ProjectRant: "What The F*$%^ Are You Doing In A Gay Club If You’re Not Gay?"

this is so funny...and yet so true!!! its the same thing here, we have a bar called reflections and its WELL known as a gay bar but yet theres almost always more straight people then gay people at the bar and im like WTF!?!?

oh yeah and the hitting on straight girls part was awesome. lol

Funny in a clever way, loved that!

I think the idea is brilliant and I thought I would find it funny because I agree, but it fell flat for me.

I swear... the next straight girl I hit on in there... I'm gonna elbow her in the face.

That is a brilliant line. Have to remember that one.

I share the frustration about getting hit on by straight guys at gay bars. It makes me want to yell in their faces just like in this video! I also share the frustration about grossed-out straight people in the bar and intentionally gay it up even MORE to them feel more uncomfortable.

But I worry about blanket statements like "What The F*$%^ Are You Doing In A Gay Club If You’re Not Gay?" I think it encourags false assumptions and prejudice that makes the bars seem unwelcoming!

For example: I'm a very femme lesbian and rarely trip anyone's gaydar. I was on a date with another very femme lesbian at a lesbian bar, and a girl came up to us, got in our faces and said, "Why do you straight-os come to our bar?"

I've always kind of treated the gay bars I go to with an attitude of "The more the merrier! As long as you understand what you're getting into ;)"

It's so true why would you be there if you're straight???? If you're straight guy going to gay bar you're just a flat out loser  who can't get with anystraight chicks from straight bars. I think I want to elbow straight girls now who go to gay bars what do you expect?

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I sympathise with the rant as a rant but I appreciate that there are gay spaces which are tolerant and friendly to my straight friends, as much as there are straight spaces that are tolerant and friendly to gay people. However, I don't think there's any excuse for bad behaviour and there is some onus on the majority to be a little more sensitive.

Thankfully I've never come across some of the behaviour mentioned; perhaps we need to make some allowance for the clueless, but a strange man grabbing a woman's arse at a gay bar? In most scenario's that'd be rude to do to any woman, even in a regular bar.

There's no excuse for poor behaviour or feeling offended if someone hits on you.

i agree with the being pissed off with straight girls being offended for getting hit on, and straight guys picking up girls... but the sentence "what are you doing in a gay bar if you're not gay" really ticked me cause i believe we should welcome everyone... as long as, like someone just said, they know what they're getting into ;)

on another note, the girl in the video is GORGEOUS!! to me at least :p

I'm in love with the rant...

Now I want my bum being grabbed :D

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There is waaaay too many comments i have read on various forums and youtube that i want them to renact.

Great project, the phenomenon of online rudeness should be decreaed a notch or two if people realized that their rants would be acted out eventually.

but the above ranter has a point, elbowing in the face it is!

Ha!  This reminds me of a time a few months ago when I was talking to two straight female friends who live in the city where my parents live (ie, not where I live, so I don't really know the scene there).  They were planning on going dancing that night. I  asked them where, they said, "Our favourite gay bar."  They then proceeded to tell me how they liked to go dancing at gay bars because they could just go and dance and not worry about getting hit on by random guys.  But then they started complaining that their favourite bar was the only one left in town that wasn't overrun by straight people, and that guys would hit on them all the time at most other places.  "It's like, 'I'm at a gay bar!  Why would a guy want to hit on me if I'm at a gay bar?!'"

It made me laugh.  I wanted to say, "Um, those straight guys aren't the only ones breaking the gay-bar paradigm in this picture."  But to be fair, these are two girls who wouldn't be offended or grossed out by being hit on by girls--they'd just decline politely.  Still sucks for the lesbians who get slighted, but it's no worse than, say, hitting on someone only to find out she's already got a girlfriend.

As a person who is more or less attatched to her best friend (who is straight) I can't really agree with this. She comes with me everywhere - and why shouldn't she? Should gay people not be allowed at a straight bar? Apart from that, I laughed :P

["I don't get how a person could go through their whole lives never being into girls. I just... I love girls." - Rhonda, Freeway (1996)]

Uhm, gotta say, she's super hot...

PS. Oh and I've never been to a gay bar cause I have 0 people to go with. Someday..

I love this way too much. Good ranting comedy is good for the soul.

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...gay clubs should be welcoming to all, that's what we want in general society.

Nevertheless, being that this is a rant, one could safely assume that this person has had enough and is now just venting.  Maybe not the most rational headline, but the substance of the message makes complete sense and I agree with it.  Plus, it's funny too :)

love these. transfat crackers is great. 

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let's just pretend i said something constructive and intelligent.

"If people had to say out loud what they wrote online, I don't think most people would write as many negative/racist/sexist/bitchy comments as they currently do across the web."

Well said.

Thank you, Afterellen.com, for introducing me to the funniest thing I've seen in a long time.

I often go to gay bars with my straight friends (because I don't have many gay friends who are old enough to go to bars with me), and the first thing I tell them before we go is "remember, this is a gay bar, so act accordingly."   I don't really think the writer of this thinks straight people should be banned from gay bars, but rather is tired of people coming in and acting like there aren't going to be a bunch of out gay/bi/whatever people dancing and drinking and hitting on each other without fear of someone judging them for it.  When it comes down to it, all she wants is for people to A) know who I like, and B) not be that judge.  That's all she's saying...

...in the most hilarious way possible!

"No problem is insoluble, given a big enough plastic bag."

....I agree with a lot of what people have already said, so I will try not to rant myself, I liked the rant and thought the points about guys hitting on girls and grabbing them ect in gay bars is really annoying, and completly pointless (maybe its the thought that lesbians are only for the titilation of straight guys?) and the fact that its horrible/hurtful/annoying whatever when you hit on a girl, and she looks at you like your something nasty that got onto her shoe.....

BUT although the title is catchy and kinda shows the basic premise of the rant, I think that straight people can go to a gay bar, as long as they expect to get hit on by somebody of the same sex and don't react as if someone just gave them a choice between being buied alive or bricked in a cavity alive......and don't be all grabby and macho-y (its a word now!) towards the oppisite sex.....it ain't gonna happen, unless you were lucky and are talking to a bisexual whose interested.....actually, even in straight bars it would be nice if people would keep grabbing womens butts, but thats rather immaterial lol

Okay, rants over..... :)

it's funny cause it's true, but then since they go to a GAY bar they shouldn't complaint about being hit on. It's not like we'll complaint if we go to a straight bar and get hit om right? and my gaydar doesn't exist so if i ask someone nicely and they decline i'll move on. but straight guys shouldn't go thinking they can turn a gay girl straight.

What an awesome website, it's a very original concept. Of course straight people should be allowed in gay venues, but only if they're with a gay friend/friends, otherwise I agree there's not much point them being there by themselves theres 1000:1 ratio of straight to gay bars in Melbourne (Disclosure: I'm not sure if that statistic is 100% accurate) why would you go otherwise? Plus of course I expect to get hit on when I go to a straight club so why shouldn't the opposite hold true?

that was hilarious!

goodness that girl has gorgeous eyes!!

that was really funny - and delivered very well ... i loved the part about straight chicks being "offended" at being hit on in a GAY bar.. seriously? thats toooo funny

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I agree that as long as straight people are aware of the type of bar or club they are going to and are fine with it then its ok. Guys or girls can be good wingmen or women  or can help you out with meeting people.  The trick? You find a girl that you're attracted to you get the guy or girl to go over to the girl and say that they got split up from you "the friend" and wondered if you had seen them by the bar or w/e then you "the friend" wander by and you're all omg I found you and tell the girl you're glad she found him and blah blah blah. Or you be the friend looking for your lost friend and stike conversation with sexy girl that way...

so yes straight ppl can be at a gay club as long as they having a good time not bothering anybody or being good company or even as useful tools as wing-people.

I've only been to one in my city and that was during pride last year.  That's pretty funny people do that, but our community shouldn't discriminate who comes into our bars (unless they are against us). It does suck though when you see someone you want to go on a date with but you know you may not have a chance.  

People can always change teams... 

should not be offended by gay behavior - we all agree... And the thoughts expressed in the rant have all crossed my mind (even if they are not pc, but I cannot censure my thoughts, only my mouth)

I used to go to this gay club in Amsterdam in the early '90s (don't know if its still around), that was only open on Sunday evenings. At the entrence there was a huge sign saying straight people were welcome but overtly straight behavior would not be toletrated - and I've seen them break up a straight couple who were "exhibitionisticly" making out (don't remember if they actually kicked them out).

Whichever way: I must  say it was a nice feeling to see the tables turned for a change.

I can totally relate to this...speaking from first hand, on my ass, experience.  It happened twice in one night from two different men..one of which even went UNDER my girlfriends hand to grab my ass...both men got a healthy shove and the latter was tossed by security.

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kindof hott :)

lol and i agreee 

That has to be my new favorite website.

I was at a "straight bar" and was complaining about the men hitting on me. I then realized that I was being a dumb-ass and realized I WAS AT A STRAIGHT BAR and quickly changed my 'tude and had a better time.

I hope this means something to someone lol.

Funny rant! I hope they do some rants on comments that are just...dumb so people can see how stupid some comments are.

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