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The Lo-Down: "Dating - Part 3"

In the third of our seven-part series on dating, Sarah Pecora and I give you lots of little tips and tricks on how to have a great first date. We tried to be as specific as possible without naming harming any actual lesbians.

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Watch previous episodes of The Lo-Down, visit Malinda Lo at www.malindalo.com, and follow them on Twitter at twitter.com/malindalo and twitter.com/specsperspec.

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  • Harry's picture

    No garlic on that loaf please waiter

    I do not understand this concept of not drinking!! especially not drinking snakebite.... hmmmm 

    No red sauces at dinner tip was good, splashy sauces outty. 

    You're so wristy cuffy :) 

    dairyqueen's picture

    funny and helpful as usual!

    Thanks for your tips! Especially Sarah seems really experienced :-)

    uhhh, I just rarely seem to get over the second step, that is to actually dare ask for a number or date. Flirting is no problem but once I get the feeling I might really like and be interested in a girl I  get awfully shy. Well, I'll keep watching, maybe that helps.

     

    danes38's picture

    welp

    don't feel so bad. i can't even ask for a date yet. hoping it will change soon.
    Bethany's picture

    Love it!

    You two are awesome, I'm so glad that AE finally has some Vlogs directed only toward dating. Your tips are dead on, I have a date next week and after watching this I can go in with more confidence. I can't wait till next episode!

     xoxo Bethany.

    Lunakiss's picture

    Great Dating Tips

     

    Awesome tips. 

    Foxilee's picture

    All these exchanged knowing

    All these exchanged knowing looks... I'm curious to know each of their own experiences in the dating world. Preferably the funny ones.
    jess's picture

    question is

    what do you do after your first or second date and your date ends with the "when can I see you again" and you don't necessarily want to go on another date. How do you break it off graciously? 
    Bonafide11's picture

    Just tell them that you had

    Just tell them that you had a good time, and that you would like to go out with them again, but as friends, not on a date.
    Lunakiss's picture

    I Disagree Be Blunt

    To Jess,

    Be blunt  with the person and tell them you don't want to go on another date with them. I hate it when  people are so courtsey and polite that don't say what they mean.

     Jess,your date might still think they have a chance w/ you. Make sure you clear up any misunderstandings your date may have w/ you.

    Plus if a womyn says that to me and I liked her a lot, I wouldn't be her friend.

     

    perennial aspiration's picture

    I agree

    I'm 27 years young.  I say that because at my age and at this point in my life...I like to know where I stand.  Guy or girl, you want to know if you have a chance.  If you don't, okay...I can move on!  Not to sound horrible but, why go out of your way to spend more on a product you can't get??? It's possible they'll feel a twinge of defeat, but in the long run, they'll appreciate it.  Remember, you can be blunt...it doesn't have to be curt thought.

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    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."
    Martin Luther King Jr.

    *Kiki*'s picture

    Keep the tips coming

    Again, such helpful tips, hope to soon follow them. Can't wait for the online dating episode

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