to call 911?"( This  quote was shared to me by a nurse who was talking about her then 14 year old  daughter who asked her  this while the father was suffering a heat stroke)

    lunakiss's picture

    Your Vlog made my B-day

     I'm glad you put out your vlog and today is my birthday . My birthday started off rotten and I've never ever had a rotten day like this one especially on my b-day. It still ended rotten. I wanna cry on myb-day b/c it's so horrible but you and Susan just made my day a little better. I needed a little laughter on this day. I deserve it! So thank you Cathy and Susan for making me laugh on my 31st birthday.

    Sidenote: I totally agree with you on the kids thing. We do need to use the one we have. Cathy you got great mojo -you looked hot on your last vlog in your biker outfit. Ha,I noticed more tank tops - thanks !

     

    "Do I have to dial 9 to call 911?"( This  quote was shared to me by a nurse who was talking about her then 14 year old  daughter who asked her  this while the father was suffering a heat stroke)

    lunakiss's picture

    Your Vlog made my B-day

     I'm glad you put out your vlog and today is my birthday . My birthday started off rotten and I've never ever had a rotten day like this one especially on my b-day. It still ended rotten. I wanna cry on myb-day b/c it's so horrible but you and Susan just made my day a little better. I needed a little laughter on this day. I deserve it! So thank you Cathy and Susan for making me laugh on my 31st birthday.

    Sidenote: I totally agree with you on the kids thing. We do need to use the one we have. Cathy you got great mojo -you looked hot on your last vlog in your biker outfit. Ha,I noticed more tank tops - thanks !

     

    "Do I have to dial 9 to call 911?"( This  quote was shared to me by a nurse who was talking about her then 14 year old  daughter who asked her  this while the father was suffering a heat stroke)

    lunakiss's picture

    Your Vlog made my B-day

     I'm glad you put out your vlog and today is my birthday . My birthday started off rotten and I've never ever had a rotten day like this one especially on my b-day. It still ended rotten. I wanna cry on myb-day b/c it's so horrible but you and Susan just made my day a little better. I needed a little laughter on this day. I deserve it! So thank you Cathy and Susan for making me laugh on my 31st birthday.

    Sidenote: I totally agree with you on the kids thing. We do need to use the one we have. Cathy you got great mojo -you looked hot on your last vlog in your biker outfit. Ha,I noticed more tank tops - thanks !

     

    "Do I have to dial 9 to call 911?"( This  quote was shared to me by a nurse who was talking about her then 14 year old  daughter who asked her  this while the father was suffering a heat stroke)

    lunakiss's picture

    Damn it!

     My computer or this site is slow posting and I end up posting more than once my bad. Please delete the repeats. I'm not crazy.

     

    "Do I have to dial 9 to call 911?"( This  quote was shared to me by a nurse who was talking about her then 14 year old  daughter who asked her  this while the father was suffering a heat stroke)

    quanyin's picture

    great vlog funny

    You two were very funny together.

    googlyey63's picture

    That was SOOOO FUNNY!!!

    Thank you so much. That vlog was very entertaining. I had a smile on my face the entire time. Cathy, I have been a fan of yours and I became a fan of Suzannes from her special on logo.

    That was just great. You two were so funny together.

    Clonchi's picture

    BEST LINE EVER!

    "Strut it; don't walk. Walk is for bottoms."

    That's gonna be my new motto Suzanne!! lol

    another amazing vlog Cathy. I admire and respect you so much, I can't even explain it!

    stonelinker's picture

    OMG, JUST WENT STRAIGHT

    Cathy, if you look like a man, then I just went straight!  Damn girl, I think you're beautiful.  Nobody on the planet can rock a leather belt like you baby!  Peace.

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