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Recognized or not, lesbians rock themed weddingsWhen I was a child, I remember telling my mother that I would “absolutely never” get married or have children. She told me that my opinion on the subjects would change as I grew older, but who knew that when I did get older and fell in love, I couldn’t get married anyway — not even if I did change my mind. Weddings are a touchy subject for many gays, and rightfully so. While some hope to legally marry their partners sometime in the not-so-distant future, others swear off the tradition as heteronormative and want no part of it. After yet another heartbreaking loss with Maine’s Question 1 this week, one might think we gays are ready to step back, take our civil unions where we can get them and let this country treat us as second class citizens forever. Not so much.
Bigots from the National Organization for Marriage can throw their dirty money around all they want, but they will not break our spirit — and most certainly will not prevent us from having a big, themed, lesbian wedding whenever and wherever we want. Just ask Anli and Laura.
The lesbian gamers were wed in September in New South Wales, Australia, where gay marriage is illegal — but that didn’t stop them. The wedding was based on the video game "Portal" and the anime series Revolutionary Girl Utena.
“We incorporated lots of geeky details, from the table names (Revolution, Sierra, Katara and GLaDOS) to the choice of music,” Anli told OffbeatBride.com. “We also kept several traditional elements such as bouquets, dresses and bridesmaids. However, we both walked down the aisle unaccompanied and skipped the garter/bouquet toss.”
The wedding was complete with a walk down the aisle to video game music, wedding photos featuring the brides holding Nintendo DS consoles and a "Rock Band" party as opposed to a typical bachelorette bash. Anli and Laura weren’t the only lesbians covered by Offbeat Bride, which features many atypical weddings of the gay and straight variety. The site featured Julie and Stephanie, who were married at the San Francisco Zoo in May (which made for some of the coolest wedding photos I’ve seen).
There's also Laura and Gosia’s garden weddingin Portland, which involved a soccer match that would determined which of the ladies changed her name.
We don’t need a law to tell us who we love and we certainly don’t need permission to have a way better wedding than most. A wedding may not be in my budget anytime soon, but I really hope to be invited to a badass theme wedding sometime soon. What about a lesbian vampire wedding? Or a badass rockabilly wedding at a bowling alley? I came across photos from Jessica and Nik’s Philadelphia wedding a few months back and cannot stop swooning.
Where do you stand on theme weddings — or would you rather not talk about the whole marriage thing for a while? Submitted by on November 4, 2009 - 4:00pm. |
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LMAO, a soccer match that
LMAO, a soccer match that would determine which of the ladies changed her name? I'm so robbing that idea. Well, I'd change to a less dangerous sport, like Netball. Anyway, great article, made me smile :)
Netball as the less dangerous?
Yeah, You've got a point. I
Yeah, You've got a point. I did brake my nose and finger in Netball once, those girls can be so mean. A drink off to decide who has the kids? That seriously just made my day.
It's only practical
haha i was
The geek wedding is so cute!
awww.
Video game wedding????
Aww
OooooMG!
Ah! As long as I have access to a computer I visit AE & Offbeat Bride every day! How could I ask for more than a double whammy!? *squeeeees*
I'm in love!
Squeeeee!
Ew.
Classic theme
Okay, it wouldn't really be a theme as cool as the ones mentioned. But I think that if I ever get married I'd go for the classic theme. Me in a suit, her in a dress, with all the traditional stuff (except for the two women of course). And not to forget the bachelor(ette) parties! I think I might even do a church wedding too, there's no limits in the Netherlands :)
And to decide the names I do like the idea of a match of some sort, but I'd go for something funny like one of those sumo matches in those big puffy sumo-suits.
I'm totally with you on the
I plan on going all out for
I plan on going all out for my wedding day (not that its any time soon lol)
I would use most of the old traditions but tweak them a little, I mean hell if you are gonna do something that so many people dislike anyway why do it to their standards...
I'm such a typical woman I can't help but dream about getting married lol
The Vampire Lesbian Wedding...
Was suppose to be mine... *cries* I had designed the dress and started looking for little wedding details... but we broke up a year before the intended date (August 2009)
I am a little anti-wedding now though I still have hopes to be with that one girl who would also love the vampire themed wedding one day - complete with blood vows....
Props for the Australian gamers. The DS thing was so geeky, I had to show all my friends. Traditional weddings are cute but that's a day that shoud be all about the brides' personalities. (^__^)
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Utena Wedding!
Portal and Utena!
*fangirls*
So cute/cool! All of them are.
I'm now going to harbor a secret wish that my wedding will be similarily themed as the first one.
Lucky Star perhaps?
Lucky Star themed wedding!?
Will one person cosplay as Konata/Haruhi and the other as Kagami? And chocolate cornets will be served? Teeehheee.
You know, those Badass Rockabillies....
Hey, that's us! Didn't expect to see that when i was going through my feeds... Thanks for including our wedding! North Bowl really went all out for us - and if anyone in the Philly region is thinking about doing up a wedding where they don't have to worry about guests getting bored, don't think twice about giving them a shout. We couldn't have asked for a better time!
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hahah Utena!
hahah Utena! Darn i missed that girl...
yeLyah!
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beach wedding
I never really thought about getting married. If I were, I would probably have my wedding on the beach and everyone must wear fancy beach clothes (white) and no shoes.
UTENA
maybe I'd like...
Maybe I'd like a Gothic-Transylvania-esque styled wedding... haha I don't know... It would be interesting... like the wedding of Marilyn Manson and Dita Von Teese.
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I was SO stoked to see your post Jen!! I'm in the middle of planning two weddings for me and my lovely lady (one in England--legal, yay!--one in my homestate of CA--not legal, still sad) and it was great to see these themed weddings on AE.
For any lady out there who's planning her own lesbian wedding, check out SoYoureEnGAYged too--similar to OffBeatBride, but all gay, all the time! (Plus, I write for them, so I am biased.)