AE: That’s right. Way to have morals and no success. Having The Voice in your life, now that you’re more secure in who you are and your identity, wouldn’t you say?
SG: I absolutely do, I think this was the perfect time. I think I am very confident in who I am. And I don’t really apologize to anyone for being gay, and I don’t really care if anyone judges me by how I look. I don’t dress like I do because I want to be seen as a lesbian. I dress like this because I’m comfortable this way. If I could wear like, tight-fitting girl’s pants and stupid girls shirts, man, I would be all over it because my life would be that much easier, but I can’t. I can’t comfortably walk around in those kinds of outfits. And I don’t think it should matter. But still, I’ve seen posts from lesbians, on lesbian websites, that say, “Sarah Golden dresses gay.” Well, guess what. I am gay. I’m sorry. There’s no gay clothing store that I go to. It really is just how I’m comfortable.
AE: Did you ever ask The Voice if being gay was going to be a thing? I mean, have you had any conversations with them as to why this show is so different and inclusive from other reality competitions?
SG: I was very up front with the show and I told them from the beginning that I was absolutely interested in the show for a number of reasons. One, because of the contest not being judged based on appearance. And then, two, because they had so many openly gay folks the last year, I said surely y’all have to be accepting of this. And they said, “Absolutely.”
And I swear to God, ya know, no matter how may times I say, it – ’cause I’m going to look like a paid spokesperson [for the show] – this one show really did give a s–t. They really did care about the performers and their well-being, and their comfort level and I did not feel judged one time, and I haven’t, through this whole ordeal. And they are, they really, and they really do care.
And I’ve been totally open and gay and I can be gay the whole time and everyone just laughs along with it and has a good time and I’ve never felt, ya know, I’ve never felt any kind of discomfort for being gay. And everyone has been so cool and that is something that I cannot stress enough.
I am so appreciative of NBC, even if it’s Mark Burnett and the drivers of the show who are the ones who said, “We should totally allow anybody to be in this,” ya know? I don’t know whose idea it was, but I appreciate NBC for giving the gays a place to be, because, I swear to God, they have made major kudos with the “ten percent of the population that doesn’t exist.”
AE: I know you have been playing since high school and that you have a lesbian following, but what do you want to do after The Voice? Do you want to go on tour, do you want to record an album? What do you hope to get from this show in terms of reaching another audience?
SG: Really, I’m not trying to tie it to being gay, and I swear, my whole life does not revolve around being gay, but so much of my music life revolves around the inability to just be myself. When I’m singing, it’s like reading a diary. Like, being a musician is like reading a diary. And if I can’t read the things in my diary, than it doesn’t fricking matter to do music. Know what I mean?
So, with that said, my whole kind of hope, I love being — it’s just a very therapeutic thing and it’s something that I think I was made to do, and ultimately, I would love to — I have a whole, two albums’ worth of stuff that I have never put out. And it’s because I get stuck between work life and music life, and just making time for everything.
So, ultimately, I’d just love to finish, and I know my fans give me grief about it every year for not putting out a new album. I’ve played the [new] songs at shows, they just don’t have anything to take home and listen to. I think my fans would love if I finished at least one album. That would probably be a good starting point.
And then from there, honestly just just get out there. If there is one other person that I can influence through just being able to play and just doing what I like because it’s fun, and some kind of positive effect it has on anyone who’s getting bullied or hated or whatever, and if it makes that person have some sort of hope, I swear, that would be the icing on the cake for me. I don’t want to be a bajillionaire. I sing folk. Let’s be honest; that’s not a very popular genre. But yeah, just knowing that I got my chance and I was able to get out in front of folks and just do what I love. if I could get paid to do what I love, that would be pretty awesome.
AE: What modern artist do you listen to, or you think you have a similar sound or aesthetic to?
SG: People say that I’m a mix between Joan Osborne and Shawn Colvin. I think it’s very true with my stuff at home. It is different, they don’t really have songs that are Joan Osborne meets Shawn Colvin, in terms of that [show] list that we go through, so I think it’s a little more rock, where it’s a little harder on the show. But what I do, I think is much more reserved in that sense. I don’t know if that ‘s modern enough for you.
AE: No, that works. And since it’s Valentine’s Day, are you single?
SG: I am not. I’m engaged. Seven-year relationship.
AE: Oh, wow! Congratulations!
SG: Today is my six-year anniversary. But we’re in a tiff right now about whether it’s six or seven years. It’s six, or more.
AE: Well, that’s awesome. When are you getting married? Do you have any plans for it yet?
SG: We’re working on getting that done in the next year or two. We’re in no crazy hurry ’cause this is Texas and it won’t really matter for legality sake. But we will have a big ceremony and a big to-do here. It’s just a matter of finding a place that we like that has some meaning to us. Because the ceremony is really going to be our biggest thing. It isn’t going to be, “Hey everyone! Come to our wedding!” at some place. Because it doesn’t matter where we’re getting married. To us, it’s the ceremony that’s going to matter the most. Because we’re not going to legally be able to get married in Houston.
AE: You do have that lesbian mayor.
SG: Yeah, we do. I won’t make any comments.