It should by now really go without saying, but as always you Cathy and your lovely guest Erin were wonderful.

I always look forward to seeing your vlogs...

Erin certainly is one lucky lady to have her "first time" (on a motorcycle) be with Cathy DeBuono! Cathy, you look HOT on that bike of yours... who wouldn't want to have taken Erin's place at that moment?

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I can relate to all of this on soooooooooo many levels, it's hard to put into words.  I hate permiable boundaries and they aren't fair and quite frankly straight girls who are also your best friend totally utilize them.  It isn't anybody's business who I sleep with and when somebody asks I answer only when I think I understand what the motivation of the question is.  If they want that information to use against me in some manner, then it's none of their damn business.  I'm all for being "out and proud" but trust and safety are still issues.  If you want to cheat on your spouse, gay or straight, then the issue isn't about other people, it's about you and your spouse.  Fix it and move on or not.  The Triumph and the chic on it were hot hot hot and Erin is a riot.   Cheesy bean spread indeed.  Long live Taco Bell....it's so wrong it's right.  I'm getting a t-shirt made up. 

I need a cold shower after that one.

And seeing comet curled up on Cathy's lap like that is making my puppy pangs even worse!

Amazing vlog as alway.

 i'm distracted. Cathy's HOT!

she's so hot i can see smoke coming out of her.

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I was so excited to see Erin Foley as your guest, she is wicked funny.   Loved the advice that you and Erin gave...Can't wait for the next installement.

 Cathy you totally ROCK!!!!

And yes I would have to agree with the majority you looked very Hot on that motorcycle.

I spiral fractured my middle finger playing rugby (3 full circles :S) it was laying across my thumb at the time (didn't stop me playing though) has never been the same since...

:O I normally prefer superbikes but that Trumph is hot (not to mention the rider...)!

Erin you are so funny I was cracking up at the Taco Bell impression :D 

Again great advice, love watching these vlogs, just down to earth and helpful :)

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Oh Cathy, no wonder why u are  on a lot of ladies Hot list  for AfterEllen's  Top 100 sexiest womyn.  Those gay boy shorts and that tank top (swoon) and you're hot self on a motorcycle. (Drooling here).  I,too, am jealous of Erin Foley. So jealous.

Back To Business: Cathy, you're honesty about the married womyn who wants to explore her crush is so thruthful ,and it is all about play. I'm glad you're honest in your advice even if it is something people do not want to hear. I hope the married womyn is about to find her true self though.I agree with you about the 14 year old who shouldn't recant her lesbian identity. Stay strong "JO." Be proud. The stronger you are,the harder it is for peeps to break you. Find a female icon for strength like Xena,the warrior princess. For years, mines has been Athena, the Greek Godess of Justice and equality and strength.

XOXO to all! 

As always Cathy i love sitting down to watch your vlogs so a big thank you for your time and a sneaky peak into your world.

You said that its wrong for straight girls to play on delicate emotions and stretch the elastic boundaries, does it work both ways? as i find myself maybe sometimes a little too flirty with my straight male friends. In my eyes it is all perfectly innocent and harmless because although i love them very much nothing will ever happen as i am totally gay and they know this, its a fact. So i dont see my self sending mixed messages its just a bit of light banter, a bit of fun. mmmm 

Oh well as always Cathy you leave me pondering, Thanks again for your unique insight and humor.

I patiently wait now untill next week x  

and come dyke-up Bikes Blues and BBQ this year!

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Sorry, but I found that the only appropriate muse to draw on was Sir Mixalot... Cathy you looked HOOOT. Although so did Erin, must be said.

I thought yor advice, as always, was insightful and correct- I am pleased you didn't condone an affair because it was a gay one. I also agree with Jo's advice, I came out at 13, and often that information can get into the wrong hands because you are looking for acceptance and validity from other people. It's nobody's business but yours.

 COME TO LONDON CATHY!!!! Take me (on your motorcycle that is...)

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made me want to buy a motorcycle.

Seriously - I have to do it. I won't look as cool as Cathy but I don't care cos it looks fun. 

Cathy

Your vlog was as great as always.  I am 32 now and have my life sorted however I think what you are doing is wonderful and I would have really appreciated something like this when I was younger and confused about my sexuality and not sure what to do in certain situations..

To Jo

I would just like to say I had a similar situation as you when I was still at school although I was a little older and I think Cathy's advice is dead on.  It was pretty much what I did which was not let anyone know personal information about myself unless I told them myself.  I had a small network of friends who I was out to and although like you one of them did tell others but my friends stuck by me and I didn't admit or deny anything.  I however wasn't completely out until my mid to late twentys as I was in the Army reserves and that wasn't a situation I could be out in.  So I say think about the situation and what it could mean for you to be out and always do what is best for you without completely witholding something that is part of you.

 Emma

p.s really quite jealous of Erin getting a go on the back of your bike!! 

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That made me miss my motorcycle, ENDEE! I thought I was going to quit, I guess its just addictive to quit it. I'd have to say, size is the motorcycle should be directly related to body size/height and also skills. 150cc must have felt like a bicycle to you, Cathy.

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I lurve lurve lurve this vlog, and I have for a long time now been a huge fan of Erin Foley, so to see them both in the same vlog was totally awesome!

i've never been a "dyke on bike" fan, but i'd ride with cathy ANY DAY!

and how effin cute was her neighbour......I wanna live in West Hollywood! 

thanks for another fantastic vlog Cathy!!!!! 

Yes! Women totally get better looking as they grow older! Plastic surgery sucks!

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Another great episode with very sound advice.  You bring up such very valid points Cathy and I am glad you continue to maintain that air of professionality amidst the humor and fun you bring us.

Erin.....nice to see you on AE again, continue your great comedy pursuits.

To Jo...perhaps if you react humorously to those people questioning you.  If they say, are you gay, you could say, I"m very happy, thank you, have a good day!  That could disarm them without giving out information or making anyone uncomfortable but maybe gets your point across that it is personal business.

Great Vlog as always!

And loved loved Erin Foley!! I would love to see her on BwB too:o)

Erin Foley's hillarious and I'm soo jealous of her for riding on the back of Cathy's motorcycle. Another great episode Cathhy!!

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I remember my first motorcycle ride, on my dads bike. awesome.  

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Erin Foley is HILARIOUS! Nice show Cathy!

I wish I could be heading down to NYC to see her this weekend!

AE needs to come up with a new contest...and the prize involves sitting on the back of a motorcycle and holding on real tight.  Just a suggestion.  :P

Interesting info about the size of the motorcycle and one's center of gravity...according to my calculations, I should buy a Vespa.  :) 

Good letters to deal with this time around...no clear-cut answers...but I like the advice you gave.  I wish you would talk about the permiable boundaries again in later vlogs as I am seeing it happening more and more to young gay girls with their straight (maybe questioning) female friends.  Helping to give them the tools to deal with it when it happens...before it gets too far...would help to prevent a lot of heartache.

this episode was hilarious. Erin is so Fing funny!! Cathy on the bike:O.

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loved this one! Erin was such a funny guest! lol...

interesting subjects and letters as well!

especially the last one.

In marriages, each partner deals with struggles on an individual basis all the time. It will be best to talk very openly with your husband every step of the way... especially if you do go back into the LGBT community. He seems supportive enough, and it would be better to keep him on the same page if you develop a desire to be solely in a relationship with a woman or if you decide to just focus on your relationship with him... or anything in between for that matter.

This kindof thing happens so much, and it would be good for you to sit down with your husband and see how he is feeling... about the relationship you and he have, about how he feels about your feelings... and if he has any new things in his mind. This kind of news can bring up some deep seated insecurities in men, and while you do want to make sure that you understand who you are and what you're going through, you want to keep your husband well informed so that he can react accordingly... so that he isn't hurt badly... and not that I reccomend this at all, but if the two of you end up seperated, having that open communication will help keep your children well adjusted.

I know a great guy whose wife was bisexual, and eventually in their marriage she began to feel a need for a relationship with a woman. they tried a semi open relationship, but that didn't work out. she ended up dating a woman secretly and left him in the middle of the day (while he was at work) with their two sons to live with this woman. I feel bad for him... because he has a lot of leftover heartache from that, most of which could have been avoided.

Best of luck to you! may you find happiness, no matter its form! 

I can't even imagine Cathy on a 250 cc bike.  It would be way too small.  That said, another entertaining and informative vlog. I wish my neighbors brought me cocktails when I wash my bike.  ; )  It was fun seeing Erin's reaction to her first motorcycle ride. She was so excited!  And Comet was just adorable sleeping in Cathy's lap during the letter reading.  Thanks for taking the time to create these vlogs for us. Much appreciated. Love it when vloggers take the cameras outside!

In defense of Taco Hell, I worked briefly at one during college back in the early 80's, and every ingredient except the sauces were fresh, not canned or frozen. Doing prep in the back consisted of washing and chopping up countless tomatoes and heads of lettuce, grating giant blocks of real cheese, and manually sifting through 50 lb bags of pinto beans to pick out the rocks before cooking them up in a giant pot and then blending them into the gooey bean paste that we all know.  I don't know how it is done now though.  But I remember thinking at that time that Taco Hell food really wasn't all that bad.  Unfortunately, the restaurant was 1 block away from fraternity row, so trying to close up on Friday and Saturday nights was a freakin' nightmare. I didn't work there very long.

As soon as I submittd my nominations for AE's hottest 100 women I thought "Damn! I should have nominated Cathy Debuono!" But then I thought, "Oh well, next year." And then I clicked on this vid, saw Cathy in her tank and shorts and I knew I was the biggest idiot EVER for not nominating her.

So I implore you my fellow AE readers and watchers! Vote for Cathy Debuono and right my wrong!

Damn this woman is hot beyond description! When she got on that bike I swear I almost ... well let's just say I was pleased. Whew! Damn!

I also loved Erin Foley. She is very pretty and funny and reminded me of a fellow law student I kind of have a little crush on.

The advice today, as always from Cathy was awesome. I am constantly blown away by the sensitivity and genuine care and levelheadedness that you bring to the vlog. Gah! How many women will Sarah Warn make me fall in love with?!