Cherry Bomb: "Dating in the Internet Age"

No freakin' way. I couldn't and wouldn't do it! Myspace. I don't even take it seriously like for real. More power to those who do. I only use it to keep up with old friends and classmates. I'm only on there once-four times a month. Sometimes every two months. I feel bad if someone left a comment like eons ago and I didn't look until later-way later.

As far as age.More power to those who like younger or older. However, dating someone from several generations before or after you. You got to really dig deep and ask yourself is this love for real? Few years between is ok.

Oh yeah, I'm so crushing on all you ladies right now!

has got to be one of my new fav vlogs on AE. absolutely love it.

the stuff you ladies talk about, the way you talk about it and such diverse and sometimes totally opposing views (and yet no bitch fighting - nice to know it can actually exist! ;)). totally love it!!!!

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nice episode ladies.

I'll be sure to tune in next week.

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Dude, who uses myspace anymore? ;) It's all about the Facebook and Twitter, ladies!

Still, great episode, you ladies are a lot of fun to listen to and I wouldn't mind if the episodes ran a bit longer :)

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Tristen

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For some reason the vlog won't load for me...I'll have to catch it later...but from the title & Miss Ketina's post I've gathered what its about...and I have a secret...

I met my current girlfriend on myspace :o One day I was looking around myspace when I came across my gf's page. She seemed like a person I would want to know...so we started talking...the rest as they say is history...

We officially made a year at the end of May...And going strong :) So don't knock internet dating lol...

this vlog is like the l-word equivalent to real life!

great discussions this and last week and some very lovely ladies, wooo! especially gloria, she's so funny!

gah, myspace sounds like it has so much more potential for confusion and misunderstanding. i'm glad i only have the fb to contend with... people doing study abroad semesters/years and then going home to locations faaaaar apart makes monogamy difficult imo!

i haven't a scooby doo about audio-visual synchronizing, but it seemed like gloria's and nikki's sound was behind while dalila's and tatum's wasn't... is that possible?!

I'm 22 and have been in relationships with people in their mid-40s and mid-50s. It wasn't different than any other relationship except the conversations were often much more interesting.

I mean think about it; if this woman was married in her 20s and is only recently out, the past 20 or so years may not have been that eventful. On the other hand, some 20 somethings have "lived" more than people twice their age.

Be honest with yourself, are you really that diffrent than every 20 something out there?

Let me clear my throat....

*clearing throat*.....

Every time when I have a sundae, I would rip that cherry right off the top, and then give it to a friend or an innocent bystander and state, “I swear I didn’t do anything to it…….. I swear”. And there were times when I would sit and wonder how people could possibly go crazy over these things, and in the end, i would just refuse to have any association with them. But Cherry Bomb……oh Cherry Bomb, brought me to the light. LOVE IT…it's it's....it's just BRILL, and I found it to be just beyond funny when you guys give us your my space page at the end, tooooo funny

The tyrannt has no idea of what she/he really wants!

I'm totally checking out this vlog again. It's interesting how it's perceived that the girl and the woman are just in it for experimenting? Coz the girl said she was in love with a 48 year old woman. I believe her, but the chances of it being mutual is eh slim. I'm attracted to people older than I am too, but I don't think that I'll go that far as 26 years my senior. There's too much differences then.

And I prefer one-one-one and calling to text messaging and myspace, I go to myspace to keep touch with old friends and new ones, but I wouldn't go as far as dating. IM dating, maybe, cos it has worked for some people but I think myspace is way too public. But that's just me.

Gloria, I love you girl. You rock.

~The world begins and ends with the person next to the godless stars below the hay of stones which waz totally hot~

Oh, I love text messages. And MSN. When I was in a relationship, those two were definitely the communication backbone, aside from face-to-face, obviously, and if I got someone's number now, I would text them, for sure, but that's also because, well, I have, like, a phobia of calling people. I'm anxious; I don't like bothering people! I hate being called most of the time too, so I kind of feel that, like, if I call someone, I'll be interrupting their life. Oh, and I hate when I call someone at home, and a member of their family picks up. Frankly, there isn't really anything that I like about phones. And I never feel comfortable calling anyone unless I have their express permission, "Call me right now!" I'm always the one getting called...or, I used to be. I haven't used my phone in ages, so no calls.

As a matter of fact, I haven't charged my phone or put any credit on it in at least four months. And I'm seventeen. I literally don't exist!

And, as far as the older woman thing, I'd like to offer my perspective on that. I'm legal in my country, and, frankly, I'd love to pursue relationships with older women, and I don't see anything at all weird or wrong about it. I find it hard to identify with girls my age, which is no problem with friends, but, when I date girls, it feels like a parent-child dynamic most of the time. And that's sort of fun, letting them drag me out of my shell and skip around and do random things, and I like them as people, so I'm happy to feel like a stabilising influence on them, but it's never emotionally fulfilling for me, because the relationship ends up being all about them, and what feels like dependence on me. I come out of the relationship as essentially the same person I was when I entered. And that's a little scary. I'm still a teenager; I'm supposed to be growing and developing, to be challenged and to engage in new experiences, and yet I'm not when I'm with girls my own age. So, subconsciously, I seek people who I feel can show me something new, and help me grow, and I feel that older women are going to offer that.

And, of course, there's other things I'm attracted to in older women. I mean, everything about them is super hot! I don't know, maybe because I'm so young, I feel like an older woman would be more dominant in the relationship, and nowhere near as needy, and I would absolutely love that. I have a submissive personality; I like being led. So, you know, there's a lot of things about relationships with older women that can be very positive. Not every young person dating someone older has been manipulated into it; we can consciously choose to pursue older women. We're consenting adults (repeat: In my country, I am, so please don't respond telling me how much of a stupid child I am; take it up with the Australian legal system instead) and, you know, if that's what we're into, then I don't see why it should be denied. And no, it's not creepy. ;)

I love this new addition to the AE vlog family. Funny and attractive ladies. Interesting topics. Great production. A breath of fresh air. Looking forward to the next webisode.

One question: Why doesn't Jesse's girlfriend have a name?

I find it interesting that a lot of people have issues with older/younger relationships.  If two people connect (for whatever the reason) then what's the problem?  When I was 23, I started dating a woman 18 years my senior.  A few weeks later (after my 24th b-day) we moved in together.  Our relationship lasted 4 years and we are still friends two years after our break up. 

I don't know if this makes it weirder but I've known her since I was in high school so it's not like she was a stranger.  Anyway, there were issues with the age difference mainly because of how others saw us.  I think we complimented each other very well.  I helped her step out of her comfort zone and she provided the peace/calm I so needed in my life.  All I'm saying is that sometimes it works.  I still find older women attractive.  I think it's because I've always been more mature then my peers. 

BTW I think people get way too invested in myspace/facebook and the like.  It's really not that serious.  Text messaging will be the downfall of our society.  Kids don't even know how to have conversations with real words anymore.  Learn to spell then write me a letter.  Don't ever text me.  I hate calling people.  I hate talking on the phone.  I would much rather speak in person.  And because I'm brutally honest, if you called and I didn't answer I would tell you I just didn't want to talk to you.  Get over it.

I absolutely LOVE the dynamic between the four of you!  The discussion today was great.  I've already started looking foward to watching your vlog every Friday evening.  I've never really been into mySpace...I tend to be a FaceBook girl, mostly because it's an easy way to keep up with my friends from college.

Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to let you know that I generally enjoy your vlog and respect you all, however I was very offended by your conversation regarding difference in age in relationships (with the exception of Dalila) this week.

Not only did you openly laugh at and mock a woman's relationship and dismiss its validity, you also flaunted your ageism by refering to her and her partner as "child" and "old lady". I take serious issue with the implication that a relationship between two adults of different generations could not take place without there being an issue around the need for a parent figure/mentor or the fulfillment of a fetish.

I understand that this vlog is about expressing different opinions, however when your opinion involves judging someone for being part of a relationship that you don't understand, I call foul. Don't we, as a community, deal with that exact issue enough on a daily basis? That's ignorant and not at all what AfterEllen is about in my books.

Respectfully,

RA

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Ladies of Cherry Bomb, you rock. This is my new favourite vlog, a bit of seriousness spiced with just the right amount of humour. Love it, you are are all clever, hot AND funny - what more does an audience need?

I met my love online, though not on Myspace, and I recommend it highly - we exchanged a few emails, then pretty quickly met and have been together for 4 years now.

And the age difference - my largest age difference was 11 years, which was troublesome already because we were at completely different places in life. But then again I was 17 when we got together, and he was 28, that is a huuuuge gap of experience. Now I am 27 and would most certainly not date a 17-year-old. Now I would probably date women that are up to their mid-30s, and guys up to their mid-40s, because a lot of my friends are of that age and I don't see that much of a difference. Age difference is such a personal thing, sometimes i works, sometimes it doesn't, there is no universal rule.

Brilliant vlog, I absolutely loved it again.

I don't know about anyone else but I could never meet someone online, I pretty much freak out whenever someone I don't know adds me as a friend. Then when I check out their page (to make sure they're not crazy) and add them I never talk to them anyway.
And I'm with Gooby, it's all about Facebook. Personally, I think MySpace is the devil.

This is clearly one of the best vlog so far on AE. It's so good, i wish it went national but on TV :)

I've always find it funny how seriously some people take myspace. Until recently i didn't care at all about that, never took it as a way to meet people and even less to find a girlfriend. I had some bad experience on the web, so now i'm a bit paranoid with people. As for facebook, i hate it, it only brought back people who added me in a pursuit of "i wanna have more than a 100 friends" to look popular but that i never considered as friends anyway. And i hate all those applications... waste of time!

So somehow, i've always loved myspace because it's not... personal. And i don't need that kind of website to keep in touch with my friends! On a side note i agree with some of you said on the vlog, if people comment on a myspace, it's that they WANT you to know what's happening. I myself send a lot of private messages ;)

As for the age difference thing, i've experienced it and the only thing i have to say about that is "don't judge, it can happen to anyone". You can be with someone your age who's more imature than someone who's 10 years younger imo, and the reverse works with someone older than you as well.

So thank you ladies for this fantastic vlog, i can't wait to see more!

It's a little odd that people are so desperate they'd pay to send e-mails and enter chat rooms rather than save their money on dates.  The in-person approach might be more difficult for gays due to the numbers, but lesbians seem a little more open minded about things than most straight folk.  I can't fathom why more people don't take advantage of fixing themselves up through MySpace, Facebook, and the like rather than forking over their hard-earned money to let some third party play God for them.  Socializing falls on you.  Like a bird, take AIR (Advantage, Initiative, Responsiblity).

Strangers are just friends, enemies, lovers, and exes you haven't met yet.  We all had to get to know someone somehow.  Text messaging KILLED what could've been with this sexy cornfed woman.  I should've been calling her a little more, because words on a screen aren't exactly what you'd say face-to-face or on the phone.  Texting works when you're established with someone (as friends, relatives, lovers, business associates), BUT when you're in that 'getting to know you' phase, things can go haywire, such as being too forward too soon.  Had my crush communicated with me better instead of pulling a 180 and pulling the trigger, she and I would be great friends right now. 

Put yourselves out there (online and offline), but always proceed with caution. Don't get emotionally attached right away, because it might be inauthentic and inappropriate.

Yes, we can all just get along.

what i find entertaining (and a bit sad haha) about text messaging is the fact that we can process and overanalyze every detail of the message (given that it can be saved and you can refer back to it as often as you want) Sometimes even our own interpretations vary from the first time you read the msg and the next. like when i was dating someone, i find that the person is more into me the first time i read her msg. The next time i read it? hmm suddenly i have formed some doubts.

i also find it funny that the simple absence of a smiley face, wrong use of punctuation mark or just being too lazy to change the all caps mode can have that much effect. (while the same can be said for emails, i don't quite get though why im more careful with my email messages than text.)

and yeah i remember a time when the V key on my phone got stuck.. i could get TU but for some reason the letter v would just not register. so i had to resort to texting "i lobe you" to my girlfriend. hmm not too romantic.

i dated two chicks off the internet. One contacted me through myspace which would ordinarily be creepy except that we'd seen each other around the city a lot and were both shy. I was kinda thrilled when she contacted me since me and the girl who was then cheating on me had both thought she was cute.

She turned out to be criminally insane.

The other chick..she was just shallow and boring. And had no self esteem.

My current girlfriend..i won her over through a 7-part text message; half of which got lost somewheres in space..but she got the point.

I got a dick like a mule...with a big dick.

I'm so not gonna lie, i have use Myspace and Facebook to meet chicks. When I was living in LA I meet alot of girls off of Myspace. Like when I was going through my "dry patch" i would hit up the good old Myspace to find a "date", and lets be honest the only reason most ppl have a Myspace is to hook up with ppl anyway (some really do use it for the networking).!!!

because i attend the same bars and clubs regularly and all my friends that i see at the clubs are my myspace friends. All of my friends are straight and hate going to the club with me so its refreshing to see a familiar face.I never dated any of those girls. It seems like every one who goes to the catch, arena, tomboi swag, are all friends on myspace first. Ill be at a club and people walk up 2 me and ask me if im blondie and im like yeah. its so funny. 

i also had myspace drama and had 2 delete my ex over me stalking her

 my ex  of 3 years cheated on me witha myspace girl so i kicked her out, and every since then i check her page we both had since made are pages private but i still check what she puts on her mood and i know she still checks mines because her mood would talk about something i put in mine. Were crazy iknow

This new vlog is really cool. I love the concept, the way you guys shoot it (using different angels) and the perspectives of older women. It's a shame that the introduction was only on the first episode. That was freakin hilarious.

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I heart this Vlog. It's great to hear what you all think about stuff.

All that talk about My Space stalking made me laugh.  

I think the internet is a great place to meet new people. Some people take it a little too serious though.

I refuse to text message about important stuff. I've had one too many misunderstandings.

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This vlog is genius in its selection of topics and friendly atmosphere, so I welcome this new addition like the rest. I did feel, however, a little offended by their handling of the 22 year old woman's question regarding the age difference in relationships. I won't repeat what other posters have already said very eloquently above, but I applaud RuggedAscent for standing up for what she felt (what a great attitude and eloquence!) , Checkas for making some of us aware of our complacency and narrow-mindedness (we are no different from homophobes and religious bigots if we are not careful...oops) and Pirategrrrl for pointing out what was not appropriate. You ladies made my day!

Personally, I'm new to the scene, so I feel intimidated by the experience women of my age have, and they tend not to be available. As a result, I get into talking with women much younger than me on this site and that does make me feel like a dirty old bird. And, the vloggers confirmed that I am! :D:D 

Regardless, I hope the vlog will continue, but with a little bit more of awareness and compassion, maybe.