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Aubrey O'Day: pop star with a girlfriend or publicity hound?

After the first time ex-Danity Kane member Aubrey O'Day was said to have been spotted locking lips with New York socialite Lydia Hearst, most people likely chalked it up to a lame publicity stunt. But the pop star has continued to make headlines with a speculated same-sex romance (or least camera-ready make-outs).

Last week, O'Day reportedly brought an unnamed woman with her to some high-profile parties, introducing her as her girlfriend and, according to the New York Post, claiming that she was upset about Prop. 8 passing, saying, "We don't need a piece of paper to validate our relationship." And she said her dog, Ginger, was "also a lesbian."

While it's no question that she's getting a lot of attention for this strange sort of "coming out," we shouldn't just take the tabloids' word that O'Day is suddenly "pulling a Lindsay" or "switching teams." Even Fox News has jumped on the "OMG! Another lesbian!" bandwagon. But there have been hints that O'Day has liked women for quite a while.

In August of this year, O'Day took a turn on Broadway as Amber Von Tussle in Hairspray. In an interview with Broadway.com, she spoke openly about her sexuality:

At this point in my life I wouldn't say one way or another what my preference is sexually. The only thing I'm looking for in life is incredible passion and honest love, and if that's with a girl, a guy, a guy that dresses like a girl, a girl that dresses like a guy, whatever the options are on the table, all I really operate on is the way I feel in my heart when it comes to love.

Having been recently kicked out of Danity Kane by den mother P.Diddy (for taking too much attention for herself and away from the group as a whole) it's easy to assume this natural "Show Stopper" is just a fan of attention. But she's also BFF with Daniela Sea, and that certainly earns her some more queer points, you know, if you were keeping score.

Maybe we're just waiting for her to talk about something she's already addressed; so why are some people so skeptical? (It was the dog comment, wasn't it?)

Spill Jill's picture

Um...

...I think my doubt comes from her clear and present addiction to male genitalia.
Damask's picture

Ha ha ha ha

Wow, that comment made me laugh.
Anonymous's picture

Skeptical About An Ex-Dainty Kane's Queer Sexual Orientation?

www.myspace.com/lunakiss7.com

"Maybe we're just waiting for her to talk about something she's already addressed; so why are some people so skeptical? (It was the dog comment, wasn't it?)" -Jaime Murnane

LOL.

I'm not skeptical. I don't even know who she is. If she's a cequeer then more power to her. I'm not surprised if many more follow. I'm waiting one of the PCD ladies to "come out." I'm crushin all  of them so badly.   Behind every group there's a queer in hiding.(I truly believe that). I'm being serious. 

"Speak your mind, be the truth."

iluvpie's picture

interesting

it is interesting that somebody that hardly anyone knows about who is supposedly a "celebrity" and i watched that show making the band and never heard her once utter a bisexual comment or kiss a girl and now all of a sudden she's publicly speaking of this girlfriend when it took months for lindsay lohan to admit she had a girlfriend. i think might be just a publicity stunt.
SunriseShadow's picture

interesting II

It sure is interesting...But though I'm inclined to say 'yeah, whatever' because it's all contradicting, I'll line up the facts (or what would seem facts). First she says her dog is 'also a lesbian'. If so, does she mean she is one as well? But next she says she doesn't care about what gender her partner is. If she were either straight or lesbian, she wouldn't say that. So we know she likes girls, she's BFF with Daniela Sea and she's got a dog. I'm going for, at least, bisexual. ;)

You didn't even take your clothes of, yet you've never looked more naked.

versus's picture

Aubrey although a hollywood skank she cool with me

Aubrey is doing her thing she is a celebrity and she will do what she feel she need to do to stay a celebrity. As far as her being Bi or whatever is not really a surprise or a shocker, because in the first season she was on MTB it was clear to me that she wasn't a straight girl her swagger wasn't straight girl swag. So now she is just clowning with her sexuallity and with how she looks in general. Because when she was on the first season of MTB she was actually delicious but now she looks like a wrecked out skank streetwalking trash ho bag. But I still like me some Aubrey and I was glad she said what she felt to her band and Pdidy its silly p diddy trys to talk to his staff and talent in such a nasty way to him this is how he has to be to have control because he learn that shit from the man. But aubrey has some talent it isnt really singing but she has skills and he is mad cause he cant control it. But why or should we care about her sexuality? 
Joyous's picture

skeptical? yea...

How many young women in the spotlight have "come out" sayin. "I don't want to le labelled. I just want love no matter the gender."  I makes me wary that after one relationship in the spotlight with a gurl, they'll return to the regular run of 15 famous men afterwards. Why can't they just say I'm bisexual or gay.
sitcur's picture

Actually this is not

Actually this is not surprising. She was already seen kissing Socialite Tinsley Mortimer, pornstar Jenna Jameson and Lydia Hearst. The fact that she is into women has been very obvious for the last year or so. I just hope she is really serious about having a realtionship and not just to tiltilate the media a la Jodie Marsh!
ColetteLala's picture

aubrey fan

I know I'm in the minority here, but I like Aubrey. She was the only reason I ever watched Making The Band or bought a Danity Kane CD. I think the band will fail without her and Diddy is a moron, but that's beside the point.

I had an inkling Aubrey liked the ladies when she was hanging out all the time with Jenna Jameson (which was months ago). They claimed they were just good friends, but I always thought they were something more.

Now that I think about it, during Making The Band I never got a "straight" vibe from Aubrey... or maybe that was my minor crush on her messing with my head. I don't know.

She's bi, she's out, who cares? I just want her to be a huge star so Diddy feels like the moron he is. Best of luck Aubrey.

Jaydon's picture

I'm with you

Aubrey was the only reason I watched Making the Band. I don't know why so many people dislike her.
Jaydon's picture

I'm with you

Aubrey was the only reason I watched Making the Band. I don't know why so many people dislike her.
Jaydon's picture

I'm with you

Aubrey was the only reason I watched Making the Band. I don't know why so many people dislike her.
limeygirl's picture

I'm so with you

I agree I loved watching Aubrey on MTB she was funny has personality and can sing and didn't take his BS like the rest of them. Who cares what she does if she is or isn't that's her business!!!
sitcur's picture

You know, thinking about it,

You know, thinking about it, you have to give AOD credit for at least openly saying that she has a girlfriend. At least she does not have a public "boyfriend" while at the same time hiding her girlfriend from the public eye and denying she has a girlfriend. If she genuinely wants to have a relationship then more power to her!  She is young, attractive and is living her life the way she wants!!
Heather Hogan's picture

P.Diddy

Did you call P.Diddy a den mother? Because: accurate and awesome.
Anonymous's picture

Brilliance.

I wish P. Diddy could've been my brownie leader...
Anonymous's picture

Brilliance.

I wish P. Diddy could've been my brownie leader...
Philicia's picture

Maybe, Maybe not, I can't judge

Ok we know this girl is a famewhore but they have feelings too right?  LOL maybe she's just now discovering her sexual identity.  I will have to wait and see about this one, even though I don't really care for her attitude so I won't be keeping up with this one.

We are who we are, love it or shut up.

Eribear's picture

I don't kno if I believe

I don't kno if I believe it...it could be just for publicity...but idk maybe she really is into girls. I can't judge her, whatever it is, i hope she is happy
Stringbeanlover1000's picture

What's in a name

Do you know what you get when you take the middle letters out of danity kane?

d_y k_e....I'm just saying.

mythofthefront's picture

incredible

you've said enough.

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The 4 winged dear with the metal tongue knows what it takes to get things done.

BAS's picture

Is this because she's femmy?

Somehow I doubt that when someone like Danielle Sea brings someone she calls a 'girlfriend' someplace, is seen kissing a girl, and complains about Prop 8, anyone suggests it's a publicity stunt.

I have never heard of her but she sounds to me like she's more out than many people we refer to on this site as out because of the way they live their life.

Ug, it's just the Tila and Lindsay thing all over.  There's few enough out celebrities out there, can't we accept the ones who are willing to make some sort of statement about their non-straight-ness?

Anna's picture

just so you know...

It's pretty obvious now that Lindsay is the real deal and she shouldn't really be lumped with Tila and other wannabes.
BAS's picture

I was obviously not clear

I was not suggesting that Lindsay and Tila were not really queer, I was commenting on the tired-ness of the queer community not accepting femme bisexual women as "the real deal" - I was implying that they were both the real deal, as was this woman.

Anyone who is willing to say "I am bisexual" or "I like girls" or "I am fluid" or whatever is "the real deal" to me.  I realize that is not the case for everyone.

The point was, Lindsay has dated a woman long enough and obviously enough now that it's hard for anyone to deny that she's not straight, but it took a LONG time for that to happen.  People are still shitty about Tila (her show was ridiculous.  She is pretty slutty.  Not a great role model for the bi community or anyone else.  But that doesn't make it impossible for her to be bi.).  And it looks like without giving this woman a second glance most people are willing to write it off as publicity-seeking.

Also I'm a bit sensitive about this right now - a good friend is in her first same-sex relationship after really only defining herself as fluid or open to the possibility, and people are giving her shit and saying she's experimenting.

So what really bugs is not even so much that we say it about this woman, but more that it just is another example of what also happens, more painfully, in real life, to many people.

mythofthefront's picture

good point

"Somehow I doubt that when someone like Danielle Sea brings someone she calls a 'girlfriend' someplace, is seen kissing a girl, and complains about Prop 8, anyone suggests it's a publicity stunt. "

I totally agree with you there. I think we need to cut her some slack.

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The 4 winged dear with the metal tongue knows what it takes to get things done.

Dr. Gloria Nathan's picture

SMH

People want to bash Tila as well but Tila also has a girlfriend. It is quite possible that Aubrey O'Day is a publicity hound who happens to have a girlfriend. I now know why some celebrities don't come out publicly. It won't be the straight community that will tear them down, it will be the queer community.
limeygirl's picture

Wannabes

Tila= plain stupid!!!
ichoosenoise's picture

After reading this, I'll

After reading this, I'll rethink what I said in the other AOD is Out thread. Maybe she's not doing this just for the publicity. I hope not anyway, cuz from this article, looks like she really appreciates women. :D
Amy's picture

PEREZ

interviewed her and she denied that she liked women at all. This was months ago when I saw it, maybe she just wasn't ready to confirm and it is PEREZ after all. I wouldn't tell him anything if I was quasi-famous.
Chilaxing's picture

FUNNY

Hahahaha "quasi-famous".

 

Chilaxing's picture

People may be skeptical of

People may be skeptical of Aubrey just because she wasn't on most gaydars. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. If it is a publicity stunt it'll only last for so long; I don't see in what way it will help her career. Who knows, maybe the "den mother" kicked her out of the group because of this same reason. We all know "the mother" is all about image.

I'm glad that you guys provided this article. Now how about an exclusive interview with LiLo and SamRo?

 

hugAnerd's picture

If you watch the show

I think people who watch Making the Band have a right to be skeptical. It's not that she's too pretty, it's her behavior on the show. Everytime we see her she is involved in some drama and/or seeking the attention of men. I'm not saying she's not bi/gay. Just that her portrayal on the show warrants some skepticism. I think the original den mother that Diddy hired and fired a few seasons back had it right when he told her, "you're just too much."

If you've got some time on your hands, you can check out full episodes from last season on MTV.com.

jordan-writes's picture

Wow...

I must be out of touch, I had no idea that Abrey was kicked out of Danity Kane. I didn't even have any idea that she had become such a sluty looking fame whore. That's too bad.

I had such a huge thing for her when Making the Band 3 started forever ago. But once they finally picked the fianle members after like the second season I stopped paying attention to them and her. But damn she used to be hot. SHe looks a lot different now then she sis back then. At least I think so.

As for her being a bisexual, I would have been delighted to hear that a few years back. But as for now, when I look at it, part of me wants to think that it may be true, while the other part thinks that she is looking at the boost of fame Lindsey is getting out of it and taking it as a good idea. The whole dog thing makes me sort of sick. It just proves she doesn't take it seriously. Unless her dog really is a lesbian, but I doubt it. But her being friends with Daniela Sea... Idk. Its a tough call.