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Tila Tequila takes a shot for the team

MTV has finally coughed up more information about its new Bachelor-style reality dating show that we told you about back in June in Best. Lesbian. Week. Ever. At the time, all we knew was that the producers were looking for some 21-and older lesbians who wanted a chance to hook up with a "fresh out of the closet Maxim model."

Now we know the name of the show, the name of the model, and the rules of the game. Brace yourselves. A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila, premieres October 9.

What? You say you've never heard of Ms. Tequila? She's only the biggest myspace.com phenomenon Of All Time. And she has way more "friends" than you too, like two million more. For real. Oh yeah, and she's bisexual. Whoops! They forgot to mention that middle part in the initial casting notice.

Yes, that's the big twist on the old dating show nugget. A Shot at Love has 16 straight men and 16 lesbians all vying for her attention. Every episode will end with a "dramatic ceremony unlike anything you've ever seen before." It's all so very Three of Hearts, I hardly know what to do with myself!

Sound exploitive? Au contraire! Tony DiSanto, executive vp series development and programming at MTV, says of this new venture, "Tila Tequila made a name for herself by doing things her way, captivating legions of fans online, both men and women. Now she is taking that attitude and sex appeal to her own TV series where she is looking for a mate -- by again captivating a group of both men and women. The show is a roller-coaster ride of drama, conflict and emotion, busting stereotypes and challenging the norm."

I'm not sure which stereotypes are going to busted by A Shot at Love. I don't think it's the "anything that moves" stereotype, or the one about lesbians "competing" with straight men for women. Maybe they mean the stereotype about lesbians being morally superior and therefore immune to looking just as ridiculous on reality dating shows as straight people. Yeah, it might be that one.

What Tila have to say about all of this? In an announcement posted on her myspace page yesterday, she wrote:

"My show is about finding true love, because for me....having over 2 million friends is cool but sometimes it makes it hard for me to find someone real, and someone whom I can trust and love.....but there is a catch.....the show will be about me finding love as a BISEXUAL!!!!! THAT IS CRAZY RIGHT? ... the only twist is that these guys and these girls have NO IDEA that I am bisexual and that they are competing against each others sexes!!! GUYS AGAINST GIRLS....WHO WILL I END UP HOOKING UP WITH????? WILL I BE STRAIGHT OR LESBIAN IN THE END?????"

It's a question for the ages, really.

Lest you think she's just in it for the publicity (and, you know, the love of her life) Tila tells us, "NOBODY IN TELEVISION HISTORY HAS EVER DONE SUCH A GROUNDBREAKING SHOW AND I AM HAPPY TO BE THE ONE TO PAVE THE WAY TO OPEN UP PEOPLE'S MINDS ABOUT THE LESBIAN AND GAY COMMUNITY!"

That's right kids, she's doing it for us. I mean, SHE'S DOING IT FOR US!!

And that's all the permission you should need to tune in without (much) guilt.

Kacey32's picture

Figures....

I like the whole idea of the show - but once again we're seeing the whole 'bisexual' thing.  I will be shocked if she ends up with a female - unless there's money involved if she ends with the woman.  When will we see the lesbian bachelorette show??  Sorry i'm just tired of the whole bisexual thing...its like it's the new color of the season! 

Of course a woman would want to be with another woman...they just dont end up with them longterm (bisexuals). 

Just my humble opinion....

piato's picture

"Of course a woman would

"Of course a woman would want to be with another woman...they just dont end up with them longterm (bisexuals)."

nice 

baby_astrolab's picture

Really now? I don't, do

Really now? I don't, do I?

 

Well, I guess that means I was hallucinating during my very real, very meaningful, relationships with women. Obviously I spent the entire time just waiting for The Right Man.

 

yeah.

 

 

 

...and by this I don't in any way mean to say that this woman doesn't appear to be completely tiresome, and perpetuating ridiculous stereotypes.

I mean that it would be good to realise that stereotypes are all they are.

Dorothy Snarker's picture

Tequila: breaking ground, causing hangovers

I’ve officially rolled my eyes at this so much they’re in danger of popping out of my head. Snarktastic reporting, Karman. I must now go roll my eyes some more.



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Nea's picture

WTF?

I don't think it's humanly possible for me to roll my eyes any longer.

 

Excellent report, Karman.

 

 

Pyewacket's picture

WILL I BE STRAIGHT OR LESBIAN IN THE END?????

Yeah, that's how it works - you pick one or the other.

<insert eye roll here>

The only circumstance that would lend itself to me actually watching a single eppie of this show is if I am up late one night...cannot sleep...and all the other cable channels are trying to sell me some product I could care less about...then and only then might I watch.

cosmiccowgirl's picture

Are you kidding me?

I can't believe no one wants to watch this. This is the only reality show I've ever felt the least bit of interest in. It sounds skanktastic.
dypole's picture

Seriously.

After seeing the lesbians MTV found for their show NEXT, I feel like this Tila Tequila show is going to be trashy enough to turn into a guilty pleasure.

Also, her fake last name is Tequila! How could you not want to watch the show knowing that?

"Out of the box is where I live." -Starbuck

Doc McG's picture

Dear gods

karman, please say you'll recap this. Pretty please?

 

retch

Vee's picture

Meh!

Meh!

 

I shall pass.

 

 

KineticStillness's picture

Eww...I feel like I just

Eww...I feel like I just caught a disease just looking at her picture!  I can't even picture the reject level of the lesbians that would try to date this skank.  I hope the entire lot of them walk off the show the minute they are introduced to their blow up doll of a potential paramour. 

 

And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.  - Nin

Nea's picture

You have NO idea how much I

You have NO idea how much I agree with your comment!
sapphist's picture

I would like to see recaps

I may be in the minority here, but this is the first les-bi reality dating show.  I think it's worthy of weekly recaps....at least for the first few episodes.  Who's with me?

Ana619's picture

yea...

i probably will watch this show. well, at least until the men start trying to "turn" the lesbians once they realize that tila tequila is only in it for herself. bi now... oops *bye  :D
Hyperbole Cupid's picture

Real Lesbians Rock!

I'm with you I would love to see, Karmen,Jill,Dara TORCH this show.I have nothing against Bisexuals, I mean if you like it, I love it, but why do I have the feeling that this is geared towards that male fantasy with the lonely lesbian sitting in the corner
Nea's picture

Jillie, Dara and Karman

Jillie, Dara and Karman would have a frigging field trip torching this skankfest.

 

 

 

I'd love to watch!

 

 

!YEAH!'s picture

I mean, I would probably try

I mean, I would probably try out for this show...

 I wonder how much of a skank that makes me..

kat's picture

durrtyyy

this looks really interesting...she is actually from my neck of the woods. yup thats right she grew up in texas and she's somewhat of a local name. i will definitely check it out!
Melissa Hsu's picture

*Cringe*

With MTV shows there's always a catch.. and this one has three catches:

1. It's Ms. Tequila from MySpace :/

2. Bi

3. Straight Guys

I would be shocked too, if she ends up with a girl. All in all, like most have mentioned this is going to be trashy.

"I never knew a love
A love that could be sweeter
No matter what my mind says
Your music gives me fever"

-iio "Is It Love?"

Shiznortizny's picture

ooooh boy

ooo this sounds majorly skantastic and horrible

so you know what that means?

i'm gonna watch it

for the same reason i watch flavor of love and i love new york because it's the most entertaining garbage that i can't stop watching

someone...please help me stop, it's like a disease that has taken over my body that i cant find the cure for...but i dont really want to either

*sits and waits for i love new york 2* 

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"Valentine's Day's coming? Aw crap! I forgot to get a girlfriend again!"- Fry

Nea's picture

o.O

I'm already embarrassed for everyone involved.
Melissa Hsu's picture

Remember: Dismissed?

Didn't MTV try the whole lesbian/bi/Gay guys dating thing on Dismissed? Gosh I have not watched that in years.. But from what I remember of it.. I don't think it worked properly..

Like someone mentioned somewhere above.. that it's about guilty pleasures.. which is what this show will end up as.. not to mention probably make our "team" look really bad and down right blah.. I dunno, I just wished they stuck to just a girls thing rather then involving guys.. I am not a bi hater or anything, but I believe for once they should start respecting things like this and actually try and do a good dating show.

I guess MTV isn't ready yet for that, and must involve twists and predictable catches.

Has anyone also seen that one show about staying the weekend with you ex while the current bf and gf you're dating spies in another room? I saw this show when I was in the States on my vacation and I could not believe that MTV are putting up shows like these.. it's like mini version of Temptation Island.. except you're dumped cause you couldn't last 2/3 days without your current bf/gf [well sometimes].

sorry, i dunno where i am going with this.. I guess I wanted to see an actual average, normal, person who is recently out and wants to find someone, but having Tila on the show just goes to show that MTV doesn't make great decisions/executions.

"I never knew a love
A love that could be sweeter
No matter what my mind says
Your music gives me fever"

-iio "Is It Love?"

playthemusic814's picture

Dismissed

I remember what you're talking about. It was usually a breeder thing but, they had "a very special episode" once that involved a bi girl. She went on a date with two guys one day and the next day went on a date with two girls. Funnily enough, she chose one of the ladies in the end.

It actually wasn't bad television. Mostly because the dater-girl seemed really sincere, and sweet and genuinely curious.

As for A Shot at Love, I'm on the fence. I think that I'm obligated to watch the premiere episode. At least, to check out the chicks... that aren't Tila. 'Cause... eww.

~It means pride.~

Melissa Hsu's picture

Really?

That's something I probably missed out watching on MTV.. but there was one epi where this girl who just came out the closet and she went on a date with this very out girl and this other girl who was quite calm about being out and not aggressive like the other. In the end the recently out girl hooked up with the calmer one. :] It wasn't a bad show, but the rest were blah compared to the very few specials they had on which were more interesting to watch.

LOL I agree with you on the "eww" part ;p

x

"I never knew a love
A love that could be sweeter
No matter what my mind says
Your music gives me fever"

-iio "Is It Love?"

Gin's picture

I'm not sure which to be more embarrassed about...

the fact that my nephew is one of those 2 million odd myspace friends, or that i would LOVE to read recaps on this!

 

Buy the ticket, take the ride.

suenami's picture

i admit i used to be one of

i admit i used to be one of those myspace friends... but that was back when she looked like this.. I'M WEAK!

 

Betty's picture

Perfect stereotype

This is an ultimate straight male's fantasy of a bisexual woman: a skanky blow-up doll. I think this show is gonna perpetuate the bi stereotype as much as mainstream movies with psycho/suicidal lesbians.

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""My love life is terrible. The last time I was inside a woman was when I visited the Statue of Liberty."

orangeredsun's picture

 From looking at her

 

From looking at her pictures I can say that at least it looks like she is just looking for just love and understanding.

 

 

“The only thing that the world will not have enough of is exaggeration.”

-- Salvador Dali

Sparkfire's picture

"WILL I BE STRAIGHT OR LESBIAN IN THE END?????"

Yes... because THAT'S what bisexuality is all about.
babs's picture

W T F SHE OF TO BE A

W T F SHE OF TO BE A LESBIAN. FOR ME TO WATCH IT.
Sarah from Chicago's picture

Bleh!

You know, I detest 'reality' TV with a passion ... hell, if I weren't atheist, I'd consider its mere existance a sign of the apocalypse. If this makes me a snob, then so be it, I'm a snob. And up to this point, I really thought I couldn't get more disgusted by the genre.

But what do you know? I was wrong about that. I actually CAN be more disgusted by the genre. Who would have thunk it?

This is going to be a Bad Thing (TM) for lesbians, for women, and for bisexuals. Anyone that actually thinks anyone is going to come out of this with a shred of dignity and respect is just kidding themselves (and I'm not talking about the contestants, they signed their own warrants). 

Not to mention that I'll eat a whole scotch-bonnet pepper if she ends up with a woman. Mustn't pop the delicate egos of the straight male audience, after all. And colour me a tad suspicious of the "freshly out of the closet" designator as anything other than a marketing ploy, or a fashion-statement. She'll end up with a guy, if not now, but whenever she realises the reality of being queer.

I just hope that in not watching it, I can also avoid any and all possible mentions in anything I read online or in the print media. 

The person that came up with the idea for this show should be taken out back and shot. Repeatedly.

ronia's picture

"a tad suspicious"

And colour me a tad suspicious of the "freshly out of the closet" designator as anything other than a marketing ploy, or a fashion-statement.

It is interesting that her decision to come out coincided with the opportunity to star in a reality tv show...

Sarah from Chicago's picture

*nods*

I mean, jees ... wasn't it just LUCKY that a show happened along precisely at the time she was coming out? Wow, wish I could have been that lucky (not). If I were a cynic I'd say that this might have just been done for the money.

Good thing I'm not cynical, eh?

 *snort* 

This is going to make lugs/bugs look genuine. 

Dr. Gloria Nathan's picture

Why is she automatically labeled a skank?

I am also one of TT's "friends" on myspace. I don't understand why she is automatically labeled a skank. If the show was purely about her finding love with another woman, would she be a so-called skank then? I highly doubt it. I probably won't watch because MTV is just pure sh** but it should provide a lot of potentially hot moments. Who knows.
KineticStillness's picture

"I don't understand why she

"I don't understand why she is automatically labeled a skank."

Her pictures and her words.  Her definition of bisexual.  And, probably if I met her, every other single thing about her.  If she comes across as anything more than a skank on the show I will be shocked.  And, no, I am not expecting to be shocked at all.

Do you know something we don't?  Is she all virtuous and wholesome in direct contrast to every picture and every word she's ever muttered?  Uh huh.

And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.  - Nin

KineticStillness's picture

Ha.  I just googled her

Ha.  I just googled her (and now I need a bath!) and you can just disregard anything she says as adding to her skankiness because it's completely unnecessary.  Just do a google image search but make sure you have the adult content filter off!  She is the definition of skank.   

And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.  - Nin

Dr. Gloria Nathan's picture

so only wholesome and virtuous girls are worthwhile

No I don't know anything you don't about this girl. I like her personality though. I am all for skanks. They are needed in this world to counteract the prudes.
Blah's picture

am i the only one who thinks

am i the only one who thinks tila tequila is hot????

personally I'm sick of everyone judging bisexuals. sure, there are a few out there that give the rest a bad name, but all of them aren't like that. A lot of people are genuinly bisexual.

Vee's picture

Yes!

"am i the only one who thinks tila tequila is hot?"

 

I'm afraid you're flying solo on that one.

Dr. Gloria Nathan's picture

no you aren't

I happen to think she's hot too. She's not beautiful but she's hot. If she was a full blown lesbian would she still get bashed the way she is? And please don't tell me no lesbians go around looking like Tila Tequila because all one has to do is take a trip down to West Hollywood on a Friday night and you will see them live and in person. Wholesome girls are boring, IMO.
XxMuahzxX's picture

LMao

Tila Tequila isnt ugly but the fact that everything about her screams I've been around the block way too many times makes her unattractive and her comments about her show..arent saying much for her personality as well.. I duno but personally I like a girl with just a lil bit of I dont know.. ~naturalness~ about her, and that she is lacking dearly
Alanna's picture

I wouldn't mind if she was shot on second thoughts...

Just kidding. Violence is bad kids. 

But as for you Karman, once again you are my hero for your inspirational sarcastic ways:

"I'm not sure which stereotypes are going to busted by A Shot at Love. I don't think it's the "anything that moves" stereotype, or the one about lesbians "competing" with straight men for women. Maybe they mean the stereotype about lesbians being morally superior and therefore immune to looking just as ridiculous on reality dating shows as straight people. Yeah, it might be that one. "

And, to echo the opinions of others before me:
PLEASE start vlog recapping of this show once it starts! I will love you forever?

And if my unconditional love isn't enough, I'm sure I can always bake cookies/buy you candy for your efforts (granted, they may be stale after the trip from Austalia, assuming of course that they pass customs undetected. But hey beggars can't be choosers.) And if that isn't enough... then I suppose I might even beg if nescessary?

Pleasepleaseplease?

Melissa Hsu's picture

That'd Be Awesome

If the "We're Getting Nowhere" team recapped this.. I'd watch the vlog's instead ;] and the re-enactment would be hilarious.

But more importantly, talk about "do's" and "don'ts" of each epi.. for women who are recently out or trying to come out. It'd be like "what to do when you're recently out" or something. It'd be more like an advice then anything else.

"I never knew a love
A love that could be sweeter
No matter what my mind says
Your music gives me fever"

-iio "Is It Love?"

Alanna's picture

Hilarious is an

Hilarious is an understatement I'm sure lol.

Just think of the hilarity of Karman dressed up as Tila...
*laughs out loud at own mental image*

...Now THAT I'd like to see hehe!

"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative" - Oscar Wilde

Dhanu's picture

hey...

She is sexy to me...lol  

Even if she does come off as Skankalicious 

"You motherf---in' liar! F--- you, you lyin', lowdown, nanny-f---in' motherf---er"- Kit porter

"You can take it or leave it, but I'm not going to change, not for anyone."-Christina Aguilera
Melissa Hsu's picture

I just threw up..in my mouth...

 First and foremost Ms. Trashy Tequila is not attractive in any way,shape, or form. Regardless if she was famous well I say "infamous"or not I would say the same thing, how can she expect any human being in their right mind to take her seriously? Aaaaand the whole "Bi-sexual" thing is soooo played out, MY DEFINTION OF BISEXUAL is>>>>>>GREEDY. There is a difference betweem being sexy and just down right skanky! Needless to say Tequila fits into the last catergory. Presentation is everything and she presents herself as a "Part-time Hoe"...

(rolling my eyes and gagging at the same time)

she's soooo pittiful...the end

 

 

 

 

 

" I would say I'm sorry for dissapointing you...but the truth is I'm not"

 

 

 

mice's picture

"Sorry i'm just tired of the

"Sorry i'm just tired of the whole bisexual thing...its like it's the new color of the season! "

"Aaaaand the whole "Bi-sexual" thing is soooo played out, MY DEFINTION OF BISEXUAL is>>>>>>GREEDY"

Wow. those are some pretty broad generalizations. I'm trying to imagine what the reaction of the commenters on here would be if you replaced "bisexual" in those posts with "lesbian".

Not that I think this is going to be a good show, based on the airheadedness of Tila Tequila's quotes in the blog, and the premise of the show (since MTV seems to be setting it up as "lesbians vs. straight men"). Though I might watch it anyway, to see the train wreck.

Melissa Hsu's picture

Well Honestly...

Well honestly if it were a "lesbian" and not a "bi-sexual" staring on the show theennnnnnn I would be all for it...call me ignorant if you please. I don't like bisexual women...BUT that's just my personal preference...bye bye now " I would say I'm sorry for dissapointing you...but the truth is I'm not"
StarFire's picture

When I read this I couldn't

When I read this I couldn't believe it. Big shocker for me because I'm listed as a friend of Tila Tequila on myspace and bought her single (guilty pleasure). I had NOO idea she was bisexual. It's great that she's doing this show. I don't watch TV but I think I'll be watching this.
Melissa Hsu's picture

Wow...

First off - I know we're all for visibility and everything but I value reputation more. I rather have no show at all than one that will perpetuate some frat boy's wet dream. It pains me to watch straight skanks - lesbian skanks will just be worse because there are people out there who will believe ALL lesbians are like that. And if you DON'T think that the girls (including Tila herself) will be portrayed as skanks then obviously you've never seen a reality show. MTV (who launched Logo by the way) is really disappointing me on this one.

Secondly - the ignorance against bisexuality is disgusting. Just because you don't prefer something or understand something does not mean it is discredited in any way. I used to think this place was a safe haven for everyone. But this is not the first time I've been wrong. There is just as much ignorance within this very community as there is out in the "real' world. I don't know why I assumed it'd be different.

Next time you want to speak out against someone or even a group of people - imagine yourself in their shoes before you open your mouth. What goes around, comes around and you will reap what you sow. And even if you don't believe that - then believe in being a decent person who will set a good example for others in hope that they will follow.