Thanks so much for doing these blogs!  They help so much!

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cathy is the reason i get up on fridays

thanks so much cathy for doing an awesome vlog

you rock cathy

These are really great vlogs. As a dyslexic I was always told that it was highly likely that I would leave school at sixteen and have a deadend job. For me writing essays and explaining myself on paper was and is really difficult. You will probably notice that much of the punctuation and grammar may be wrong in this post.

I often felt that I would be better off doing what everyone else thought was best for me. It would be a waste to go to university because, of course, I would fail and would take the place of someone who could actually get a good grade. I had always wanted to go to university and I was so surprised when I actually got in (my grades hadn't been the best, the only mark I got above a C was in English lit) I loved university and I loved learning despite having an incident in the second and first year.

I got paralysed by my fear. I couldn't finish my essays because they weren't good enough and I talked myself into the belief that it wasnt worth handing any more in because they would be crap. It took a long time to get over that feeling, and sometimes it comes back. I often compared myself to the other people in my classes, wondered why they could do it and I could not. I learned that my standards were my own. The knowledge that I did my best, that I had learned everything they had and that I understood it in my own way was the most important thing.

I still don't really know what I want to do with my life, I feel scared at leaving a school or academic setting because I have been in school since I was five. The 'real' world is scary. But I guess sometime you have to harness that fear and do something about it.

Your dog is so cute. OMG! :)

Thanks for these vlogs, their always helpful.

I can't even think straight...

She doesn't remember the Muppets?!? What is this world coming to? So sad. The entire Muppet Show collection should be given to every child as mandatory viewing. By the way Super Grover rocks and so do you Cathy!

Live every moment like it's your last.

Fantastic vlog.

It's great to see Cathy hanging out with younger gay girls and be a sort of mentor. In my experience where I live older lesbians are very condescending toward the younger ones, and when I was much younger and needed an older lesbian role model it was frustrating that the only words they had to throw in my direction were: "Look at the cute little baby dyke! Do you remember those days (insert name), sooo cute!", and they would immediately dismiss me.  

Ugh.

Anyway, it's great to see Cathy with her 'little one', lol.

Oh to be 19 again. Andrea's cute and her thinking "Everything is stupid" sounded so familiar.

I went through a very long phase in which I thought everything was stupid. I've only grown out of it in the last few years. Sort of. I still dislike a lot of things. 

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-Everyone is entitled to be stupid, but some abuse the privilege.

Who doesn't blog these days?

and insightful. Thank you for taking the time to do this. You are a great role model to have, smart, funny, beautiful and with the disposition to help people :)

PS: Comet is the most obedient dog I´ve seen! I wish my dog would behave like that.

I agree with xboxgirl the Muppets should be given to everyone at BIRTH!!

Again Cathy thanks for doing these amazing vlogs, I know they help alot of people!!

Grover was totally my favorite muppet ever! I love him in that book about the monster at the end of the book. Ahh, the good old days...

Tegan: Everytime I see it, I just want to punch her in the face because I'm so excited for her.

i like your vlog normally, but this ep was especially great!  the content hit some nerves that i can now face again, and your tone was smoothe; it kept me breathing and enjoying.  thanks :)

Remarking on Cathy’s t-shirt, 

 I just bought Cinder Road's "Superhuman" and I love it!  It's just simple rock n' roll,  sort of late 80's meet meets the new millennium.

Great vlog! Fear of failure especially rang true. I think it is one of the most powerful fears that can keep someone from following through on their dreams.  

Favorite muppet was definitly Grover. I used to have a Grover book when I was a kid called "There's a Monster at the End of this Book". Can you guess who the monster was? ;-)

Cathy, quick question. Was that YOU that I saw on the show Becker the other morning? I stopped mid sit-up just to get a closer look.

Where your last letter writer and Andrea (aka Little One) are coming from. I sabotage myself as well, before I succeed too much.

Awesome vlog as always and Andrea seems cool and is really beautiful. I'm 20, so she and I are about about the same age and I think if we lived in the same area, she and I would be friends.

I love seeing your adorable Comet on these walks too - she's soooo well behaved and just so cute. I hope you have Andrea back on another vlog some time.

Crazy Awesome motorcycle btw!!!

I love your vlogs.... doesn't matter who is your guest/s or even what the topics are (even if I'm not in the same situation as the letters), I ALWAYS get something (for my life) from the advice you give....so I have to say "Thank You Cathy" ....these vlogs are amazing....makes my Friday

~Caise

That's when the video was shut off.  This art major is just shaking her head.

Shele

Thanks for the great vlog! It was a real treat today as I am sick.

I can totally relate to the writer of the second letter. I never droped out of a class, but I am the master of procrastination. I postpone papers, decisions, everything until the last minute when there is just left enough time to get it somehow done. Then I can tell myself that I wasn't as great as I could be because there wasn't enough time to be better. And when I receive a good mark nevertheless or everything still works out somehow I tell myself that it was due to an irresistible mixture of luck and well, genius ;) and feel like a complete cheat at the same time.

My greatest hope and fear has aways been to get caught or run out of luck one day, but so far this hasn't happened - knock on wood that it will stay that way. And finally I have learned that you can't postpone everything. The final exams I took some time ago included 1 1/2 years of learning as preparation - you really can't postpone that;)

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It's a new dawn. It's a new day. It's a new life. And I'm feeling good.

I was happy to see that Sandi T,with THE LESBIAN MAFIA made it on the show.She is very intelligent,quite funny,and you should give her show a listen if you have not already done so!!

It is 'awful' to be with someone who's in the closet. Unfortunately for me majority of the girls I've dated have been in the closet. I, however, have been totally out since I was 20 (I figured out my homosexuality when I was 16 and had no problem with it. It was almost a situation where it dawned on me one day and I was like "oh ok it makes sense now". I NEVER questioned it as a phase but as though the puzzle pieces finally fit together. I'm 28 now....in a few months I'll be 29). It's way hard to go from being totally out to going back in the closet temporarily with somone when in certain circumstances. Being the "friend"...when one is so use to just laying it all out there and being myself. I always remember thinking "Wait! Ok as a 'friend' I'm suppose to act this way. OR "as a 'friend' I'm not supose to do this or that" Way too much to think about and not fair at all. I haven't been in a situation like that for a while but I do remember being in a dilema about "I don't like having to be just 'the friend' but I also don't want to force someone out (even if I think they should be it's not up to me)" It always sucks.

I also remember the girls that I've dated (who were in the closet) were so unsure of how to act around my family (whom I'm very close to and who know that I'm gay and who that person (at the time) was to me.) It's almost as if they just couldn't process it. It was somewhat understandable that they would be quiet towards my family but still just odd to me. Funny enough, 2 of the most important relationships to me had both come out AFTER my relationship with them ended and their families did well with it. (Me thinking "Darn it! You should have just come out before and it would have made my life easier!)

BTW- There are people who don't know the Muppets? Am I showing my age by being shocked by this?

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what it's like to be that young anymore. It is refreshing to get a different perspective on the world. I thought when I first watched that all of the issues addressed in this episode were all sooooo far behind me now that I'm a mature woman, HA, I was wrong, they still hit home. Thanks "Little One" and thanks Cathy.

That bike is HOT!!!!

hi ma'am :D

thanx for readin my letter! AWSUM MOTORCYCLE!!!! and...little one roxs.

im quite embarrassed by this but...i dont think i ever watched the muppets? or sesame street or stuff...uhohs.

I SHALL GO RENT ALL THE DVDS NOW!

I know that it is bad to covet, but that bike is sweet.  Thanks for giving us a gander at it. And Comet is adorable at play.  And thanks for taking the camera outdoors. More, please.

Hi Cathy!Comet is really cool:) The leash thing was funny. I understand the whole perfection thing. I have a hard time with it,especially in college right now. The grade thing is killing me. Stressing over grades...have to make perfect grades and all As like Andrea said. What you said is true. Grades don't really matter in life,and no one is perfect. It's your transcript that really matters,or that's what my professor said. Thank you for the advice about perfection and the coming out to loved ones .Your vlog really helps. Thank you Cathy:)

i dont know kno muppets either!!!

great vlog as always!

I believe that you can't go backwards in life.  Cathy's right, if your out, you have to stay out.  Really why would you want to go through that shit twice?    Loved the park scenes, very relaxing while talking about serious stuff.

I'm 20 and I remember the Muppets. My dad had a Jim Henson christmas album and the muppets were on it singing the Christmas tunes. I also used to watch Muppet Babies. My family always watches A Muppet Christmas Carol at Christmas time.

Best Muppets Video EVER. I love the nurses when they sing "Doctor"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w7P59YBoz_o

As for coming out. I never really had to. My mother told me I was gay one morning and I was like yup. Both my parents and my sister are really supportive. However, I moved away for college in August, and I have yet to tell someone that I am gay. It's not like I don't want them to know, I just don't want to tell them, not yet anyways. I might tell some friends after the summer when we start school again.

Very chill vibe this time around Cathy, I like the way you grounded yourself with the little one, your sense of responsibility shines through and that's why we love you. Yet another sexy trait in a woman I have come to utterly respect and let's face it, have a crush on. Comet walking with you off leash and following you to the water fountain was like, of course, why wouldn't she follow Cathy anywhere...

Luvinn you...................................

To try and compare Cathys vlog to Bridgets vlog is like comparing apples and oranges.  They both deal with totally different subject matters.  Cathy is a professional trying to help us with serious issues that affect our daily lives where Bridget is a comedian trying to entertain here viewers with humor.  Though I find Bridget entertaining I don't think it takes that much work or effort to bounce around on a bed having pillow fights.  I can only imagine the amount of letters Cathy receives and she has stated in the past that she reads them all and I for one believe her.  Cathy also seems to be a very sensitive individual and I can't imagine the heartache she must feel when she reads these letters.  I also find it refreshing when vloggers like Cathy show us more of their personal sides such as comet, her home and mentoring of the "little one".  It distresses me that fellow "lesbians" or "sisters" feel they have the right to critize any of the vlogers. I for one enjoy Cathys vlog the most out of all of them; she is trying to do more than entertain, she is trying to help us all.  Remember that.

Makes my Fridays.

And on the subject of Lauren's post...I agree with callmerinty. You really can't compare Bridget and Cathy or their vlogs. They are both wonderful women and role models, but they are very different people. Entertainment and education are not to be compared.

On the other hand, you have to let Lauren express her thoughts. I mean, people don't like it, but it's something that has to be done. Unfortunately, your expressing your mind upset some people.

Personally, I thought it was a weird thing to do, given these women are here for us and not their own personal finance or what-not. So Lauren, I understand about the letters, but enjoy the random conversation in between. It lets us know we're watching real women.

I'm so wanting to watch this episode!!!!!!!! But i can't I'm in the worst town I've ever been, in a good hotel (at least) but the only good PC i can find is in the lobby of the hotel and doesn't have audio output... and this vlog looks like awesome!

I'll have to wait until monday or tuesday to watch it :(

stay well!

the muppets

"you know the gay ones"

lol!

I totally want to call you Ma'am because you don't want us to......but quite honestly I think I am older than you so that means you might call me Ma'am as well. I want nothing to do with that.

Great vlog....... great to hear that some young women are finding supportive parents, even if they won't let them date.

Comet was making me dizzy going around that fountain!

Kim 

this is one of the funniest episodes i've seen. Love u cathy.

P.S: Andrea is hot!

Thanks for improving the sound on this vlog from last week. I have moderate hearing loss and could hardly hear anything last week.

As for Comet and the leash issue, that was great when you used your belt as a leash. Normally I would say leash your dog but since Comet is so well behaved, its a joy to see her running around free.

thanks cathy for this another great vlog! about andreas love issue., i can relate to that because i also have same situation with my friend before,when i was still in college (last year). i never got the chance or enough courage to tell how strongly i feel for her coz i was so afraid of so many reasons, that it might ruin our great friendship and etc.. but its ok now, i let my feelings die and hide it with her (not grateful with that, i really had a hard time recuperating), she so conservative and all.well so much for that.

thanks anyway for this great vlog! maam cathy! HA! ;D

loved it as usual. funny and great insight. other things i'm loving: comet, the bike, the muppets..and comet again.

& yes andrea's adorable, esp. with the negative/sarcastic kinda humor (spunk?).  cuteness.