Styled Out: The lesbian stereotype

Yeeeah! Lol. Theres something I find funny, a lot of straight woman are sporting that sort of 'dyke' haircut nowadays  and whats even funnier is that they gat mad when the typical mainstream person confuse them to be gay.... XD. My sister is one of them, she just loves short hair styles, nothing too extreme as the picture shown above, more like an Ellen length kind of haircut?. BUT what pisses her off is that every time we go out together, people mistake us for a couple -which she loves when shes in the mood-  because of the way we act with each other - because apparently I look really really gay haha- so they all turn with those sweet 'awwww' look in their eyes; she pointed it out last time we went to the Ellen show and someone even came up and said 'Oh guys you make such a cute couple' I couldnt help but laugh and said thank you and she went every color there could possibly be with anger. Lmao!. 

I cant stop laughing now xD. But seriously, are they even aware of the confusion they are causing those people with a non existent gaydar? XD 

-okay enough LOL- 

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im guilty of sporting the bandana, for a while.

my hair is curly, crazy and it made my life easier for a while, but yes, it was a horribe thing to do, now the only place im seen with a bandana is in the gym, or if im painting someone's room.

i love plaid shorts, but i like the longer styles better, they're not too dykey too because everyone i know, straight or gay are wearing them.

Well, I'm sorry us 'stereotypicial lesbians' messed it up for the rest of you.

Next time I do my hair I'll be sure to ignore what I feel comfortable with and adhere to the pressure - that up until now I thought was coming mainly from straight media - to 'fit in', rather than be, wear, look like how I want :)

To answer your question, though, I personally don't follow any trends. I tend to go with what I feel confident wearing or looking like. It gets changed up now and then depending on how I'm feeling, but I guess I'll always be one of those girls you can pick out of the crowd and call dyke. As much as that must pain the 'rest of you lesbians' it's not something I'm ashamed of.

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frankly id rather keep my faux hawk and look like a big dyke rather than looking like a Barbie doll clone straight off the assembly line. ... im sorry if my desire to not conform to heterosexual notions of femininity “mess it up for the rest of the group”  or adds to “ the bane of your existence” .. actually on second thought.. i lied. im not sorry. i don’t think anyone should have to apologize for personal style and how they feel comfortable

but if we are all to be taking hints from tegan and sara well then i guess we should all go out and get mullets .. because you know.. mullets aren’t “ dyke” at all right???

(no offense intended to tegan and sara as i love them both and i support their right to choose their own hair)

I'm happy to say I don't wear any of the stuff discussed  (although my shorts are a bit baggier and longer than the ones pictured).

Somehow though everything about me still pretty much screams gay...

This is ridiculous, who they hell cares what you wear and how you style your hair. Surely if you feel more comfortable in baggy clothes, you should wear them, and if you feel you suit short hair you should get it cut. An article such as this is no different from the kind of pressure young girls would feel when reading a teen magazine.

A number of lesbians feel uncomfortable in themselves for a number of reasons, we don't need to be told that the style we choose is gaining us further negativity.

Wow!  Some of us are a little touchy.  As someone who's been out for 24 years now, i can honestly say, that yes, "the uniform's" been around a long time.  I often think it looks best on younger women, almost like a right of passage in their evolution as confident and self-aware lesbians.

I didn't take this story as a slight to anyone but more a suggestion that hey, it's ok to try something different now and then. We won't think less of you.

I have to say though, the women I found attractive all those years ago, sporting the lesbian look, aren't attractive to me anymore. And it isn't because they look like a lesbian, but because it shows me they haven't developed as person or evolved who they are or how they see themselves over these many years. How we dress or groom ourselves is a representation of how we see ourselves.

I had a Mohican in my 20's, short hair through my 30's and a little longer in my 40's. I can gladly say, that I've also tapped into different sides of myself over the years, never discarding any one aspect, jUSt choosing to explore and bring forth another. To me, that's an evolution of who I am, and that's the kind of person I like being with.

The Mohican wearing woman is still inside me, and she may come forth again some day, but for now, I'm expressing another side of myself.  I think this is healthy. Sporting the same uniform for 20 years, to me, isn't.

Being a very style- conscious person (NOT fashion-conscious, style-conscious) these trends don't appeal to me either. Half of my friends wear those baggy shorts and bandanas, and, honestly? I think they're ugly.

That said, I would NEVER tell them that they've "messed it up fr the rest of us" by wearing what makes them happy. I don't think you know what you're saying here.

"Nothing makes one so vain as being told one is a sinner."

~ Oscar Wilde

why weren't the "styles" and "trends" associated with lesbian women of color included?  (same 'ol, same 'ol i see)

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that girl on the top with the faux hawk and business suit is HOT for sporting both. I would be very sad to see either trend end ;)

besides, isn't this kind of like poking fun at more butch/tomboi girls? I <3 the girls who walk in a room and their style screams dyke. hot.hot.hot.

Sporting the T ´n S do, and proud of it ;) Well it's not exactly very original but what the hell - I like it. I wouldnt want to go REAL (ellen) short because I dont feel like I could sport the look w/o feeling less feminine. I'm not of a small size, I have muscles and my hips arent in proportion with my shoulders so having short hair would make me look too manly imo. BUT I dont see a problem there if one wants to sport the short hair. It's a stereotype but I bet you already knew that before going short.

Another stereotype is the sneaker thing. Take Ellen for example, jeans + sneakers +a jacket screams gay to me. And I need to confess I barely own shoes other than sneakers. *smh*

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Dr Marten boots are prolly the gayest thing I wear regularly (like almost every day). I had short hair for a while but missed having it long. I can't say as I'm feeling the plaid shorts, they are awful. But I am drawn to a plaid shirt or skirt.

As for the dressing gay issue, I dress how I like so I really shouldn't judge others for how they dress (though of course I do, most of my mates are faggots and their bithcyness has rubbed off). But I will say that when going out clubbing one does have to try and dress a little gay. For example I went out gay clubbing on sat with my faggots who insisted on dressing me "like a real girl" (ie dress, curled hair, killer heels) and I got zero interest from any women (since I prolly just looked like a fag hag). I wasn't out on the pull anyway but my faggots pulled and I was left with my feet in agony longing for my docs. Being the 5th wheel I left early and went to burger king where I met a bloke who didn't think I looked like a lesbian and was reluctant to believe me. So it goes to show if you put on a dress and heels its easier to pull a man in a take away than a woman in a gay club. Or does it just show its easier to pull a man than a woman?

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I really took the post to be more of a parody than actually being serious. I think she has some cute fashion ideas, but maybe presented them in the wrong way. I agree that there are many stereotypes that the straight and gay communities have about Lesbians and Lesbian style.

The "super butch" stereotype is still pretty common. What other fashion stereotypes have you all encountered?

I think the author of this blog was attempting a funny, tongue-in-cheek look at lesbian fashion...and failed epically, mostly because her writing comes across as more mean-spirited than witty, regardless of the intent. She seems to be suggesting that those of us who aren't attempting to be more "stylish" (read: stereotypically feminine) are somehow hurting the lesbian community as a whole. Because I like wearing mens clothing, I'm bringing all gay women down with me? Wow, I didn't realize that my plaid shorts were WMDD (weapons of mass dyke destruction). I better run to Forever 21 and get myself some tight, stylish capris before I do any more damage to "the rest of us." And to my lesbian sisters who have been personally affected by my clothing choices, I sincerely apologize. ;)

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Stewie: Listen, why don't you save yourself years of sexual ambiguity and get fitted for a pair of Doc Martens and a plaid flannel shirt?

Friends and I were discussing this topic the other day, as well as the brilliantly sarcastic site 'someecards.com'. Wanted to share my ideas for what we call "some L cards":

-That polo shirt you're wearing is quite becoming
-I'm mildly impressed by your ability to fit plaid shorts into any outfit
-That's one of three haircuts I feel is quite popular these days. True or False?
-I really appreciate the way we get together on Sundays to drink so I don't have to be alone
-I actually don't like football - this is just a way for me to hang out
-No it doesn't keep my arms warm. But it looks good.
-Did you get a new pair of flip flops? 

the woman on the top is DANI the super-sexy fire fighter from the Tila Tequila show..... and i LOVE her.  muah!!!

oh, and T&S totally have mullets.  Definitely hip and updated, but still a mullet.....

I had no idea what a stir I would cause by merely pointing out/playfully mocking/attempting suggestions to things that are indeed stereotypically dykey.  I have said this before and will reiterate- I embrace and love all spectrums of the lesbian identity rainbow.  My live-in girlfriend is pretty seriously androgynous and I consider her to be incredibly stylish. 

If you note and push past my pepperd humor, I did say that the most important part of style is to feel comfortable in what you're wearing.  I write a style column.  My job is to tell you about things that I find or do not find stylish.  I appreciate your opinions and realize that you may not always be in agreement about what is stylish, but please be sure that I am in no way trying to offend anyone- whether she be butch, femme or otherwise.  If you don't believe it, please browse my past posts.  I also realize that sarcasm does not always translate as well as I would like when put in writing.

 I don't usually jump in but you guys were getting pretty upset.