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The Lo-Down: "Dating - Part 2"

After last week's introduction to dating, Sarah Pecora and I are ready to tackle a subject that can make anybody nervous: How to get that first date.

Again, we relied on our crack team of dating researchers hard-won real-life experience to formulate our advice. As always, please share your own advice in the comments! I'm sure we're not the last word on this subject.

We hope you enjoy it!

Watch previous episodes of The Lo-Down, visit Malinda Lo at www.malindalo.com, and follow them on Twitter at twitter.com/malindalo and twitter.com/specsperspec.

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  • justme's picture

    Great episode

    Congratulations on your official book release Malinda and great vlog both of you :D. You actually make it sound so easy, it does give life a feel-good perspective hehe
    Anonymous's picture

    Being Nice

    Being nice and open does attract people for sure.  I hate it when my guy friends' logic to attract women is to be dick.  They have it all wrong.

     

     

    in choosing myself i choose man(kind)

    maggieyeahis's picture

    What's crazy

    about the being a dick theory is I have seen it work several times, it truly is an art form.

    "Come On Then Get These Good Done Debbies"

    Anonymous's picture

    Great Dating Advice

    I will keep that in mind.  I also will add be cool about flirting.  Be classy when going out.

    I'm glad your family is doing fine,Sarah.

    Congrats on your book Malinda! =)

    maggieyeahis's picture

    Thanks for the advice

    love the vlog, glad to have yall back.

    "Come On Then Get These Good Done Debbies"

    Alice Cullen's wife's picture

    Very Helpful

    Another great episode. I will definetly apply to my dating situation....
    JOJOnCoffee's picture

    Hehe

    What can I say? This was..nice..

    :)

    pixiel87's picture

    ....

    I'm liking this series, you guys look like you have a lot of fun making the videos :D Can I ask one tiny thing? Specifics. Be nice - sure. Make them laugh/feel special - all true. Maybe I'm just like this but I need EXAMPLES. Keep up the good work tho, I'm really having fun watching this ... :D
    *Kiki*'s picture

    Thank You

    I love your series, I was waiting all week for it. Its helpful what you ladies are doing, because I am having trouble getting that "real" first date *sigh* or a date at all *sigh again* I'll try to follow your steps.

    Oh...Congrats for your new book Melinda, can't wait to read it. 

    ____________________________________________ 

    "Vivono nella speranza"

    Brutal_Romance's picture

    love the 7-step program

    Love the series, hope you guys manage to get over the 7 episodes limit. AE wouldnt be the same if new vlogs by you guys werent featured.

    I'm so glad my dating days are over, and I landed a beautiful and amazing woman. *knocks wood*. Girls where I come from had this insufferable habit of replacing sarcasm for a personality. not the good kind of sarcasm too. God I just wanted to tell them to bugger off somewhere and build a character. Most girls were such BITCHES!

    *sighs* well, I just relived some horrible dating memories...so..yeah...its off my chest now.

    I think kindness does really go a long way, if you dont develop relationships or interests, you can develop good friendships. people should learn how to be kind and respectable to each other nowadays, its a lost art!

    Eric A,'s picture

    love it

     

     Femme flirting is very different. and is sarah asked most def give her my phone number lol =)

     

    Namaste

    Dark Child's picture

    I'll be nice and say.....

    I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!! I can say that to you, but you don't want to say that the first time you meet someone! Ha!
    spotticus's picture

    excellent advice

    I am so glad you guys are back, even if only for a short run.  Hey, here's an idea.  Why not give us some instructional role playing demonstrations regarding the dos and don'ts of lesbionic dating?  Hah!
    Tanni21's picture

    Sarah Pecora

    If only she has a twin!  OMG, she is fiiiiiiiiiine!.  I love these dating tips and I can't wait for the next one.
    Tanni21's picture

    Sarah Pecora

    If only she has a twin!  OMG, she is fiiiiiiiiiine!.  I love these dating tips and I can't wait for the next one.
    Lidia's picture

    amazing

    I love how all advices can work in all kinds of social situations. Not just for dating, but for ordinary nice talk. Thank you.
    Harry's picture

    tweeds medear

    oh but how to pull the fellow dog walker who's clearly out of your league i.e high brow and financially,

     i suppose i could lay the cards down and tell her I'd be her bit of rough..... I've only ever pulled when drunk, eak that's not good, so it's a totally new situation for me.

     Great vlog, the only depressed people in bars here are old yarkshire chaps propping up the bar. Champion. 

    albi123's picture

    How long have you been in

    How long have you been in this field? You seem to know a lot more than I do, I’d love to know your sources!

     

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