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Lindsay Lohan talks candidly about her breakup with Sam on "Ellen"

As much as I feel I should, being able to look away from the Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson breakup has been hard for me. The drama was too addictive, which is why I was happy to see Lohan sit down with Ellen DeGeneres on her show today to clear the air — so we both can move on with our lives once and for all.

The appearance was a smart move on Lohan’s part, with Ellen being the best possible person to talk to on the subject of public lesbian breakups, and also gave her chance to let people know she was getting back to work.

Lohan, looking very thin but with a seemingly positive attitude, spoke candidly with Ellen about the breakup, which apparently caught her by surprise. Watch the interview below:

Ahh, the avoiding-your partner-in-hopes-they-will-notice something-is-wrong-and-end-things-first-strategy? Been there, Sam — not the best move. Despite the drama surrounding the big, breakup night, Lohan told Ellen the two were still friends.

Ellen also opened up about her tumultuous public breakup, presumably with Anne Heche in 2000, which was all leading up to one thing — Ellen's attempts to have Lohan look at how involved she is with aiding the paparazzi in their quests to find out personal information about her (via her Twitter, MySpace blogs and other interviews), and how she could help herself not be so public.

Maybe I’m a sucker, but the interview charmed me and I (along with Ellen) wish Lohan the best. It’s clear that she is not over Ronson, which prompted Ellen to ask if she thought they would get back together.

Ellen was very encouraging, and when Lohan said “you’re gonna make me cry” I understood why. Going through a heartbreak publicly has to be brutal, and I think — despite what many tabloids are reporting — she is handling it in a positive way.

It did seem like Lohan was following Sam around, sitting in clubs online waiting for Sam when she could have been furthering her own career — haven’t we all been there? Sacrificing parts of yourself for a relationship happens, but when it goes too far you have to stop and wonder why. I can’t help but think Lohan was avoiding getting her career back on track because she was happily distracted in her relationship. While I would honestly like to see them get back together (come on, they were cute!) I think her plan to focus on herself first is a good one.

And if I go through a bad breakup again, I hope Ellen can talk some sense into me. She’s good at it!

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  • Pyewacket's picture

    I have been feeling bad for Lindsay.

    My mom has been feeling bad for Lindsay...mom even brought Lindsay up and saying she is in a bad place and needs someone to help her...before I said a thing.  lol  Mom is cool like that.

    So I was glad to see Lindsay on Ellen and am hoping that maybe Ellen will take her under her wing and watch out for her and help the sistah out.

    I have no idea what went on between Lindsay and Sam...and really don't want to know...I just want to see Lindsay get herself and her career back on track.  I don't think her talent is a fluke at all...but she seems to need a rock solid foundation in her personal life for herself...no matter who she is in a relationship with.

    alex's picture

    aw

    im really glad lindsay did this interview. and ellen was great about it, being totally supportive while gently encouraging her to just lay low a little. ive never stopped being a lilo fan, and this interview reminded me why. oh, and her reaction when ellen asked if theyd get back together? i think my heart caught a little. we've all been through this, and it cant be easy. and if she and samantha end up together again, maybe it wouldnt be the worst thing, but im glad she commented on how when you're with someone, it's easy to forget who you are sometimes. im a huge believer in being happily independent, and it's really nice to see Lindsay back on track and being so positive.

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    Michie87's picture

    Ahhhh shes terribly skinny

    Ahhhh shes terribly skinny O_O..did I feel a bit of hostility? or was it just me?Maybe extra care is more like it though right? -pardon me Im having a monolgue haha- Lol. And I agree with the person above me, that question about them getitng back together, I went oh uh. I Love LiLo though! sad to see her going thru all this, ill always be a fan no matter what :D 

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    hammy_mac's picture

    bless...

    good on Lindsay to go on ellen and to hear her side and to hear her say that she is accepting that things need to change and to focus back on her career. It's been far too long not seeing her in a good movie. By the sounds of it the majority of people are wishing her health, luck and positivity - so is it only the tabloids and press who are trying to make her look like some total car crash and how bad she's doing everything? Just goes to show how messed up the press can be, if only we could do just one mahoosive clean up and portray nothing but positivity, happiness and goodness...if only.

    Now off subject - How weird do Linsday's legs look in that still!?! Frickin freaks me out, how does her foot do that...first thing I noticed but thought I'd watch the clip first lol. Anyway - good to see her getting back in the groove - let's hope that film is a good one!!

    Sicily's picture

    lindsay!

    I really like Lindsay, I hope she does get back to work, doing some fun, breathtaking movies. She is bloody talented. I dunno if i should believe everything she said to Ellen, but i certainly want to. She made such a good couple with Sam!

     

    Anabella!

    Melissa Hsu's picture

    Dos cosas

    Lindsay needs an out-of-town rebound, and a decent movie role.

    Moleskine dreams

    lamp's picture

    Um...can we say..

    'anorexia'?!

    I don't follow Lindsay and Sam so I've no idea what the 'big, breakup night' involved.. (and I'm not particularly bothered).  Good luck to her though.. I hope she starts eating properly!

    Sarcastically-Honest's picture

    Similar to Britney Spears

    I feel like what's happening to Lindsay Lohan happened to Britney Spears a year ago. Britney was a complete hot mess, but she got her stuff together and made a comeback. Hopefully Lindsay does the same. I want the old Lindsay back.
    cowgal's picture

    Humanity of the celebs

    My heart really goes out to Lindsay. 

    I think that some people let themselves forget that celebrities are people too. They get criticized and slandered, their flaws become their defining characteristics, but they are just people. 

    I also wish Lindsay the best. 

    Nona J.'s picture

    She Made A Good.............

    I agree with Lindsay when she said, "you forget who you are and it starts being about the other person." I hope that she finds the love and support she needs to get herself together.  I think she made a good choice in allowing Ellen to be the person she opened up to. Not because she's a Lesbian, but Ellen is one of those people who seems really sincere and not a host (like many others) who would exploit the situation for ratings. It's obvious, and clearly understandable why Lindsay would be.

     

    "Ok, I'll stop you if you're talking to much, but right now it's not enough."

    ~Ellen

    LMAO....Ellen is so F***ing funny. I love her.

     

    " True enjoyment comes from activity of the mind and exercise of the body; the two are ever united" ~ Wilhelm von Humbolt

    kulhaha's picture

    aww

    Oh.  My.  Goodness.  That was so adorable.  It was like a Momma lesbian talking to a Baby lesbian.  I love them both.  So cute.
    chilaxing's picture

    TALENTED LADIES

    Hahah I was thinking the same thing but you word it better. I was waiting for Linds to be on Ellen and I am glad it happened at this time. Wouldn't mind hearing Sam's side of the story. Best of luck to them both, they are both talented ladies.

     

    Anna's picture

    Good Luck Lindsay

    That's very sweet of Natalie Portman :) I think I recall her being one of those celebs who've said they won't marry until gay people can but I'm not sure. Hopefully she will be able to come back better than ever.
    Banany's picture

    Ya I think she did say that

    Ya I think she did say that actually... i was a big fan of Natalies a few years ago and I still adore her and I think I remember reading that somewhere... she would say something like that, shes really quite amazing... a very good person, and soooo cute! (and soo smart too!)
    lhme65's picture

    For some weird reason, the

    For some weird reason, the moment where Lindsay says she loves Samantha was cut from the version that aired on tv.

    Check out the 4.03 mark on this clip:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9mkYbZSdQpQ

    Anyway, I wish her nothing but the best. I don't think she's received the support she's deserved from the GLBT community which is a real shame. But here we have a 22 year old "starlet" openly discussing her breakup with a woman she states that she loves in an interview with a lesbian host on a syndicated daytime talkshow. Lindsay is blazing her own trail that's for sure.

    I've got my fingers crossed that the rest of this year is going to be kinder to her than the first portion was.

    RavenDenise's picture

    Wow

    Part of me believes that Lindsay wasn't entirely truthful, and Ellen saw right through it.

    Another part of me thinks Ellen is that older aunt you have that's already seen the world is trying to warn you from making the same mistakes.

    The last part of me wishes I would stop reading into gossip. Sigh, shall I start a Gossipers Annonymous meeting?

    lhme65's picture

    While I'm sure she omitted

    While I'm sure she omitted certain things, I think she was pretty much truthful with what she did say (at least from her perspective). It pretty much fits with hacked twitter postings suggesting she didn't know where Samantha was in the week leading up to the party and with Samantha's comments via her lawyer that the enquiries made by her mother and sister about a restraining order were absurd and without any merit as she didn't feel at all at risk.

    I think she's a bit embarrassed about the Us Weekly interview and so glossed over that a little bit definitely.

    RavenDenise's picture

    It's true

    Personally I think she should be the poster child for letting too much out to the public.
    Melissa Hsu's picture

    this

    this interivew made me think shes either sooooo sweet n wears her heart on her sleeve or that she a really good actress n played the sympathy card anyways how do they still talk with a restraing order if some1 did that 2 me ill probably never talk 2 them again

    lhme65's picture

    There was never an actual

    There was never an actual restraining order. Samantha's mother and sister went to enquire about one in a rather overly public manner while Samantha was out of town at a gig. On her return, Samantha was quick to issue a statement saying that the whole thing was absurd, that there was no basis for a restraining order and that she didn't feel at all under threat. Of course by that point all of the gossip sites had run with the story.

    I'm embarrassed I know this much about it for what it's worth.

    RavenDenise's picture

    I know

    The bad part is the more public people are the more stories that sell. The more stories that sell the more Lindsay will be hounded. The more lindsay is hounded the more gossip comes back to us for our hungry eyes. Vicious cycle eh? That's most likely why ellen was hinting that she needs to just hide. Perhaps I'm reading too much into it, eh?
    gidge's picture

    I like Lindsay.

    I don't care if you do or not, that is my honest opinion. She always seem nice and if Britney can come back then so can LiLo. It seems like no matter what she does, she can't win. I think that the tabloids are the scum of the reporting world, so I don't pay attention to them anyway. People should be allowed their own time and I think that everyone should stop being so obsessed with other people's lives and get their own.
    Whitney's picture

    Loved this interview!

    It was very touching. Lindsay's positive attitude but obviously broken heart made me a Lindsay fan once again! The part where she admitted her new spray was named after her and Sam's favorite number was cute too.
    Rachel JW's picture

    Lindsay!

    I've always thought she was beautiful... and she's family so no smack talking family. LOL But I hope she's not doing drugs -- or at least has stopped, because she's looking WAY too skinny.

    -Rachel
    http://www.kissthegirl09.webs.com

    rebelzz's picture

    Lets focus on the positive.

    Lets focus on the positive. This is like the gayest episode ever. Two women, sitting side by side, talking about their girlfriend and ex girlfriends.

    I think the only way to beat that will be Rachel Maddow being interviewed by Ellen. HEH.

    pancreas's picture

    So true! It's nice to hear

    So true! It's nice to hear Lindsay speak positively and Ellen be nice to her.
    IceCreamFillin's picture

    yes!!!

    I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to see rachel maddow on ellen.. that would be awesome.. and then melissa etheridge should be the musical guest.. :)
    Melissa Hsu's picture

    Aww dude :\ so glad to hear

    Aww dude :\ so glad to hear this coming from Lindsay herself and I'm glad there was some good people in the audience cheering too :) love Ellen. And someone mentioned above about her not being entirely honest, well she has the right to not say everything that went on. Why should she spill her guts to a bunch of strangers just to put everyone at ease about HER personal life? she's the one living it. Jeez, this world is insane.
    marcia's picture

    i have never been that in to lindsay

    but I feel for her, I hope that she really is turning over a new leaf. She seem so sad. I think that this is her first real heartbreak and she is feeling every bit of it. I think that she is reaching out to everyone asking for help and I think that we should all not judge her and just wish her the best. I mean this is something that should be privite and she has to go throught it with everyone watch, that can't be easy. I think that it is huge that she can see that she did lose herself in that relationship. That will help her to get back to who she is, and she will get back on track

    But I think that Ellen is giving her great advice and i hope that she listen and take it.

    Lindsey i wish you all the best and believe me when this is all over and you weather this storm, you WILL BE A BETTER, STRONGER PERSON!!

    Ali's picture

    I loved Lindsay since the Parent Trap.

    She is just a fantastic actress but clearly she wasn't acting on the show. I sincerely hope she gets through this and gets herself, and her career, back on track. Ellen was fantastic, a wonderful mentor that we all love to follow. I hope that Lindsay and Samantha get back together, they are quite a cute couple!   

    rusty_tiffany's picture

    i've always liked lindsay

    i've always liked lindsay, despite all the media hype about her. she always seemed like a really sweet, genuine person, and i think she's one of the most talented young actress around, right up there with kristen stewart and evan rachel wood. i feel so bad for her though, she seems so sad about this whole thing and like she's just trying to appear happy to keep the tabloids at bay. she seemed so happy with sam, and if you watch the interview on youtube, she says that she loves sam, which appears to have been edited out. and i love that she went on ellen to talk about it. i think it was definitely the right choice, both from a publicity standpoint and for her personally. and yes, she does look thin, but she's always been skinny, and she just got dumped very publicly. it's not surprising that she looks very thin. it's what usually happens when people break up after a serious relationship.

    i wish her the best of luck with everything, and i'm looking forward to seeing what's next for her career. i'm rooting for you lindsay!!

    cuisine's picture

    the more I heard, the more

    the more I heard, the more confused I get. I mean what the heck is really going on here? but whatever the truth is, is non of anyone's business. so why don't we just leave them alone for a while till they feel comfortable to say anything. shall we??
    Libra's picture

    ...

    It's so annoying that she is everywhere! I keep trying to avoid her drama but I thought why not watching this video here. To me she seems like she enjoys the attention and also playing the victim and it's disturbing that she is an idol!!! Her voice is nice but what's so special about her! I couldn't feel for her at all..I only felt that she can barely talk..like talking is too much effort for a really skinny girl! Obviously I'm not a fan and sorry for being hateful I don't like her kind.
    PandaButt's picture

    I don't know why but I

    I don't know why but I cannot stand her.
    Melissa Hsu's picture

    You are not the only one.

    I have honestly never liked her, and I cannot figure out why. Just something about her bothers me a great deal.

     However, that was touching and a bit familar. The whole big breakup thing. I'm sure most people have had that experience.

     I would not mind seeing Sam's side though. Partly because all I seem to see and hear is Lindsey's side. But also because I'm always drooling over Sam. :)

    hybridstar's picture

    omg...

    she looked so unhealthy... =( I wish she'll gain weight.

    i've always loved Lindsay Lohan, i heart her in "Freaky Friday" and "Mean Girls"
    I wish her the best in her career.

    Leibug's picture

    Looking

    At the pic below she looks healthier than Ronson...how could someone be skinnier than Lindsay?  It happens.
    angela's picture

    dude, i love lindsay!

    i really hope she gets her career going again! not to say i didnt love 'I Know Who Killed Me' cause i did. (c'mon. lohan stripping? YES PLEASE!) but i would like to see her on top again. hollywood is brutal and maybe when she's on top the haters will silence. cause right now all im hearing is how out-of-control she is. so what. just let her live already!

    djdopesic

    IceCreamFillin's picture

     i thought this interview

     i thought this interview was so awkward- like really uncomfy to watch, but you can't stop watching...  

    it would be nice if everytime a lesbian had a break up she could go talk it up with ellen... :)  

    Smagninborg's picture

    I didn't know...

    I didn't know Lindsay has such a deep and rough voice. That makes her even cuter in my eyes. I also didn't know she is friends with Natalie Portman. Well, that is good! I like the idea of the two of them.

    And as everybody said, I think Ellen did a great job. She was kind, she was friendly, she was very supportive and careful at the same time. She really comforted her and said some great and precisely choosed comments on Lindsays and Sams relationship.

    I wish her all the best. She will get through it, even if public breakups are the hardest ones. I'm sure she'll get back on track.

    Hopeless_Savage's picture

    I love her voice o.O The

    I love her voice o.O

    The whole interview seemed very honest. Like she hadn't gone in there knowing what she was going to say. She just talked like she was having a conversation, not an interview on TV.

    That was pretty alright.

    STACIA's picture

    Sexy as hell

    It's a hot combination of smoking and asthma. She can call me anytime! 

     

     

     

    *I need buddies!*

    Ali's picture

    lol

    lol
    The Menstruator's picture

    A bunch of anorexia experts

    A bunch of anorexia experts on this website! Way to set back the feminist movement! Her body is no one's business really.

    And Ellen? Thanks Ellen. You potentially have on the hottest lesbian in history and you are a moron with the questions and the comments. You barely let the girl speak. This interview had no substance or squalor for that matter.

    Thane McAllister's picture

    This Was A Poor Choice...

    okay so i get that Lids wants to clear up some of the "rumors" about her and Sam, but this was brutal to watch! I mean, blah. Ellen shouldn't have let her come on; it wasn't funny AT ALL, and i felt like Lids just did this to get some face time. She didn't even promote anything (other than "some projects in the works")! She should just go on a vacation or something cause she looked lost and confused...

    ***No, you came out wrong...shut it DOWN!***

    Melissa Hsu's picture

    I agree

    If Ellen wants to mentor this girl she do it in private. Why doesn't she invite her over to her house and talk to her there and not have her spill her guts on national tv--they both came off badly. Shut-up already.
    thursday's picture

    Team Lohan

    Awh, I like Lindsay.

    She has her faults but so do many people and I kind of like her better for them. Why are people giving either of them crap about the interview. Of course Lindsay wasn't promoting anything - she hasn't produced anything lately. Why should she have to be promoting something for her to go on a chat show? Personally, I get sick of hearing people plug things constantly and actually enjoyed the fact that she was just there to have a chat. Yeah, she might have done it to get herself back on the radar with air time but she needs to revive her career somehow. And considering she never went on TV and came out with the fact that Sam was her girlfriend, I think it was quite brave of her to sit there and acknowledge full-on that they were a couple and that things have been hard. Some of you say it looked 'uncomfortable' - well of course it did! She's in front of millions of people talking not just about a break-up, but a lesbian break-up in a society in which lesbianism is still considered somewhat taboo.

    I'll stop ranting - it's not as if I know the girl...I just find her to be really interesting and believe it or not, down to earth. Not down to earth in the 'rational, grounded way', but in the way that i feel that she's just like any of us - She has problems, makes mistakes, tries to learn...does what she can in each situation.

    I'm her age and I can say I've had my fare share of slip-ups too - It doesn't make you a bad person - you just have to try and learn.

    GATA's picture

    YEAH

    I'm totally convinced that this was a one stone killing two birds kind of thing! This interview was necessary for Linz,,i mean after all the crap that the media is making up of her,, all the info they post about celebrities are like 30% accurate ,,all they do is distort the truth for ratings and money,,and i beleive we all should know that by now!!! I beleive it was great that she exposed her self bravely enough to clarify lies!!people should know,, specially the ones that beleive everything they read on the magazines! and i know that this is her private personal life but her career will always be interferring with that because its hard to keep up with discretion when you are surrounded by liers!!Im happy for her and glad she accepted to face uncomfortability to make some rumor cleaning!this will also help her in her career and i hope so cause she is EXTREMELY talented,, and she knows it too..
    scrabble maniac's picture

    22 is so young...

    i can't imagine myself having gone on that show at age 22. seriously, i was a big time out-of-control party mess! so i have to cut her a break. i do think she is talented. i hope she can take a little vacation and do some healthy things for herself. she needs someone grounded in her life---ellen should be her fairy godmother. lol

    i still hope she will do some gay-friendly project soon.

     

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    Great interview..