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Ellen DeGeneres interviews Portia de Rossi, who "also happens to be my wife"

On The Ellen DeGeneres Show today, millions watched Ellen DeGeneres's much-touted interview with Portia de Rossi, star of the new ABC comedy Better Off Ted and the woman who "also happens to be my wife," as Ellen introduced her.

Ellen made Portia take off her shoes to show they were the same height ("That's the main reason I had you on the show, actually"), then announced it was their seven-month wedding anniversary and quizzed Portia on what it was like being married to her. Portia told stories about how no one knows who she is when they travel, because Ellen is so famous.

Then they talked about Better Off Ted, with Ellen making a funny point about Portia being drawn to play icy, insensitive characters, and Portia explaining she enjoys those roles because in real life she cares too much about what people think.

The whole interview was charming, a little awkward, and very subversive because of the ways in which it normalized a lesbian relationship.

Watch the interview here:

After the interview, they challenged a straight couple from the audience in a round of the classic Newlywed Game, which compares Ellen and Portia's answers on questions like "If Ellen was reincarnated as a dog, what kind of dog would it be?" and "How old was Portia when she had her first kiss?"

See how well they fared here:

Having the heterosexuals-only dating site eHarmony.com sponsor the Newlywed Game was a little odd, given how publicly homophobic their founder is. I can't seem to find any evidence of them having sponsored segments on the show before (regular Ellen watchers, let me know if I missed one), so maybe this is their way of trying to make amends with the LGBT community? Or they just don't care that the game included a same-sex couple, because at the end of the day, business is business and Ellen's audience is exactly the kind of demographic eHarmony wants to get in front of.

UPDATE: For what it's worth, a queer employee of eHarmony just contacted me to explain that the site is integrating gay and lesbian dating into its new site, compatiblepartners.net, launching on March 31st, and that it's only technical/logistical issues that are preventing them from including this option in the eHarmony site moving forward. According to the source, the company has received a lot of angry calls and emails from conservatives because of their plans to include LGBT dating in the new site, but the company is defending their decision, and that has made the company's many gay and lesbian employees both relieved and hopeful about the direction of the company.

The politics of advertising aside, I personally found the game segment to be more entertaining than the interview, and even more subversive because it put Ellen and Portia on equal footing with a heterosexual couple — literally and figuratively.

Singing "I've Got You, Babe" together in the faux-bathroom at the end of the episode was cute, too.

The whole episode was another one of those quietly revolutionary moments. You just have to read all the gushing tweets about the interview from people across America to see how many people, gay and straight, were charmed by their appearance on the show together today. For many straight people, Ellen and Portia are the only same-sex couple they know, and that's why this episode, and Friday's "rehearsal" episode, will arguably do more for improving the visibility of same-sex marriage than all the Prop. 8 PSAs put together.

Not that PSAs, marches, and gay rights campaigns aren't important, but people absorb messages differently (and arguably more easily) when they're packaged as entertainment vs. education — and that's why lesbian/bi visibility in entertainment matters.

Watch Ellen and Portia's "rehearsal" for this interview

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  • RavenDenise's picture

    Bravo!

    I watched this on my television earlier, and I must say when Portia came on stage you can see Ellen's eyes glow. It was quite adorable. Also, I believe the newly wed game was Ellen trying to show the audience how gay couples are just as normal as straight. Either way this episode was quite revolutionary. Not only do we see a gay couple acting like a...couple, but straight audiences get to finally see a happy couple that just so happens to be gay. I love Ellen, and I don't believe she sacrifices her sexuality for fame. Quite the contrary. I believe she gives her audience enough to show them how normal homosexuality can be. 

    boundtostone's picture

    !!!!

    They were so adorable together. Goodness. Their eyes do light up when they talk to each other, look at each other, speak about each other! 

    This was subversive. And absolutely fantastic. And I loved the awkwardness.It was real.

    MeL's picture

    Cutest. Lesbian. Couple. Ever.

    I was one of the ones who wrote tweets about them, but they simply disappeared - as much as I've gotten to love Twitter, today I really don't.

    I loved the interview, I loved the game, I loved them singing in the bathroom, what a cute couple and what a great and - I completely agree with you - subversive episode. How can anyone who has seen this ever think again that gay couples don't have a right to be married?

    But as much as I loved what was on the actual show, my favourite clip of the day actually was the web-exclusive video of Ellen and Portia playing Aw Snap!

    I couldn't stop laughing, those two were so hilarious.

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    nikki's picture

    geez

    i saw this artical when i was still watching the show, you guys move fast. the episode was hilarious, i loved it, it got me to start watching again.
    Laura's picture

    So CUTE!

    They are the cutest couple!

    I loved their interview; their eyes light up when they look at each other and talk to each other, and they have great chemistry (which we also saw in the Newlywed Game).

    This was also a huge step towards normalizing homosexuality to the American public. The fact that they were so cute and charming and so unpolitical is going to make a lot of straight people think more positively about same-sex marriage... which we would really use.

    akiraj's picture

    Subversive

    is the word of the day isn't it?

    Ed Would's picture

    Yes

    Indeed, and I'm not entirely sure how appropriate it is.  Subversive is, personally, quite pejorative.  Something that a hack like Bill O'Reilly would use to denounce this (admittedly adorable) thing.

    bubblegumbabe's picture

    Portia de Rossi is so hott!

    Portia de Rossi is so hott! Also, Ellen and Portia are so cute together on this show. I loved this interview so much. This will definitely help with visibility in terms of prop 8 and other proposals that take away LGBT rights.

    A Muse's picture

    best visibility we can ask

    best visibility we can ask for. they are such a cute couple <3

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    margaretrosey's picture

    eharmony.com

    I would like to think that listing eharmony.com as a sponsor was part of Ellen's excellent sense of humor.
    Angie5x5's picture

    2 uncut Ellen/Portia scenes from the show


    Ellen & Portia's complete Sonny & Cher duet:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wOMCHk86lDM

    Ellen & Portia's complete Aw Snap game:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6TikhDeMyU

    How could anybody want to divorce them after watching these?

    Pyewacket's picture

    Thank you!

    Thanks for the links...I certainly was hoping the full bathroom duet would be online.

    Wow, they are so adorable together.

    And I just want to add...who in the frack doesn't know Portia?

    Dayum, after I saw Sirens for the first time, I knew who she was!

    7Up's picture

    Loved it!!!

    I thought it was brilliant!!!!  Even my gf who is never easily impressed was shocked by the show (in a positive way)!!!!  

    It's so amazing to think how many of us have helped our straight friends and family go through this process of seeing a real lesbian in a real relationship behave like oh the way we would in real life, but so many people have no reason to encounter it, so Ellen and Portia just gave them all a big welcome to my family sort of here it is....  I'm really so amazed and thankful to Ellen for making history once again, and to Portia too for being courageous enough to join in the history making (especially considering she "always cares so much about what other's think/feel").... she seems a bit more shy and sensitive than i thought (really endearing actually)

      

    mitch's picture

    Woah

    It's amazing to see all those tweets about them.

    Those two are so adorable. The show was pretty normal and in this sense, normal is good. I'm happy that more people can see that gay couples are as loving and 'normal' as other couples.

     

    Harpy's picture

    Great episode!

    I've been looking forward to this episode since Ellen first revealed Portia would be on the show nearly a month ago.  It was very cute and it did not disappoint!  I really loved the Newlywed Game -- But totally missed the eHaromony sponsorship.  Not sure how I feel about that.  Loved it when they 'won' the pots and pans. 

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    Anonymous's picture

    Absolutely Beautiful and Empowering

    www.myspace.com/lunakiss7.com

    Thanks for showing those clips. I'm so glad Ellen is so open in making people feel comfortable. I'm so happy that she's happy and a wonderful and stunning womyn like Portia walked into her life. I can certainley feel their love for each other. I'm glad that the world saw how in love they are. Those moments were empowering and that in itself is activism.

    Thanks, Sarah.

    Loucritia13's picture

    They are so adorable together!

    I'm so happy about them!  

    So real, human and ...amazing!

    They really made me feel so optimistic about my own future and my own relationship!  

     

     

     

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    t_whitney_bee's picture

    cute!

    I loved how Ellen took Portia's shoe off for her. And how they just seem so in love, sitting there staring at each other. I am so happy for them, and so proud of Ellen and thankful for everything she does for all of us.
    StringBean's picture

    good stuff

    I watched it with my mom :) When I told her Ellen's wife was going to be on there today she got all excited. After the show, she talked to me about how she never watches Oprah anymore and "just love"s Ellen because "she's so silly and cute". I love my mom. She's so adorable.

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    Sash's picture

    Thanks for the extended clips

    I loved them too.
    Anonymous's picture

    And she does the splits too!

    Portia that is. I'm still trying to recover from that clip in the magician's assistants outfit with the dance routine. Oh, my.
    Bridget's picture

    I thought that

    I thought that the "rehearsal" was more entertaining that the actual interview, which was a little awkward, but still very cute and I loved when Ellen took off Portia's shoe for her.  I think that it's true and Ellen and Portia are one of, if not the only, lesbian couple that straight people know, and admire. 

    All in all, I really appreciate Ellen for the visibility that she gives our community, from casually addressing Portia as her wife, to speaking out openly against prop 8.  On top of that, she's absolutely hysterical and I love her show.  So thank you Ellen :)

    Megan's picture

    puppies, rainbows, daises and

    Ellen and Portia :) How cute!

    Obviously, the public and the fam adore Ellen, but it was so nice to see how great Portia is and how well they play off each other. 

    Definitely a step in the right direction! 
    newborn's picture

    It was a great show!

    It was a great show!
    Rachel452's picture

    I've been waiting for this

    I've been waiting for this show for what seems like forever. I loved every second although I got mad when Portia said no one ever gets excited to see her. I was like WHAT?! I'd kill to meet Portia!

     Anyways, I love the two of them and thought today's show was the best! Maybe since it pulled so many viewers Ellen will bring the wifey on once a year!

    chick1122's picture

    Great review

    This is a great review of today's show, which by the way was very cute. I think Portia just has a personality that is not as out there and pop out at you as Ellen's, which is probably a nice contrast for Ellen at the end of the day. I thought they were precious as a couple, I just wished they had kissed or something on the show. Why not? I mean, Ellen did call her her wife like 20 billion times (which is amazing in view of the history of lesbians and lesbian couples in front of millions of tv watchers), so why not a little kiss after the newlyweds game? They were still very cute though.
    Fresh2Def's picture

    They're cute together and

    They're cute together and everything, but Portia is a boring interview. I couldn't finish it.
    natz's picture

    awww love it :)

    they never fail to make me smile.. like this ---> :D
    fizz's picture

    This was such a cute

    This was such a cute episode. I love seeing them together! :)
    Michie87's picture

    Soooo cute! Fireworks went

    Soooo cute! Fireworks went off when portia came on the show! Lol. 

    My mother wanted to see this and couldnt stand seeing them together, she got disgusted and left O_o..mothers Lol. And here I was thinking she loved the show XD.

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    zephyr's picture

    Wonderful

    I thought they were great together.  There didn't seem to be anything awkward at all.  Too bad I don't get home in time to see Ellen, but thanks a million for the videos.  They were too cute, and magician's assistants are really hot.
    Twentysomething's picture

    :)

    Aww! That was so cute!

     

     

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    Davonie's picture

    loved it

    i watched and and i thought it was awesome there a very cute couple. Plus portia is easy on the eyes the newley wed game was fun and i loved there answers to what the best present they gave each other was.
    polkadotwings's picture

    so cute!

    Just have to add to the love for this episode :) Ellen and Portia were so adorable and I wish we got to see more of them together like that. And I really can't wait for Better Off Ted now. It looks pretty good.
    Caitlin's picture

    Super cute!

    "The whole episode was another one of those quietly revolutionary moments."

    My thoughts exactly. This is a huuuge step forward - for this to seem so normal when only ten years ago Ellen was still in the closet... it just gives me so much hope for where we'll be in ten years time. :D

    Interview was adorable, btw. I have to admit that I actually cried when they started singing together - it was so sweet.

    Yeah, I'm a softie.

    Forza Roma's picture

    Beautiful

    It was such a wonderful show. They are a lovely couple and just seeing them be themselves on national television without any gay jokes or excuses for it, just showing them as a COUPLE and nothing more was brilliant.
    ynz's picture

    yes!

    best episode, hands down..

    =)

    MeltingCharcoals's picture

    aww...

    they're so sweet and cute together. i feel like crying when they sang together...i'm still a bit woozy from the dance routine though. god it's amazing how Portia can turn into one hot scary woman! why doesn't anybody recognize Portia?? if i get to meet Ellen i'd look for Portia :D

    thank you Ellen! i hope when this episode airs in our country my family will get to watch. Now imma go look for that song...

    Daisy's picture

    It's so sad that Portia got

    It's so sad that Portia got rid of her Australian accent! She sounds great when she speaks with it!

    I understand changing your accent for a movie or show, but I don't understand why she speaks with an American accent in real life as well. v_v

     

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    Astrogirl's picture

    Aw come on nah!

    Its pretty thick still considering she has to speak with an American accent everyday at work and is surrounded by it all the time. She rolls her r's a bit more than an Aussie generally does but she is still very obviously a Victorian. As a Queenslander, I can pick a Vic a mile away and she still rings pretty spot on to me.

    It's so obvious how happy they make each other. I think their ease with one another and their natural affection as a couple is wonderful. I hope they make more public appearances together like this.

    The only thing that seemed odd about the whole show was how relaxed and connected Ellen and Portia seemed with one another in stark contrast to the hetero couple who looked hyped up on caffeine or something and totally ill at ease around one another like it was a first date. Had they not met before the show?

    It was so nice for the lesbians not to come off as the odd ones on a tv show. On the whole, Rachel Maddow, Ellen and Portia are giving me hope that healthy, happy, well-adjusted lesbians and television are not necessarily mutually exclusive.

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    Keeva99's picture

    So cute!!

    They are so awesome together...i just wanna give them a big squishy hug!...lol

     

     

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    Anonymous's picture

    is it just me or does

    is it just me or does anyone else find it stange they never kiss not even on the cheek

     

    Angie5x5's picture

    Ellen & Portia kiss


    Do you mean in this instance or ever?  Becuase they kiss at awards shows. I would guess they intentionally chose not to kiss on Ellen's show..

    From what I'm hearing around me (cnservative community), a lot of straight Ellen fans  think she went too far (meaning it made them uncomfortable) with the loving looks and Ellen taking Portia's shoe off and them singing "I Got You Babe" and the "audacity" of them playing The Newlywed Game. They love her as long as they don't have to think about the fact that she's gay.

    Bent's picture

    Reaching out

    I loved the show. They are an adorable couple and it made me proud to hear Ellen use the word "wife" so naturally. I don't know if these two lovebirds will be able to reach the heart of homophobes, but I suspect they may reach a few. My mom thinks they are really funny and cute together, and she is a straight 66 yr old woman, so maybe there is hope out there. More importantly, there will be young gay and lesbians out there that saw the show and can see that life can get easier and better as you get older, just hang in there. Thanks Ellen and Portia!
    pancreas's picture

    That was lovely!

    What a great show.
    Jess's picture

    Eep!

    They are sooo cuteeee! :)

    They make me happy!

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    Very True

    I couldn't agree more with your statements, Sarah. I live in a fairly conservative family that I haven't come out to yet. I may be bisexual, but I lean far more to the lesbian side of the spectrum, and I'm not sure how my family will take that news. I DVR'ed the interview between Portia and Ellen and then showed it to my mom and sister. They both expressed how happy they were that Portia and Ellen had found each other and didn't have any negative comments about the segment. It made me so happy, and very hopeful that when I do eventually come out, they'll be accepting. Not only did this show help to normalize homosexual relationships to society at large, but it also helped me take one step closer to coming out. It may have just been one episode on Ellen's talk show, but its ramifications were huge. 'Subversive' is right.

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    eohl's picture

    Ace!

    Portia, you are absolutely ACE in my book. Portia and Ellen together? Game, set and match :)

     

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    nette's picture

    side note

    love the pic even though the circumstances surrounding sam is so sad this pic is just the most adorable thing next to portia and ellens love for each other.
    xevus's picture

    thank you for posting

    Thanks for posting this I was looking forward to see it, especially after the funny preparations :)) It was the first thing I checkd this morning and here it is, thanks!!!

    They are just too cute!